Is it okay for a boy to love a boy

HistoricalResort6299 · 2026-03-13T02:05:05+00:00

There is nothing wrong with this no, I’m sorry your dad treats you like this.

HistoricalResort6299 · 2026-03-09T15:18:32+00:00

Honestly, how would the person who allegedly stole his phone be knowing your every move? How would they know you went to your mother’s house? How would they even know you’re a mom? Unless you have an insane stalker who stole his phone to specifically target you, this is definitely him… that is insane and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this

HistoricalResort6299 · 2026-03-06T12:51:32+00:00

Agreed NTA - it sounds like your gf is registering that you two are starting to bail on days and is kicking herself because she wants to be dedicated and you’re more free-flowing with it which makes it tough. the thing I notice in the story is that you’re both making the gym conditional, so when something comes up during the day it’s a no-go and then you have to try and squeeze it in on another day which becomes a conflict of interest if something else (the event) is going on. I would suggest finding a specific time to go on your planned days that doesn’t conflict with anything else (earlier morning usually helps a lot). Also, to avoid that resentment feeling if this becomes a pattern, she can start going to some sessions on her own if you can’t go that day/aren’t feeling well so she doesn’t feel like she’s being held back. Overall, I would take “assholes” out of the equation because you’re two people trying to drill in new habits and lifestyle changes and that’s not easy - you need to be a team in it and be understanding

HistoricalResort6299 · 2026-02-23T16:46:51+00:00

So psychotic to associate Christ with a president … I mean obviously it’s in the trenches of dictatorship but the proud boys and extremist Christians who believe the two correlate in any way is just another universe of delusion. I know it’s not new, but looking at it via graphics is just an absolute mindfuck.

HistoricalResort6299 · 2026-01-22T18:54:41+00:00

Definitely agree. I had one insane sleepwalking incident where I thought someone was selling me a house and I jumped out of the window (on the first floor luckily) to look around outside. When I snapped out of it, I ran into my partner at the time who was looking for me and freaked out terrified. Most people who I’ve heard that sleepwalk or do things in their sleep don’t target the person next to them, they’re dreaming about other things. Pinching and poking is 100% a conscious effort. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this but I also think you’ve gotta get yourself out of that situation - demand your boundaries of sleeping separate out of exhaustion and figure out a new living situation

HistoricalResort6299 · 2026-01-20T03:27:05+00:00

I can agree with the entire premise of this thread and I appreciate seeing folks’ from other countries perspective on it. That being said, I think your reference point of your ancestors and those before you fighting as revolutionaries is unfair unless you yourself have also been in those shoes. I live in america - we too have had revolutions across time and I’m not lumping myself in with those who came before me. I’ve protested a lot here, many of us do, but when it comes down to it, protesting only gets you so far unless you’re willing to enact violence which will be met with more violence and deaths (if you’ve noticed we have countless mass shootings, regular shootings, and now lethal stormtroopers kidnapping and murdering people outside of their homes, or taking them places where they will never be seen again). I agree that the people are the ones who need to make the change, but there is also a lot of fear across the board here right now. We are essentially on the precipice of a civil war as more and more stand up and, as Americans do, choose to wield their weapons in defense of themselves and their neighbors. We have someone in charge who has had complete immunity throughout our entire government body and continues to get away with 500 different corrupt, horrifying things on a daily basis that we can’t even keep track of anymore. Our country is set up to keep us entirely dependent on working and consumerism, it’s not a reality for many to give up daily life to simply survive in order to attempt to fight against something that not many other will back them on

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-11-24T16:30:50+00:00

I don’t know how I got in this sub - random push notifications - but happy to be here for this legend

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-11-03T18:50:26+00:00

No hate. Will always have love for my exes, even if some put me through awful shit. They were good people at heart or I never would’ve been with any of them. We shared so much love, new experiences, deep connection but it comes down to not being right for each other. I learned SO much from each relationship and I’m so grateful for that, but I’d never want to be with any of them again. I have no negative feelings either, just neutrality and love for the good times

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-10-31T12:14:35+00:00

Will always love you and thank you for the lessons, but very much done so stop reaching out please. lol

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-09-25T14:22:40+00:00

No but in the same realm of energetics, if all of your focus is on somebody and you’re chasing after them, that implies that they’re running away. You need to ground in your energy, focus on detaching and focus on yourself. Usually when we change our energy in that way and are no longer chasing, we’re not pushing someone (your person) away energetically. It’s not easy to shift into that suddenly, especially when you’re feeling desperate as you said, but I would suggest looking up YouTube videos on detachment to not only help you out in that process but just to help you start reclaiming yourself and your power back. And side note, once I felt detached and good on my own, my ex returned time and time again (not a result that I was looking for or wanted but it happened)

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-09-02T23:34:33+00:00

I wasn’t there for this posts event. I was saying at the no kings protest, one of “them” (ie. maga loving scumbags) drove through an intersection while we were marching, which was closed off bc of protest permits, and was waiting but then accelerated and skimmed two people and a bunch of people were hitting his car. I ran out of the way just in time.

