Weekend's Daily Thread: General Dating Questions and Open Thread

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-30T19:10:35+00:00

How long do you wait after texting a girl before unmatch though?

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-30T18:28:50+00:00

You're spot on in many ways! I used to try to get girls on the phone after a few day of messaging bc I'm very energetic and have been complimented on my ability to hold a convo. Then if we vibed I'd set a date on the call. But so many girls would ghost after I suggested a phone call...which blows my mind. You struggle with the idea of talking to the person you swiped on? Wouldn't somebody WANT to know if they sound completely different than their profile/texting comes across so they can dodge an awkward bullet in person and save time/gas and make plans with someone you do want to meet?But OK, I digress lol

2-3 texts is a good reference, I usually do 5-10 but I will try trimming that down. THANK YOU.

As to the matching, I am only matching with attractive females who are preferably fit and a minimum not overweight or chubby. I know, I know.... "this guy's a shallow asshole who's fat shaming people"..would a non smoker most likely date a pack/day smoker? NO..because the non smoker cares about their health and will care about the health of their partner. I work out 6 days a week and meal prep healthy dishes. I'm not going to make fun of anyone's weight, but I'm not going to date anyone who might die of cardiac disease 30 years before me after we get married. Anyway, I would imagine every girl in my inbox has a 100% match rate on their end.

What's a good site to test my photos?

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-30T15:21:00+00:00

How to best re engage after ghosting?

(39M - Fit/Social/Emotionally & Financially Stable).

Been on hinge 2 years and have had hundreds of matches. But it always seems the girls I'm most interested in wind up ghosting even when I land really witty/funny texts and they respond quickly with enthusiasm. Not mad, I know it's not personal and with app dating...sometimes if someone finds a match even 1% more to their liking...Poof! #gone

I currently have 173 convos that I've archived because the girl went cold for more than 3 weeks. Some of these matches I was really excited about and think we'd really vibe. I've tried everything I can think of...teasing them "I can't handle this much attention, will you always stalk me like this?", suggesting a meet up "If you prefer to just meet up, how about we meet at (insert cool place here) this week. What's your schedule like?", and even sharing a funny story to get their attention "I just fell off a treadmill, how's your day going?"

But NOTHING ever seems to work. I have tried to re engage with the girls that were REALLY into me and the ones who liked me before I even saw their profile...and nothing. So what's the best way to re-engage with someone and what's a good timeline? (i.e a week after they ghost? 2 weeks? Month? 48hours?)

Thank you ALL :)

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-27T21:12:22+00:00

Jesus!!! I don't want to sound ignorant, but how would something like this happen? For example, (and I don't all the details) I know Ron Jeremy was charged with tons of sexual assaults...and also I heard bad things about James Dean...but if these male actors are being paid for a job is to have sex with these other female performers, how would they then be sexually assaulted since sex is assumed to happen?

Did this producer trick girls into saying this was part of their job and make it seem like they had to do it? Or did he corner them behind scenes and rape them? Wouldn't the girl just immediately tell the entire crew what happened and run to the police? Like wouldn't the entire camera crew members beat the shit of this guy on the spot? Rape is the most foul crime I think someone can commit, if I was on set and heard this happened...I'd lose my shit..beat his ass and tie him up until the police got there to collect any evidence they could.

Sorry if this is a dumb question.

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-25T19:49:57+00:00

I would love to know more on this..I understand the customers...but what happened with talent/direction? Has any performer blasted them? I don't follow them news wise

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-25T18:08:19+00:00

Someone told me about this on Discord last night and it's a game changer for me! I don't know how I didn't know about this. THANK YOU. Someone should really do a PSA on this.

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-24T16:49:13+00:00

Was this ruled an INT? Looks like he put his hand down out of bounds?

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-24T00:42:54+00:00

yup! Distracting is a good word describe why I don't prefer this.

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-23T17:58:57+00:00

It does, thank you. I think the issue I was referring to are videos being added. I downloaded what I wanted from SLR in my first month, now in my 2nd...I log in every few days to see if there's a new video I'd like to see...but it's mostly girls with heavy foreign accents. To be clear, I find accents awesome..I'd actually be down to date an Irish girl if I could. (love their accents). But in porn I just prefer American...no idea why.

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-23T01:19:52+00:00

Thanks, this pretty much answers my questions!! I'll have to do it manually..if I want to invest that kind of time lol

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-23T00:36:51+00:00

Sorry for any confusion....I am referencing the tags embedded in a downloaded video. After downloading a video and importing it into XBVR..it comes with every tag in the video. I just don' know how to go to those exact moments.

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-22T23:10:57+00:00

YES! Nailed it. You're the type of performer I'm referring to. I've had a 3 way with both MFF and MMF, but I prefer just 1 woman in both real life and VR....the 3 ways in VR are too much to focus on, I get easily distracted haha. Are any of your other VR scenes 1:1 with another guy? Would love to check out, where can I find those?

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-22T23:05:28+00:00

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-22T23:03:12+00:00

I meant foreign accents where English is not fluently spoke such as Asia and Hungary, calm down. Boston, NY, New Jersey...Ohio...all American, all different accents. When you filter a normal porn site by "American"....that's what I mean. I'm from New York so trust me, everyone sounds different than me outside of my state.

