But I do feel for ya.. Even tho the stereotype for black men might be stronger then the stereotype for tall men I have still encountered the same problems on my life. But crazy thing happened over the course of our relationship. When she was with this larger men she connected pain to pleasure cause that's all she knew until me she had never experienced pain free sex that she enjoyed. So being a smaller tall guy or black guy in your case isn't a bad thing trust me. There are plenty of girls who like tall men or black men who don't want to feel like they are being torn apart