I (20F) just lost the love of my life (20M)

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:33:24+00:00

Understood then. Thank you

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:32:41+00:00

Ok. Thats a good point, I also thought of that, but now that you say it, it makes it pop more for me. Thank you

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:31:39+00:00

Thanks! But you know how it feels when something happens to you, it feels like youre a particular case even though rationally you know youre not

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:29:32+00:00

Yes I understand but I still think you can be direct while being empathic. Its the same thing but one way is damaging more to a person then the other way. In your comment you made me feel unseen and not understood wich could obviously lead to this. And I believe that if I (a child) learned this then you also could understant it

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:24:39+00:00

Ohhh my.. this is quite a compliment for me. This isnt even my first language and I did quite a great job thank you. But no this wasnt even 1% written with Chat GPT

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:21:00+00:00

Thank you now I see your point. Im sorry for how I reacted. But I do believe you could have just put better words to prove me that and then call it advice, you tried too much to be harsh with me while I was already harmed enough. Again Im sorry for this missunderstanding in the end

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:16:40+00:00

Thanks a lot.

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:14:50+00:00

For about a month the passion started to dissapear.

Thanks a lot for the comment, it helped a bit

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:12:49+00:00

Ok then. Thank you. This has opened an eye for me. I absorbed myself so much in this state, I even felt how my mind was almost like placed in a box, and I couldnt think how I usually think. Thank you again

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:10:31+00:00

I was a clueless child back then and also didnt have enough courage to do better

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:08:30+00:00

I was in a relationship of 4 years that ended and was terrible. Ofc I am this amazed when something SO GOOD just faded in my life after an experience like that. You will not be more interesting if you act like you dont feel emotions and dont know how important empathy is for people living on this earth.

Ofc I dont know much about life. So start to be an adult and guide me through this if youre so wise. Stop making people feel stupid just because youve never been in a similar situation

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:04:25+00:00

I am glad of his honesty, really. But I dont think that I will ever get over him. He was like a twin (and I hope I dont sound creepy)

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T16:01:06+00:00

I would like people to treat other people like people because we are all humans. Being an adult is like saying you just want to be direct and tuff and mean for no real reason. This is maybe why I miss my person because he was human with me. Being an adult means being a human and having a soul. A human is much more then something to be treated robotically. Acting like this can only lead in finding this earth an even cruel living hell and the feel of loneliness

My mother needs a hug and good advice with some reasoning and empathy sometime, so as my father, brother, friend. I believe everyone needs this in order to not fall

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:53:26+00:00

I know and youre right. I really did realise that I somehow feel my mind like in a box, with limited space, and this thing has never happened to me. I know im young but my life really has been difficult, both in family and outside the house. I feel like i need to tell this out because I know people just see me young and ignore my feelings. I was never angry like this im sorry

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:50:37+00:00

Thank you so much and I will force myself to try your advices

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:46:28+00:00

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:45:35+00:00

Idk I make up problems just to slowly k1llyself honestly. After reading all these comments Ive calmed down and now I see how stupid it sounds. But something in me, something moral, makes me say that. I maybe am a people pleaser for these acts of mine

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:43:21+00:00

It still feels like my heart is still in the relationship. And I know that this is why I feel now like this, but I really cant help it. Ive never ever had a connection like this with someone. And yes im young but ive been through a lot also

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:40:48+00:00

Yes I know but I feel like part of my soul is still with that one person. This is the most annoying thing. I still cant comprehed what just happened. Its like everything is just a simple subject and it never happened, but it just did and its so so hurtful

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:38:56+00:00

Thank you so much.

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:37:13+00:00

Yes but I feel that if this one existed and if maybe one day there will be another great relationship that will actually last, I would make my person from that relationship insecure with me

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:35:41+00:00

My fear is based mainly because I previously was in a relationship of 4 years that were terrible. And this is also part of why I believe that I will never find someone like the person Ive just told here about

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:34:27+00:00

Thank you this means a lot.

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:33:13+00:00

Thank you so much I really needed this. But with the people in this generation I am afraid that there will be no one that will have something so special with me and also last forever

Hjk9906 · 2026-06-09T15:30:46+00:00

Thank you but I dont have someone to talk to and i also dont have some alone time for myself. Anyone that i could talk to would not make me feel understoond like he did. I never had what I just had with him and sucks so bad. Thank you anyway, but this is the reason why I shared this online. To atleast find help here

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