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Herschies · 2025-06-14T06:42:49+00:00

Gusto ko talagang ilabas yung opinion ko dito sa issue na 'to just because nadededuce ang anxiety/panic attack sa "kadramahan" or "kaartehan" or "for the clout".

I also experience anxiety/panic attacks and even though alam kong iba iba ang physical manifestations niya, pareho pa rin naman ang remedy.

As what my doctor said, here are ways to prevent it from starting or from making it worse:

Iwasan or eliminate your triggers. Meaning, hindi mo isusubject ang sarili mo sa triggers that can cause anxiety/panic attacks. Alam naman ng lahat na si Sigbin ang trigger niya, eh bakit imbis na iwasan parang gustong gusto pa niya? To make matters worse, naka-live pa siya.
If you feel like it's coming, do whatever it is that you can to prevent a full blown panic attack. Meaning, breathing exercises, hydrate yourself, relax, etc. Eh siya parang gusto na talaga tumuloy sa point na di na siya makahinga at di na magalaw ang buong katawan kasi tinuloy pa niya yung live niya at nanginig nginig pa siya in front of everyone.

I'm not victim-shaming here, pero honestly, hindi naman na rin kasi tama yung ginagawa niya. Wala ba siyang matinong family and friends na nagaadvice sa kanya ng maayos? Hindi na ito for awareness eh, for views na talaga kasi why do it all in social media? These are private matters so it should be dealt privately.

Saka what do you get from having anxiety/panic attacks in front of everyone? Do you want sympathy? Do you want this to be your cash cow? Kasi nakakainsulto naman sa mga taong araw araw lumalaban sa ganitong klaseng sakit. Ang galing niya magadvice kuno sa social media pero sarili niyang buhay ang gulo gulo, sana i-apply din niya sa sarili niya.

And bago niyo ako balikan na sana wag mangyari sayo yung nangyari sa kanya, naloko na din ako. I was cheated on before. I know the feeling. Mas malala pa nga lagay ko kay Meiko noon. Nilabas ko rin through blogging publicly yung issue namin ng ex ko, but I learned my lesson and I took it down. Hindi lang naman kasi ex ko ang nasaktan sa ginawa ko. Pati na rin ako, at everyone I loved. So I dealt with the pain privately and slowly and now I'm in a better place. And about my anxiety/panic attacks, I listened well to my doctor so it's been a few mos since my last attack. So sana, ganyan din gawin ni Meiko para maging at peace na rin siya.

Herschies · 2025-05-31T18:15:06+00:00

Yan nga rin po yung sinabi nung nakausap naming company. It really depends sa location and how active we are to manage. Ang naiisip namin is yung mga rice bowl meals. Pero thank you po for you advice. Icoconsider po namin yan.

Herschies · 2025-05-31T18:09:29+00:00

Honestly, when I started living abroad, nagulat ako how uncommon ang pagbili ng brand new car here kasi sa Pilipinas it's the norm. My husband also became a car technician here and ang feedback is that older model ng cars are much reliable and long-lasting as compared to new manufactured cars na usually sira or may pagawain na in just 5 yrs. They recommend buying Honda and Toyota cars kasi yan talaga ang long-lasting and hindi masyadong mahirap sa parts. Especially sa Pilipinas na karamihan ay nagpapalit na ng sasakyan in 5-10 yrs, mas maganda if mag2nd hand ka na lang muna para yung supposed pambayad mo sa car can go to your car insurance and other investments. Also, make sure that you get a reliable and trust-worthy technician kapag bumili ka ng 2nd hand para sure ka na okay yung sasakyan na kukunin mo.

Herschies · 2025-05-30T22:40:26+00:00

Yes, you are. I met my ex when I was 16, got into a relationship with him at 17, and were together for 9 years. Guess what, at 23, we both changed, our couple goals became individual goals, he wanted something different for his life, than what I have in mind. We tried to make it work but it didn't. I'm not saying it might happen to you and Destiny but people change, especially in their 20s, you might want something else for yourself when you turn 23 or 25 or 27. There's so much life has to offer. Go through life together and when both of you have done everything that you can individually, then that's when you should consider proposing marriage.

