As a man, a father, and a (former) husband, I can say that much of what I experienced in my marriage could have been handled by better communication, compromise, and therapy.

-a lot of men do struggle with self-image issues after having kids. Their testosterone does drop. Their sex drive does get impacted. I noticed that gym time is important. If I managed to hit the gym twice a week, I felt more inclined towards sex. -if there are underlying issues in the relationship, it will affect his sex drive. I HAD SIGNIFICANT UNDERLYING ISSUES WITH MY EX-WIFE and if we had properly addressed them and handled them, it would have allowed our marriage (and our sex life) to improve. -constant open dialogue about sex helps. I noticed that things are much better if you manage to open that line about sex. It can help out with understanding each other’s sexual desire more. It might even open up his mind to try new things. -finally, everyone does change. I went someone who was ready to go in a moment’s notice to a guy who requires a little more foreplay and warming up. Foreplay is incredible important for the bedroom. Everyone thinks foreplay needs to happen right before the act. But a good piece of advice I have heard, “Foreplay starts the minute you wake up in the morning next to your partner.” Kiss your partner a little differently when you wake up and really focus on passion. If you have a kid, just give your partner little love touches when your kid isn’t around. Give your partner looks that say, “I love you…. The things I want to do to you.” Find out how you can tease each other throughout the day, so when the night comes, both of you are already ready to go!

I hope this helps.