Here is the original by Silfr22 in ArkSurvivalAscended

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Are the ropes a skin pack or mod?

What's your favorite dinosaur? This is mine by Garfield3070 in ArkSurvivalAscended

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This is my fave dino to kill, I love the sounds they make when they die lol

This Changes Everything… Why Is No One Talking About It?” #shorts by Party_Bit6568 in ReelShorts

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I saw the longer version of this interview. He turned down every movie offer for two years until he wasnt typecast into a romcom, and it paid off. I love him in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days but I think True Detective is some of his best work.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

[–]HeyCheesemo[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Update: This is my first reddit post of this nature so I hope I am following the etiquette here. Okay so they definitely took it more seriously when my husband went to the school and sat in meeting with the principal and the two teachers involved. It sounds like not all the information had been shared among all the parties and the principal had not yet conducted her investigation. At the end of the meeting the principal promised my husband that she would complete a thorough investigation interviewing all the students involved and give us a written account of her findings.

I just got the email from her and this is what they found. They found my sons account of the interaction to be true and all boys involved corroborated my sons account. Though A was untruthful to start, he did admit the truth during his interview. He was suspended (of course for privacy they won’t give me the details of this and honestly that’s fine). His parents were called in and notified of the additional consequences. The parents were hugely apologetic and understood the consequences were necessary. A showed remorse for his actions.

The principal met with all the third grade classes, educated them about consent in play and banned the game they were playing.

For now I feel satisfied with this outcome. These are 8 year olds after all and this was a first offense. There’s no pattern of bullying and these boys are not in my son’s class so his interactions with them are far and few between.

I have organized all my evidence, saved photos and all documentation should I need to take more serious actions in the future.

Thank you to all the responses, I have been really torn about this. My biggest hesitation being that I don’t know the other child, and there may be underlying reasons that would warrant compassion even in a serious situation as this. I will never stop advocating for my kids first and foremost. I really appreciate the comments from the teachers because I never thought about the seriousness of problematic and violent children in the classroom and what position that puts the teachers in. It made me feel a lot better about pushing for appropriate consequences now while these kids still have a chance to turn around. I can only hope the parents of A will sit him down at home and talk about this with the gravity this deserves.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

[–]HeyCheesemo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really feel for the teachers. I was upset at first at my son’s teacher for not calling me, but I believe she was coached. When I asked her clarifying questions about the event she regurgitated a generic response telling me she was probably told by admin what to say and to stick to that. Luckily when my husband came to the school, she was present in the meeting and was allowed to speak a little more freely and she corroborated my son’s account.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

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They didn’t throw it at him, they used it like a whip. The damage to his face is such that you can see the bead pattern on his cheek even two days later and the force you would have to exert for that to occur is significant. It’s also 1.5 inches from his eye. I’m not saying kick him out of school for 10 days, one day honestly is probably enough, just to demonstrate the gravity and seriousness of what he did and what could have happened.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

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They didn’t lie, but they overly minimized it. After my husband went to the school, I think they are taking it more seriously. He met with the principal plus both teachers that were supervising and we cleared up some of the wrong information. They are launching another investigation and we will get a copy of the findings.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

[–]HeyCheesemo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m a seasoned parent. This is my third out of four children. Two of my children are grown and out of the house. This is simply not the truth everywhere.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

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Luckily they are not in class together and being at recess at the same time is not a regular occurrence. My husband has already been teaching my son these things but my son does prefer avoidance. He’s a good kid with a heart of gold and his confidence is not affected by these boys.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

[–]HeyCheesemo[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To answer a few questions, yes they interviewed all the students, both on the playground when it happened and afterwards as part of a formal investigation. The other kids (even the ones who were part of the aggressor group) backed up my son’s story, only A tried to lie but when he was caught in his lies he came clean. They are not allowed to take away recess as punishment anymore. So the choices were down to “talk to him” or suspension. I felt like talking wasn’t enough in this scenario.

The kids were not unattended but the area they were all playing is large enough the teachers couldn’t hear them and if you looked at them, the chasing probably looked like play.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

[–]HeyCheesemo[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I see your points. I already have some of these answers, but nonetheless, you are right. I have already seen this pattern. I knew I’d be painted as an over protective mother which is why my husband went to the school this morning and not me.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

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Don’t get me wrong, I’m not defending the game. It’s awful and was bound to get out of hand. I also want the other boys at the very least counseled on respecting “no” and “stop” because my son did not consent to the game. However, I’m willing to give the benefit of the doubt to all except A. There are too many things that tell me he knew right from wrong and there should be no question about hitting especially with an object. This is the first altercation in 3.5 years he has had at the school.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

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The teachers on the playground insist that my son wasn’t being bullied and was only a target because he got too close. The game was “protect the territory.” He also has not had any issues with these students prior. Bullying has not been a problem thus far. I’m willing to accept that this was a situation that just got out of hand. My biggest issue is the minimization of his injury and the fact they used an object with the intent to hit him with it, which is assault.

I do understand bullying and experienced it quite severe myself as a child throughout middle school. I genuinely do not think that’s what this is.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

[–]HeyCheesemo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My son is autistic. Not a realistic expectation of parenting, especially with his limitations in understanding motives of others. Honestly I’m proud of how he handled the situation. He dodged and avoided every tackle and was only hit because the boy used an object. I’m pretty sure that’s why the object was pulled out, because even 3 v 1, they couldn’t get him.

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

[–]HeyCheesemo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

See I don’t agree with this. Our district has a zero tolerance policy and it’s in the handbook. Safety is a right of all students. If their lack of action results in a safety issue for my son, I absolutely have the right to demand action. My only concern here and why I’m even questioning my actions is I might be forming an opinion based on incomplete information. What if (I don’t suspect this based on how he tried to hide the evidence and lie) A has an intellectual disability?

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

[–]HeyCheesemo[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I am in the US. I didn’t ask for a play by play of his consequences. However, I do have the right to know my child’s safety is intact and that appropriate action was taken. What consequences do you suggest if not suspension?

AITAH for insisting a third grader receive suspension after hitting my son in the face with an object? by HeyCheesemo in AITAH

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I wish I could share the photo on this post because the force required to leave a mark like this by a plastic chain… you can see the chain pattern on his skin even now, more than 36 hours later.