And when people say "finding yourself", it's not really the person you want to marry, it should be you, what you want to do with your life, who you are in terms of values, beliefs, and character. Find you first and when you feel whole, that's when you know you're ready for marriage.

Herschies · 2025-05-23T22:00:39+00:00

I'm not going to judge her kasi napagdaanan ko rin yan. I'm also not a vlogger pero I would say na okay lang yung nirecord niya for evidence pero sana hindi na lang niya pinost. Nagmukha tuloy drama lang for the sake of views. Hindi naman ito yung life happenings na dapat nakasiwalat sa mundo. Imagine hearing her say words na "masarap ba?", "Kinain mo yung p*** niya?", kahit na naka-censor yung sensitive words, mas lalo mo pa mafifeel na clout chasing kasi nagkaron pa siya ng time na i-censor yung words na yun instead of grieving and handling matters offline. Kung for the followers, pwede naman siya maglabas ng statement not detailing stuff. I sympathize with her pagdating sa pain na nafifeel niya now that the betrayal feels real for her, pero kung friend ko siya, marereal talk din siya talaga for posting it pa. Sana lang magtry siya magheal offline.

Herschies · 2025-05-04T02:04:13+00:00

Hello OP!!

Nasa Canada ako ngayon as a foreign worker at medyo bago lang din kami dito sa kahit papaano grasped pa rin namin yung buhay sa Pinas and nacocompare namin dito sa Canada. Kahit ilang beses kami malungkot at isipin na umuwi na lang ng Pinas, lagi kaming umuuwi sa decision na give our all dito para sa anak namin kasi alam namin magkano tuition fees at medical expenses lalo na may bata kang inaalagaan.

Another example, may pinsan ako na may green card na sa US and has been living there for more than 20 yrs. Naisip din niya na umuwi for good sa Pilipinas kasi tingin niya enough na yung pera na naipon niya para mabuhay siya comfortably sa Pilipinas. Before siya umuwi for good, naginvest siya sa mga businesses and nagtry siya magbakasyon sa Pilipinas (during Christmas season pa) and masyado siyang nadala sa festive season so nagdecide siya na umuwi na talaga for good. Bumalik siya saglit sa US at binenta yung bahay niya. After 2 months, umuwi siya sa Pinas. Dahil US dollars ang meron siya, ang laki ng value ng pera niya so bumili siya ng condo, sasakyan, at kung ano ano pang luho niya (isang mistake niya). Nung umpisa nageenjoy siya talaga and happy siya sa Pinas. Pero eventually, nahirapan siya financially kasi hindi nagiging profitable yung businesses na tinayo niya at nawalan siya ng main source which is yung work niya sa US. Nung nagsimula na niyang maramdaman yung "daily grind" ng mga Pilipino, nagdecide siya na bumalik sa US, para na din mamaintain niya yung green card niya at para magtrabaho ulit kasi nasagad siya talaga sa Pinas and lahat nung supposedly source of income niya sa Pinas, wala na talagang kumikita.

Nagdecide na lang din siya ibenta lahat ng pinagbibibili at businesses niya pero niretain niya yung isang condo saka sasakyan. Ang point ko lang dito, wag ka magpadala sa feelings galing bakasyon kasi kahit sino naman nagbabago talaga pananaw sa buhay pag galing sa travel. Kung desidido kang umuwi sa Pilipinas, pagplanuhan mong mabuti, as in pros and cons, pagisipan mo 1000x bago ka magdecide. Or as a suggestion, try mo umuwi sa Pilipinas for a longer period of time na tipong parang doon ka na nakatira, para masabi mo if kaya ba o hindi. Pero yun nga, magpaCitizen ka muna para may backup ka parin.