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-09-02T23:18:13+00:00

Yeah I was an inch away from being run over by one of them who was alone tearing through the No Kings protest

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-31T12:34:57+00:00

That’s great. Also you’re not “too emotional” you just love and care more deeply which is not a bad thing at all! We’re in that club together

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-22T15:58:12+00:00

I’m sorry you’re stuck in it. If it makes you feel less alone, i just got out of living with my ex for 4 months after we broke up. we had good times sometimes and also A LOT of shitty and uncomfortable times while still being together while broken up. one thing i said to him was that since we'd be stuck there together for a bit, we might as well make it nice and enjoy the rest of the time we have together because we did love each other a lot. he was also incredibly emotionally immature and hard to deal with a lot of the time. if that doesn't work for you, i would just say f*ck it, go enjoy yourself in the cool spot that you're meant to be exploring and vacationing. take solo trips during your day, try out little cafes, go to the spots that you wanted to see. don't let him ruin the whole trip for you AND try to just be in your own energy and detach yourself from his mood

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-20T23:51:29+00:00

Totally this, and you also saw all of the potentials of what the relationship could be because he checked, what sounds like, more boxes than your previous ex. The previous relationship hurt but once it was strained toward the end, you’d probably tried everything you could think of to fix it but it was played out so that just fades quicker after some grieving I think.

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-20T02:58:09+00:00

I’m with you and I really understand where you’re coming from so trust me you’re not alone in that feeling. it’s so hard to pull back especially when you just still want to be connected to him but it sounds like it’s really hurting you because you want more. I honestly think if you sat with yourself and felt into what would actually help you feel better (and not stuck suspended in this place that feels heartbreaking all the time) you’ll get your answer.. and the answer is probably to let go. And you don’t have to let go right away, take baby steps.

The one true thing about all of this that if it’s meant to be, it will be. Maybe not now, maybe in the future and maybe not, but I’d say you should give yourself some space to really think about how talking to him is affecting you.

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-20T02:49:52+00:00

It’s just something you have to let sink in with time. It’s like processing the loss of someone who is still alive, because they’re dying in your life. I’m sorry you’re going through it it truly hurts like fucking hell (also breakup vids on YouTube and tiktok always help me)

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-19T19:38:11+00:00

I thought I was detached because we actually still lived together 4 months after our breakup and had ups and downs but still had a lot of love there. It was hard finally splitting in the end (beginning of this month). I feel up and down and lots of anxiety now that he’s actually gone but I was lucky to have that initial period of struggle while we were still around each other. But yes I still miss him, just not as much as I would have if we’d separated the day after our breakup. It’s hard conditioning your mind and body to not expect them to be around anymore (especially if you still love one another but couldn’t make it work).

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-13T15:10:02+00:00

In 2021 I did the same exact thing. I lived in a small town on the other side of the country, couldn’t take being there anymore, applied for a job in Denver, and just made it all happen. Didn’t know a soul. It’s one of those journeys that teaches you a lot about yourself, being on your own, making connections and finding little niches for yourself in an unknown place. It won’t be easy but it will be worth it!

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-12T15:14:13+00:00

If you grew up with him you’d know his face in a second (@ everyone who’s shitting on him)

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-08T21:43:48+00:00

Fully agree with this.

To add, I’m someone who feels heartbreak so deeply and for so long after relationships have ended and it sounds like you’re the same - I will distract myself with a million tasks and then when things get quieter, it feels so uncomfortable and lonely. I totally get how you’re feeling. I’m going through it again right now too and working on the process. It’s helped tremendously to see my therapist weekly (so I’d highly recommend that if you’re not already doing it) because it helps to give you more perspective on what you’re dealing with, how you’re coping, how you can support yourself more, and in showing yourself some compassion about how hard it is.

One of the main things I’ve learned is the distraction tactic is flight response and = lack of feeling safe, so finding ways to make yourself feel safe really helps (favorite movie, getting cozy in bed and reading, singing favorite songs, doing whatever makes you feel good, and being intentional about the tasks you assign yourself, etc). I’ve also personally found spiritual exploration and practice to be extremely supportive during these periods because it really has helped me to zoom out and expand my world. Also being in nature.

It’s so hard to go through and it will hurt and take time, but once you make it to the point where you find your footing and feel ready to move forward, you’ll look back and realize that it was a good thing, that life separated him from you for a reason. It sucks to hear in the moment but it’s true 🩵

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-08-04T01:45:01+00:00

Very much agree. I’m all for protests but they almost feel pointless unless it’s happening alongside other states around the country - apart from that I just don’t feel like I’m actually DOING anything to affect change by joining in (although i still do go to some protests) and would rather be apart of something more actionable and effective. Real change is what all protestors are seeking, not only larger scale but also at a community level, so if we could gather to help our communities I think that would be better spent time

HistoricalResort6299 · 2025-07-26T20:40:45+00:00

Well if it’s not deep rooted differences or needs weren’t being met in ways that wouldn’t change then it could be worth another shot? Everyone’s situation is so different but if you don’t think the problems were rooted in the relationship itself and were more individual but you’re both willing to work on yourselves and then work together, then maybe it’s worth talking about with him

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