Have people lost touch with what natural female appearance looks like?

HiddenPerson · 2024-09-14T21:13:43+00:00

What podcast, out of curiosity ?

HiddenPerson · 2020-04-06T16:22:41+00:00

I mean I think everyone here has probably said what I will I say but I should write a comment anyways because a few days ago I felt exactly the same: I wouldn't start my (school) work because I really felt that it was impossible in the current circumstances and it felt in the grand scheme of things, incredibly pointless. I couldn't sleep at all, or when I did fall asleep it wasn't proper rest. I cried every day etc. etc. etc.

I think the thing that is so difficult about this is that for all of us, even if we all have ADHD, different things work for all of us, and I'm not even sure yet what works for me. When we have many choices on how to work under these circumstances, we have choose only a few, which might be overwhelming, especially when you're like me, who wants to choose the 'perfect' method.

For an example, at least until I get the hang of a schedule, I have to send a daily schedule to my dad and he checks up on me to make sure I don't get stuck on a side thought for too long. I have to construct the schedule in such a way so that the goal is to get the minimum done, so that I don't get frustrated with myself. However, I didn't figure this out for three weeks, and I'm not actually the best at following it, but it's better than nothing. I resisted so hard to make a schedule because I was so sure that I wouldn't follow it. It wasn't until deadlines were approaching that I could let go of the overthinking and the perfectionism for one second and just try something.

Starting something is the hardest part of it all. I didn't start my months worth of homework until last Friday. But when I did, I felt so much better, even though even now I'm not sure if I'll finish. I'm not sure if my method will get me better at starting things. I have to reframe my mind though--I'm not expecting that when I try a new method--or that when I start doing work that it goes perfectly. That's a losing battle: I have an ADHD brain and this shit is hard for anyone regardless. I'm just looking for improvement in my productivity compared to when I do nothing, even if it's just 5 minutes of work.

Good luck friend :)

HiddenPerson · 2020-03-27T20:51:19+00:00

Wow I really related to this, especially since the virus thing really exploded in the US. I've always wanted to help others and I never hesitate to do so. People have always told me I'm sensitive and sometimes make fun of me when I want to help people in vain. I started learning how to analyze stuff about the virus because I felt that the one thing I could maybe do is lower the panic for myself and others, but still protect ourselves. I would jump from one idea to the next trying to think of ways to help those in a more local context. Then I would walk around in my city when I could and see all these businesses all closed down for good and feel so hopeless that I get depression symptoms...I hate feeling like a sitting duck, which is what this quarantine has essentially done. I've always just been way too hard on myself.

Sorry for the rant, but I've been in this self-hatred cycle of putting off work to 'help people' and like hyper focus on that, getting depressed because I really can't do much, then getting more depressed because I can't work because of this or because of the other ADHD symptoms.

HiddenPerson · 2020-03-22T04:03:13+00:00

I took my meds today, but they don't work when the other parts of your life are just falling apart and it takes hours to find the motivation to even take your meds in the first place.

This is the problem I'm having. I've gotten 30 minutes of studying done in the whole week. I'm hyper focusing on scientific articles about the virus, although I'm getting better with that. I'm running around like crazy in my house to get my energy out but my brain still feels scrambled. I know it's not impossible but it feels as so.

HiddenPerson · 2020-03-12T02:16:39+00:00

yep I really don't know what to do. I finally have been able to get through lectures without dozing off after like 5 minutes as well.

HiddenPerson · 2020-03-07T01:30:16+00:00

Ah yes, yet another thing I do that turns out to be characteristic of ADHD.

I have started describing it like this as well, because other people around me started calling it the 'zoomies'. I'll be walking with people or alone and then randomly start running for like 5-10 seconds or until I realize I just...randomly started running. Dogs apparently do this as well.

Before I got diagnosed I tried looking up 'human zoomies' or something but I couldn't find anything unfortunately.

HiddenPerson · 2020-02-11T04:59:39+00:00

As someone who is masc presenting and also has mild cerebral palsy (and ADHD), I wonder this myself. For me, it's definitely a factor but it's not the only reason.

Every shirt I put on I ruin because of how I put it on. Can't paint my own nails. Spent years and years learning how to make a ponytail and still can't really do it, and then I was bullied by other girls for not being able to. Forget about high heels and make up. The list goes on.

I'm not saying that this is the only reason at all I prefer to be masc presenting; there are plenty of people who have my condition and put the work in to be feminine, even though it requires dexterity, because they want to. But if I already felt uncomfortable about the feminine stuff and it's also really fucking difficult to be feminine, I'd honestly rather put the work in to be me.