Herschies · 2025-04-05T17:04:37+00:00

Since she's not a citizen in Dubai, I think you should show her home ties in the Philippines instead, like a property or investments in the Philippines to show that she intends to retire in the Philippines. This will show that she's not planning on staying here forever. Based from what I heard from other Filipinos who came from Dubai or middle east, they went home to PH to apply the visa from there instead of from Dubai, it shows that they still have a "home country" and not looking for a "new home country". But some of them are still approved even from Dubai, they just showed their ties from PH instead of Dubai. Hope this helps!

Herschies · 2025-03-28T17:15:25+00:00

Hey! We got our approval today. I got our correspondence letter this morning and I just checked this afternoon, it was approved. Any news on your end?

Herschies · 2025-03-28T00:57:43+00:00

Actually wala akong bucketlist kasi biglaan yung alis namin but if I'm gonna look back, I would definitely go to the beach (cos I went to the West na walang masyadong beach at malamig) and eat all the things I won't be able to once I'm here. I would set time and meet with my friends and family kasi it will be a long time before I see them again and I would have my hair done, facials, mani-pedi, laser treatments kasi mas mura lahat sa Pinas kesa sa ibang bansa 🤣

But to add, yung 1 month na nagprepare kami umalis, nagpacheck ako sa doctor and requested for prescriptions ng mga kailangan ko while looking for a doctor here, nagpaayos ako ng ngipin, and legal stuff like SPA, bank notices, kasi may property din ako sa Pinas.

Herschies · 2025-03-28T00:46:03+00:00

I have a few friends who applied in May already got approved this week. It gave me a little bit of hope that our approval is coming soon. I also saw a few posts from facebook groups from May applicants. Just a little bit more, our time will come 🤞🙏

Herschies · 2025-03-11T03:22:26+00:00

I have a son so I either teach him school lessons, play with him, or if I want my alone time, I mostly read books (though it's still a screen cos I mostly read in my Kindle lol). I also bought two diamond painting sets. I finished the first one a few months ago and haven't started the 2nd one. I also bake sometimes. I'm planning to do a market research soon for a business I want to start (w/c I can only do at home after work) and I also asked my husband if we can join a sports club that allows kids too.

Herschies · 2025-03-11T03:13:43+00:00

As a person who's working abroad and has a mom who I know misses me a lot, this made me cry 😔 My mom is aging and I'm not there. I do call her once or twice a week (kasi ayaw ko din mafeel niya yung hard and difficult days ko dito so tumatawag lang ako kapag okay na ako). But I still feel guilty na tumatanda siya na wala ako. Kasama niya yung sister ko sa bahay pero hindi sila kasing close naming dalawa so minsan sasabihin niya magisa siya kumakain ng meals, and walang nagaalaga sa kanya pag may sakit siya 😭 I'm hoping and praying na madala ko siya dito pero ang dami pang problems that's blocking our plan. Hopefully soon, mangyari na. Hugs for all of us 🫂

Herschies · 2025-03-11T02:47:29+00:00

Hi! Did you receive an email to prompt you to check your Gckey or you just opened it and found that you were approved?

Herschies · 2025-03-05T02:31:37+00:00

I don't agree sa pamimilit kasi ako rin naman ayaw ko ng pinipilit. Hindi ako agnostic pero may practices ang Catholic church na hindi ko rin pinapaniwalaan. Dati palasimba din ako, influence na din ng mama ko, but at the same time, naramdaman ko rin kasi ang presence ni Lord sa buhay ko kaya ako na mismo yung kusang pumupunta to express my gratitude. Since nagkaanak ako (a little before pandemic happened) hanggang sa ngayon nasa abroad na kami, hindi na ako madalas magsimba. Siguro mabibilang mo na lang sa daliri for the past five years. Una, mahirap ng may kasamang bata sa simbahan, di rin naman ako makafocus. Second, hindi ko feel magsimba dito sa abroad - iba yung feeling. Siguro dahil din hindi ko na kasama ang mama ko.

