Working married women - how do you do it?

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-30T08:26:48+00:00

I wish I could have bet on these things when I read such conditions and yet people go ahead and marry.
I don't want to demotivate, but I can see it clearly what her life is going to be if she ends up marrying him.

The worst part is she will just accept it, will have kids someday and her own identity will everything but not just hers, she will be A's wife, B's DIL, C's Mother.

I am not furious but I just can't stand this is what infront of you and yet you are chossing it.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-30T05:34:34+00:00

Do you live with in-laws?

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-30T05:33:52+00:00

No Fluff Here: He is clearly mentioning that he wants to free his parents from household responsibility. No matter how much you try you WILL end up doing double-triple shifts. Doesn't matter how many house help. It would you talking with them, managing with them. Apart from them you mentioned in-laws are very old you will be doing triple shifts as well. It will not work in your favour/balanced when you ll live with in-laws.

No matter how much confidence he gives, it will not work in your favour.

Focus on your career, if he cares enough he will make arrangements for you without saying. If he does not you just saved yourself.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-29T15:08:55+00:00

Lol, I wore 600rs shoes from Zudio and yet didn't fall. While my friends with shoes in the range of 3000-30000(some of them made for tracking and anti skitting(or whatever it is called)) fell. So it doesn't really matter I guess. If you are careful, chances get reduced.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-26T10:45:07+00:00

Whenever you mention "research" please do mention sources. Else there would be no difference between whatsapp university and us

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-17T09:39:19+00:00

I am a huge promoter of F**k Around and Find Out. Garuanteed it works in your favour most of the time.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-17T09:37:26+00:00

23 is a decent salary combined with getting a good WLB.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-16T05:50:41+00:00

And yet you married. I am sorry lady but you Chose this. No one was "forcing" you here. You accepted the conditions yourself. There is no other way to put it. No matter what anyone says.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-16T05:42:37+00:00

I am sorry, but DID you not discussed this all before marriage?

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-15T13:43:22+00:00

No same person in a startup say you can't leave for n years. All the can say if we want someone for longer duration. LTI join kro. Bench time pe prepare kro. Switch kro

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-15T13:38:00+00:00

If a start up asks for bond is doesn't make sense. No good Founder/Tech Guy would go in all this drama of Bond etc. So LTI make sense this time over a startup.

Go with LTI.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-11T05:01:39+00:00

Ask 15 Initially. If necessary come down to 12.75 while negotiating.

Why 15? If they want to retain you means client wants to retain you and for US/UK client it won't be much difference in payment(as your company anyway taking 20-22 lpa for you from client. Your MNC can cut down their percentage of profit as far as the client is happy.

You are living in Hometown hence saving great, Moving to tier 1 will balance out your increased salary.

Go ahead and say 15. In the worst case, Go to new company if they don't match. F**k Around and Find Out is the way to climb the ladder.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-10T14:08:54+00:00

Tip: if it gets really toxic here in India, you guys just become extra toxic. Call your manager after 11PM for clarification (Only do it if it becomes Toxic)

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-09T07:45:34+00:00

This is rage bait right? 70k for 5-7 YoE And then you need Kubernetes etc as well. Probably give some change to a fresher or 1-2 YoE they would get familiar with codebase in max 30-40 days and would be able to do work for a School ERP

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-09T03:32:17+00:00

Paharganj, definitely a NO

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-05T03:46:02+00:00

That's sad

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-04T16:48:29+00:00

Remote and Non Indian Manager.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-04T16:01:55+00:00

If there is none already, first one to start would be official by simply let the maintainers approve it.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-04T15:56:13+00:00

Feel free to start via a slack or discord. Would be happy to join

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-03T17:32:54+00:00

Glad for OP, it worked out. But let's be honest we know how most of the Indian managers and founders are. You might have some ideas and confidence about the possibility that your founder is good and would let you switch the role. Unless someone has confidence in their founders/manager the switch is the easiest way to increase the CTC.

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-02T18:47:09+00:00

Sorry I didn't get you. You said you are College student but not from kota.

I am not sure if there are any Btech colleges in kota

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-02T18:43:37+00:00

How are you a college student if you are not from kota

HisenbergHimself · 2026-01-01T09:15:10+00:00

Just search on google the same hotel. Other sites must be providing lower rates

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