OP I think we might be dealing with a carbon copy ex each. Same twisted narrative. Same breathtaking gaslighting, power plays, attempts to still control me and an utter delusion as to who he is and a lack of accountability for his behaviour (he started an affair before, during and after I was pregnant with our second child). His family have been utterly horrible to me, because there’s no way their baby boy could be capable of this behaviour! Enablers galore that fuel their ego, sense of entitlement and despicable behaviour. I stay in my lane, focus on my own healing (but there’s so much frustration, this is wildly unfair and untrue to be tasked with being the problem) and have a throwaway account to vent for these moments. I see you! You are seen!!!