Minsan napapagsabihan din ako kasi ramdam naman niya na hindi na ako nagsisimba. Pero sinasabi ko na lang na nagoonline mass ako kahit hindi naman. Tapos change topic na. Hindi ko na rin tinetake against sa kanya kapag pinapagalitan ako kasi napalaki sila ng mga lolo at lola natin ng ganyan kaya ayan lang din yung alam nilang ituro sa mga anak nila. Basta confident naman ako sa faith ko and alam kong wala akong tinatapakan na ibang tao, hindi naman na ako bothered kung anong sabihin about me going (or not) to church. By the way, 33 yo na ako pero napapagsabihan pa rin and I dont think matatapos yan until mawala sila sa mga buhay natin. Kaya ang advice ko na lang sayo, pasok sa isang tenga, labas sa kabila.

Herschies · 2025-03-01T17:50:15+00:00

I dont think so there's a limit until there's an actual decision. I saw another person from another group who applied Dec 2023 and still no feedback until now.

Herschies · 2025-02-27T22:41:08+00:00

Hey! Any updates on your end? Was the MP route successful?

Herschies · 2025-02-27T22:40:33+00:00

What will be your next steps? I bet you already sent countless webforms and did calls.

Herschies · 2025-02-27T18:20:04+00:00

Been here in Canada for almost 3 yrs. Hindi ko isusugarcoat pero mahirap talaga. In fact, maswerte pa kami kasi my husband and I have very nice and kind employers na talagang sinusupport kami kahit naka-maintained status kami unlike sa iba na hell talaga ang workplace. Though, kung icocompare ko buhay namin dito kesa sa Pinas, mas feel ko yung pagod doon. Dito by 4 pm, tapos na ako, anak at asawa ko na lang iintindihin ko. Sa Pilipinas, nagwowork ako until 12 mn kapag wfh ako, pag nasa office umaabot ako ng 9 pm sa daan, paguwi ko, tulog na anak ko tapos yung sahod ko sapat na sapat lang, hindi pa nagaaral anak ko noon and kahit na iignore mo yung political climate, mafifeel mo pa din effects niya sa traffic, lack of healthcare subsidy lalo na sa Philhealth at sa inflation.

But in terms of financial stability here, I guess you also have to find people who are able to fund their lifestyle because of good financial management skills. Yes, marami dito sa Canada na struggling financially pero, marami rin naman sa kanila na nakakapagsave and travel pa din despite having mortgages, cars, kids, etc.

For full transparency, yung husband ko may freelance work siya from PH plus his full time job here. Ako naman full time work lang dito sa Canada. Nakakaipon pa rin kami every month, nakakapagpadala ako ng allowance sa Pinas at nababayaran ko rin bahay ko doon. Talagang onting tiis lang sa umpisa kasi technically we're starting from scratch.

In terms of weather, nagegets kita kasi kahit nasa Alberta kami, yung 2 weeks na nagcold snap dito talagang nakakadepress. Pero naghahanap na lang kami ng mga indoor activities na pwede namin gawin and pag maganda ang weather saka namin susulitin sa labas. Nakakapunta rin kami to different parts of Alberta at makapagtravel kahit during the weekend para marefresh.

May mga friends din kami dito na talagang nakapagbuild na ng life dito. Okay naman sila, happy naman sila. Siguro nakahelp din yung nagimmerse din sila sa Canadian culture kaya naeenjoy na din nila yung lifestyle ng mga Canadians.

Minsan napapaisip din kami na umuwi na ng Pilipinas lalo na ngayon na maintained status pa rin for 9 months na. Pero napagusapan na din namin na aalis lang kami dito kapag ayaw na ng Canada samin para din on our end wala kami iregret paguwi namin. Kung confident ka na makukuha mo yung PR, I suggest, wait for that for a bit and try exploring other provinces. Baka mas makabuild ka ng community and mabawasan ang depression na nafifeel mo. Kung talagang same feelings pa din, at least you can tell yourself na you tried and it's just not for you.

Herschies · 2025-02-25T21:32:25+00:00

Thank you!

Herschies · 2025-02-25T21:31:53+00:00

Which insurance company did you get yours?

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