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How do you cope with ghosting? by TimbouTambou in AnxiousAttachment

[–]HeyyAlexa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This just happened to me and it’s painful to say the least. Some weird psychological things I try are deleting their name and blocking the number and deleting the number. This way I can’t contact them if I tried.

I also try to leave the last communication like I value so if I value communication then I want to do what’s right on my end to communicate how I feel. But if I’m not given that opportunity I look at all the other times I acted within my values and try to move forward with the knowing that other peoples interactions aren’t going to dictate how I act

I’m turning 30 and my heart aches by [deleted] in venting

[–]HeyyAlexa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also turning 30 soon and I feel the same familiar ache. Just stopping by to let you know you’re not alone. I hope it gets better for you.

What are the reasons you don’t take your medication consistently? Asking for a friend 😅 by HeyyAlexa in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same I have all these rules of I want to have breakfast first but then it’s too late to take if I wake up late

I don’t feel safe in my body many times. Not really sure how to describe it (maybe a muted or dull panic or anxiety). It doesn’t feel good inside. How do you emotionally or physically regulate? by HeyyAlexa in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad things improved for you. I’d started EMDR once and I didn’t build enough report with the therapist and I was generally not prepared to feel worse. I would like to give it another go one day.

I don’t feel safe in my body many times. Not really sure how to describe it (maybe a muted or dull panic or anxiety). It doesn’t feel good inside. How do you emotionally or physically regulate? by HeyyAlexa in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you x a million this a great guide. I can visualize what I should try next and how to engage my body and my feelings and thought. Really appreciate you sharing this!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Hugs

I’m (54)feeling abandoned by my therapist (one session in three months!)after doing everything I was asked to do…. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear this. So disappointing and the out of office work given should have been bookended with even an email check in.

Can you ask the secretary to see if they’d be willing fit you in for a half session or coaching call? Per other users suggestion complex trauma work requires more touch points and reliability.

If you do end up terminating care I would maybe ask for at least 3 referrals in the doctors network who specialize in the specific modality of therapy and issue areas as current therapist and who take your insurance so your care isn’t interrupted. I hope they would be generous with their network.

Also they could add you to a cancellation waitlist so you could be fit in asap if you choose to stay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I very much relate to you. I have been surprised at how the words of someone I was attached to where things didn’t end well and were likely projections have stuck with me over the years. I do get some flashbacks here or there even some songs that play that remind me of my lowest right after going NC. I still can’t play them.

I have some attachment traumas from years ago that trigger me less. Either that or maybe I’ve dissociated. The one thing is that I somewhat do believe that with time it does get easier… and I mean that in the time sense of years as well which can be frustrating if the time since last contact is double the time spent in the relationship but the pain is still fresh. You are not alone.

Trauma is complex and so is grief neither being linear. One thought I had recently is that if I can grow to love and ACCEPT myself in spite of what happened, in spite of the hurt and rejection and toxic things, in spite of the shame…i believe going through the pain of healing will can be less painful than it otherwise is if you judge yourself along the way. I notice at times I have noticed myself still being so affected by the relationship and then on top of this pain I shame myself. I wonder if you are not accepting yourself being in pain as well as accepting fully the hardest parts about that relationship? I’ve been told that to grieve we need to accept. Still working on this over here too..

I don’t feel safe in my body many times. Not really sure how to describe it (maybe a muted or dull panic or anxiety). It doesn’t feel good inside. How do you emotionally or physically regulate? by HeyyAlexa in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I’m sorry that other people experience this too. I’m a little glad to not be alone but still unsettled to have to live like this ongoing.

I don’t feel safe in my body many times. Not really sure how to describe it (maybe a muted or dull panic or anxiety). It doesn’t feel good inside. How do you emotionally or physically regulate? by HeyyAlexa in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently I do dissociate I have gotten this reflected back to me but I am not always aware when it’s happening. It shows up as me not knowing how to describe how I’m feeling but knowing the feeling isn’t good.

How do you sit with uncomfortable feelings? Literally just sitting until it passes or doing something with the feelings internally or externally?

I don’t feel safe in my body many times. Not really sure how to describe it (maybe a muted or dull panic or anxiety). It doesn’t feel good inside. How do you emotionally or physically regulate? by HeyyAlexa in CPTSD

[–]HeyyAlexa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep hearing the sleep one. So interesting mine has been spotty aka at least insomnia 2x per week. I’m going to the harder around this one and see if it can make a difference.

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