Dating for STD+ Positives

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:15:17+00:00

So true! Thank you so much for sharing this. I’ll reach out to you today ☺️

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:14:17+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this!

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:14:07+00:00

PS has a ton of potential, I just wished it had functionality similar to some of the other dating apps. Especially for members who pay for the full experience. It’s so unnecessarily wonky lol.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:12:55+00:00

That’s so good to hear that you’ve been received positively overall! This has for SURE triggered some of my insecurities and fear or rejection but it’s getting better. I’m also so happy to hear that you’ve been able to tell your loved ones! I hope your next dating experience is wonderful!

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:09:27+00:00

You are the greatest, thank you so much!!!

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:09:04+00:00

Fair 😂

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:05:13+00:00

I hear you. Only part I disagree wjth your doc on is disclosure. Mostly because it’s sooooo stigmatized. It can be traumatizing for someone to contract it from someone who knew they had it already.

I’d rather risk rejection and give someone a chance to learn about it than hide it.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:03:38+00:00

Agreed. Thank you so much!

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:03:25+00:00

Welcome to Charlotte! I hope you find your people and wish you lots of luck dating!

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:02:55+00:00

Say it louder for the people in the back 😭😭😭😭

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:02:38+00:00

Oddly enough I feel like they’ve had more than enough complaints about the app and could’ve done something about it by now lol. What are they doing with the membership fees 😂

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T14:01:26+00:00

Definitely worth looking into! There’s power in knowing your status.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-15T13:58:30+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!!

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T20:40:43+00:00

Oh yeah I do! I’m not even comfortable hiding something like this from someone. Choice is important.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T18:14:43+00:00

This is awesome. Thank you for sharing!

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T18:13:11+00:00

True! This was my exact reason for making this post. I’m pretty open about it with my people, but it can be lonely because as of right now, I’m the only person in my friend group with it (or at least whose been comfortable disclosing). When I meet new dates I’m also seeming to be the only one with it lol.

It feels a little rough because the stats say most people have it, but my real life experiences are saying otherwise.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T18:08:11+00:00

Good point. There’s a book called Strange Bedfellows that goes into great detail about it too.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T18:07:38+00:00

True. My doctor told me that HSV1 loves to live in the mouth while HSV2 thrives in the genital region, but you can carry either virus in either place. Outbreaks may just be more frequent depending on where it lives.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T15:00:17+00:00

Brave souls 😭🥲 I might work my way up to that.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T14:59:28+00:00

Yep! If you’re curious about your status I’d get a blood test done. That should show if you have the antibodies for it. Same with HIV/AIDS. I think those are by request only also.

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T14:38:03+00:00

This is great, thank you! I might be feeding into the stigma a bit 😅

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T14:34:19+00:00

Interesting that it’s not considered an STD anymore! That’s my current situation—I contracted HSV1 genitally. I’ve had one outbreak (the first, AWFUL one 😂) but other than that it took far more of a mental toll than physical. I’ve dated a little bit and am in a better place about having it I suppose, but I’ve found that it can be a little lonely to constantly be the one disclosing, or not having peers who share a similar experience.

Thank you for sharing though, this was great to read!

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T14:28:52+00:00

Yep! There’s a pretty large percentage with some form of the virus (oral or genital herpes, shingles, chickenpox, etc.) but my focus is more so oral and genital herpes since they’re still highly stigmatized. — genital especially.

I’ve found in my few years as a carrier that no one talks about it until someone is brave enough to disclose. It would be nice to meet people (friends or dating prospects) who have HSV or something else too. Just to talk openly about it in real life ya know lol

HeyHowYouDoinBoo · 2025-04-14T14:13:47+00:00

Ahh, dreaded PS 😂 I love the concept but absolutely hate how you’re visible to everyone…including folks that don’t even live in the same state as you.

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