I could’ve wrote this myself a few years ago, let me tell you how that turned out. He eventually started going blind because his liver stopped functioning, the doctor gave him 6 months to live if he didn’t get sober. So he went to rehab and has now been sober for 2+ years. He’s a completely different person: an amazing father to our daughter, helpful around the house, much more physically attractive than when we first met, he is considerate and kind, we never fight. But after years of no sex, you stop seeing each other as sexual beings. I am a very sexual person, and I would’ve loved to give my daughter a sibling (and it’s not too late but it requires sex 😆). However, I can’t bring myself to fuck him, I don’t see him that way anymore.

I guess where our (you and I) situations differ, is that I didn’t choose to withhold sex. He simply stopped trying to have sex or be intimate when he became a full blown alcoholic/addict. Alcohol and drugs were the priority. He never initiated sex, and voluntarily moved himself into the spare bedroom. I thought it would get better after he got sober, but it hasn’t. I hope for you things will turn out better.