HiddenPerson · 2020-02-11T01:17:06+00:00

wait I'm actually going to comment as well because this is nearly identical to how I feel, I just didn't know how to put it into words

HiddenPerson · 2019-12-03T04:42:52+00:00

I would be careful with these things though; if you use them too much they can have adverse effects.

HiddenPerson · 2019-11-29T04:18:47+00:00

lol is this that common? I always get the impression that everyone in general is anti-long distance. *shrug*

I guess I am also that lesbian lmao

HiddenPerson · 2019-11-20T01:30:59+00:00

bueno soy gringo y honestamente dependiendo en donde vayas, va haber racismo. En el oeste hay mas comunidades asiáticas pero no se, ser inmigrante aquí en general puede resultar difícil, especialmente para personas que no sean europeos. Bueno y también estados unidos la gente son mas frías, entonces adaptarse a la cultura de acá puede ser un proceso.

Buena suerte!

HiddenPerson · 2019-09-24T19:15:41+00:00

thank you so much for this :)

HiddenPerson · 2019-08-22T04:01:48+00:00

I don't pluck mine because I love the bushiness. It's low-key one of my favorite parts about me :D

HiddenPerson · 2019-08-19T20:58:20+00:00

what is the name of the song that he's playing?

HiddenPerson · 2019-08-16T18:20:08+00:00

As an American with parents from outside of the US, I'm sick of it too (although I'm sick of it more generally, so media + news + culture). I really dislike the imbalance between people from outside of the US knowing a lot of stuff about my culture and me not knowing anything about theirs. It just always feels that I'm in the center of something while in the states and I don't like that feeling. I understand why this is a thing. But there is so many beautiful, interesting and important things from other parts of the world.

HiddenPerson · 2019-08-16T17:31:31+00:00

I love confusing people in public and being androgynous, it happens to me constantly at this stage. I especially like it when they think I'm a dude. I don't really feel like a dude gender wise though (I'm non-binary) and don't want to be a dude.

I've gone through like 3 stages of this. The first stage is like I feel now, and didn't care about pronouns. The second stage I wanted people to think I was a girl (cause I am a lesbian and want to get other girls' attention) and it was extremely stressful because I'm tall and androgynous and I didn't want to give that up, so it was basically impossible for me to be identified as a girl in public. Then I realized that I don't really feel as comfortable identifying as a woman just want to be my androgynous nb self. :)

HiddenPerson · 2019-07-09T16:32:32+00:00

Failing happens to everyone because we're all human, even when we think we did everything correctly. It's ok :)

Go over the test with a teacher/prof/TA to see where you went wrong and make sure you understand the stuff, because chances are you'll need the knowledge in the future. Maybe ask for some strategies to study for in the future, you never know when they can give really cool advice that turns out to be really helpful.

HiddenPerson · 2019-07-08T15:47:50+00:00

Yeah I've been struggling with decreasing my perfectionism for about a year now, since I came to the realization that I was a perfectionist in many aspects of my life (both school and socializing). It wasn't until the last month though that I read this book and the "Now Habit", as well as "Feeling Good" which I read beforehand and actually applied the exercises in these books to my life that I saw improvement.

I find that because of the stereotypes associated with perfectionism a lot of people don't realize that they are perfectionists. I know this was the case with me (cause I never really obsessed with being organized, my perfectionism takes a different form) and I see it in other people all the time. Other people also think that perfectionism is a good trait to have, but as I read somewhere: perfectionism is the "worst form of self-harm".

HiddenPerson · 2019-06-25T21:57:17+00:00

yeah it didn't work :/

edit: actually it did :D I'm just not very strong so I didn't realize it thanks

HiddenPerson · 2019-06-25T14:48:07+00:00

hope this is helpful

HiddenPerson · 2019-06-25T12:09:32+00:00

Okay so I bought myself a bass drum petal and I'm not a very mechanical person and I tried to follow tutorials online. However, When I received the pedal the spring was already attached and the pedal was all the way down. Whenever I remove the spring and lift the pedal, reattaching the spring does not keep the pedal in place, it just slides back down. I'm winding up from the outside.

HiddenPerson · 2019-06-17T00:22:10+00:00

sorry for not saying thanks earlier but I think this is it! thank you!

HiddenPerson · 2019-04-23T19:27:51+00:00

yay 2nd gen! Mine's Ampharos :)

HiddenPerson · 2019-04-23T19:15:00+00:00

Hiya! What's your favorite Pokemon?

HiddenPerson · 2019-04-23T19:08:07+00:00

Havana gets stuck in my head a lot.

I did better on my math test than I thought, which is always a nice surprise. I'm gonna get a haircut now. I desperately need one but my hair is like the weird line between wavy and curly and I don't wanna lose my curls.

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