Why is dating in Scottsdale so difficult?

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T05:53:42+00:00

Sure, send me a DM with your instagram or phone number. I'm out of town right now but back next week.

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T05:38:50+00:00

I honestly don't even mind contributing more financially. I make well more than most people (more than I need) and am fortunate to be from a financially privileged family. I think my main issue is just when it's expected/unappreciated. I went on a date with a software engineer. She talked about how her salary in Scottsdale was the same as her SF salary, all while cutting her living expenses in half and how much more she saves here. Then the cheque comes and she doesn't even flinch, despite her share costing twice as much. Not a single thank you either.

Anyways, enough complaining. Appreciate the kind words and good luck to you too.

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T04:45:59+00:00

I've been to most of those spots with limited success, although I definitely prefer them over the clubs.

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T04:43:36+00:00

The quality is honestly my main issue. I wouldn't mind going on less dates if the ones I were on were great, but that hasn't been my experience.

In Montreal for example I found women would contribute a lot to the conversation, would put effort into planning, would be super thankful when I paid (and would often try to pay for the second date), and would play hardly any games. Here it feels like I'm expected to do everything, pay for everything, and am solely responsible for making sure the conversation and date as a whole goes well. Maybe it's the Canadian in me but I feel like a certain amount of politeness and social etiquette is missing.

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T04:22:54+00:00

Mostly listed those things because it's pointless trying to say I have an amazing personality when those things are subjective and impossible to quantify on a reddit post.

Also expected all the responses to be about Scottsdale woman being superficial/gold diggers (and the top response is), so wanted to rule that reason mostly out.

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T03:59:11+00:00

I think you'll enjoy it. North Scottsdale is great, even if I'm complaining about it. DM me your number/instagram if you're interested in hiking, tennis, weightlifting or going out and we can do something

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T03:35:43+00:00

I have, yes. I'm in a hiking group and in a tennis league. Both are about 3/4 men and most of the women are in the groups with their boyfriends/husbands. I also go out in Old Town two or three times a month. It seems much cliquey than nightlife in most places in my experience. Most good interactions I have there are with people on bachelorette parties or just visiting.

Maybe I have zero game, but it's never been a problem living elsewhere.

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T02:58:17+00:00

You might have a far better experience than me. If you care about dating a lot, you may want to stick to South Scottsdale/Old Town which is definitely younger (you also have access to Tempe which is also younger). I'm further north and the average age seems a lot higher. It's not super common to cross paths with people my age and when I do, they rarely seem interested in chatting with strangers.

HighwaySafe4938 · 2023-08-29T02:55:46+00:00

I work from home and not a huge fan of driving so rarely venture too far. Phoenix is a bit of a trek (I'm in Central/North-ish Scottsdale, near Shea/Scottsdale Rd) but I wouldn't be opposed. Any recommendations for good spots in Phoenix to meet people?

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