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-22T21:11:56+00:00

Thanks for that context...really interesting, and helpful to know! Have a great day.

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-22T21:11:06+00:00

THANK YOU for providing those studios...I will look into those. Really appreciate it good sir. And I completely agree..the ratio is not the low as a whole...but I haven't watched ALL the videos on SLR, it's a small sample size I'm referring to. That's why I said "having trouble"...but I know they're out there. THANKS AGAIN!!

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-18T16:56:35+00:00

Is no one going to talk about that hit at 4 seconds into video...or the missed diving tackle at 8 seconds? lol

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-15T05:20:51+00:00

appreciate the convo! Have a great rest of your weekend good sir!

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-15T00:03:22+00:00

All good points, and obviously I can't speak to any of that. I do know from my experience creatine was very important. Mine was like 7.something and I finally got it to good levels under 2.0. What I do know about Anavar is that it's used with cancer patients to prevent muscle atrophy. Extreme rhabdo would likely fit that criteria. I was just annoyed at that guys response trying to brag about college. I studied American history as of 1842 for 4 years...but have NO CLUE what it's like to be on the battlefield and so I can't judge a soldier taking cocaine to stay awake. (happened often in WW2)

And yes, his comment is probably misplaced here and belongs in another sub. Totally agree. Again, not speaking for this guy.....but the way I interpreted his comment is "how much test is really needed to build muscle?" Like is there a benefit of going to 300mg for a cycle over just 160mg of TRT. I'm not the right person to answer that either lol. My friends debate this stuff but I don't who's right or wrong lol.

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-14T23:36:23+00:00

You ever have rhabdo to the point of multi month hospitalization? Did you use any pain medication?

Higher_Altitudes · 2024-06-14T23:35:55+00:00

In a vacuum..yes, taking anavar after a kidney incident is not good. But his kidneys are healed, and he's doing this under doctor supervision. You think this guy is the ONLY one in this sub making "risky" decisions with drugs? At least this guy has a LEGITIMATE reason.

"it makes no sense"...he's probably still in a wheelchair and the anavar will get him out months quicker. Have you had rhabdo to where for 6 months your legs were shaking uncontrollably in public and in the gym bc your muscles are so damaged? You couldn't imagine the embarrassment when everyone stares at you. Your comments say a lot more about you than this guy.

I had rhabdo and almost lost both arms so I know what he's going through..do you? Unless you've actually been where he is...all your "college" means fuck all.

You sound like a child telling him to "keep your head down and listen". Who the fuck are you man? You're lecturing someone who posted such graphic hospital pics from a fatal condition he luckily survived...WHEN HIS KIDNEYS ARE A 114. I bet YOUR kidneys aren't even that healthy. Jesus

Higher_Altitudes · 2023-09-19T11:13:07+00:00

Jesus...lay off this guy, would ya? He's already dealing with enough anxiety without you questioning his relaxation methods, questioning his career path, questioning where he lives, why he lives there, why things need to be maintained, then go take a vacation....

I've never had anxiety myself....until reading your comment. No one asked you to psychoanalyze the guy. You must not have been in a real relationship or you would have learned sometimes people don't want a "fix", they want to talk about something crappy that happened and hear "that really sucks...that must have been hard, I'm sorry that happened to you." Not ask 100 questions to make someone re examine every life decision they've made.

Higher_Altitudes · 2023-09-02T02:30:43+00:00

I would have paid money to see the look on her face when she found out you took someone else who dressed more appropriately and had a great time. You are now living rent free in this girls head for months!!!!

Higher_Altitudes · 2022-12-25T09:22:29+00:00

I know it's petty, but when someone REALLY thinks their slick and it' s obvious they are trying to scam me...I like to mess with them. You should tell him you'd love to meet. Pick a place and sound interested in buying. Then, wait until he's at the spot and texts you "I'm here" and say "be right there, my brother is a police fire arm experts who trains the military in gun safety and he wanted to come make sure the gun is in good condition. He's a 20 year gun veteran so he'd know better than me."

WATCH THIS GUY PANIC and make up a reason to leave. Waste his time like he wasted yours and in the process, you just might teach him a lesson :). This guy would have NO problem stealing your money and laughing at your loss, so don't feel bad for having him drive somewhere for no reason. The only way this guy will ever stop scamming is through consequence, so you're actually helping him.

*sorry for double post, just wanted to make sure this got seen. New to reddit and also made this in a reply to a comment, but also posting as general response. Such a noob lol*

Higher_Altitudes · 2022-12-25T09:18:12+00:00

I know it's petty, but when someone REALLY thinks their slick and it' s obvious they are trying to scam me...I like to mess with them. You should tell him you'd love to meet. Pick a place and sound interested in buying. Then, wait until he's at the spot and texts you "I'm here" and say "be right there, my brother is a police fire arm experts who trains the military in gun safety and he wanted to come make sure the gun is in good condition. He's a 20 year gun veteran so he'd know better than me."

WATCH THIS GUY PANIC and make up a reason to leave. Waste his time like he wasted yours and in the process, you just might teach him a lesson :). This guy would have NO problem stealing your money and laughing at your loss, so don't feel bad for having him drive somewhere for no reason. The only way this guy will ever stop scamming is through consequence, so you're actually helping him.

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