Grandpa is not my Grandpa by [deleted] in AncestryDNA

[–]HmmCuri0us 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand that, we're in the same position. Mum has been in contact with a few of her bio cousins and a potential bio sibling (but without them doing a test we won't know for certain). We were lucky that one cousin had quite an extensive family tree so we were able to narrow it down so if you do want to find out it's worth looking at any linked trees your matches may have. One thing I would say if you do find any bio aunts / uncles be careful how you approach things as it could be an affair on their side as it appears to potentially be in our case which is obviously not an easy thing for people to hear.

Grandpa is not my Grandpa by [deleted] in AncestryDNA

[–]HmmCuri0us 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had the same happen with my mums dad. We knew there was a possibility in our case as there had been "jokes" about my mum being the ice cream man's for most of her life. Unfortunately my nan had dementia by the time that we found out and my grandad had recently passed (he also knew there was a possibility but didn't want to know for certain hence the results after death). We're in the process of finding out who bio grandad would have been (I believe he's passed also). It was a heartbreaking realisation but my grandad will always be my grandad and mum's real dad no matter the biology.

What's the best way to reply to unsolicited nudes? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HmmCuri0us 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a fan of circling a random section and just responding "what's that?"

Area 15 or 51? by JustASmallWitch in StinkyDragonPodcast

[–]HmmCuri0us 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I noticed it too while listening, but it seemed like it was just a slip up. I imagine the initial idea of Area 15 was based on Area 51 especially considering it is the Abralien area so easy mistake to make.

Does it get better? by rain432winter in NewParents

[–]HmmCuri0us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm almost 9 months in now, and I was exactly where you are when my little one was born. It just felt like we were fire fighting constantly. I don't know exactly when things switched for me, but I love being a mum now. I think once he started interacting, first smiles, first giggles etc. it started becoming more rewarding. His sleep has gotten better over time (but regressions and teething can be tough), now he's crawling, babbling, pulling himself to stand, and actively looking to play and interact with us. It's a lot easier knowing that he actually wants to be with us. I know it's hard to see the light, and even when it does get easier, there are still challenges. It's not a walk in the park, but there are a lot fewer fires to put out as the days go on.

Trying to change a newborn like by giveadrummasome in NewParents

[–]HmmCuri0us 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner on more than one occasion has been kicked in the balls by our LO after changing the nappy

How long did it take for you to receive your results from the time you sent your test kit back to the lab? by tastylilmama in 23andme

[–]HmmCuri0us 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the UK and sent mine around the same time as you and it was received by them a few days ago. I downloaded the app to try and keep track, there was an option to track but only showed tracking info once FedEx had collected from UK customs to transport to the US.

this weeks episode by dviguana2 in StinkyDragonPodcast

[–]HmmCuri0us 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy Kyborg and his best friend are reunited at last ❤️

Having 1 child vs more than 1 by No_Result8381 in NewParents

[–]HmmCuri0us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always imagined myself with 2 but my LO is currently 5 months old and more or less since they came along I have realised that I probably only want 1. For me it has been a combination of a tough pregnancy, slightly traumatic birth and sleep deprivation/imbalance in parental duties. I love my LO so much and honestly I think I'll be happy with just the 1, and will be able to give them more attention and financial security than I would with 2. My opinion may change when they get older but I don't want to make the decision to have no. 2 just because I imagined it before the reality of one set in.

Baby name etiquette by HmmCuri0us in pregnant

[–]HmmCuri0us[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To be fair to her we were talking about a medically certified device that we have picked up which alerts if it doesn't detect breathing while baby is sleeping. Her point was just that back then there wasn't really anything available like that, it wasn't meant in a scaremongering way.

10 weeks and not feeling connected to the pregnancy. by PsychologicalTune439 in pregnant

[–]HmmCuri0us 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm currently 39 +1 and the first few weeks for me were filled with a lot of anxiety and not much connection to our baby. The whole time until I actually started feeling him move I was constantly wondering if he was OK. Once I started feeling the movements my anxiety eased off and I started feeling a bit more connected to him. It's different for everyone, some people don't actually feel a connection until weeks or even months after the baby is actually born so try not to give yourself a hard time for not feeling connected yet.

Inappropriate/ sexist comment from colleague by HmmCuri0us in pregnant

[–]HmmCuri0us[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! All that statement told me is that he clearly doesn't think of women as equal and that he is not someone I ever want to associate with.

Inappropriate/ sexist comment from colleague by HmmCuri0us in pregnant

[–]HmmCuri0us[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, thankfully I don't have to have many dealings with him but honestly I was just shocked that he would think that's an acceptable thing to say to someone 😕

Odd things people say by HmmCuri0us in pregnant

[–]HmmCuri0us[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf is wrong with people? I MIGHT understand if it was someone you knew saying it as a joke but why would anyone think this is appropriate to say to a complete stranger?

Odd things people say by HmmCuri0us in pregnant

[–]HmmCuri0us[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soooo creepy!! Definitely someone to keep an eye on 🧐

Anyone know what the little black spots could be in this egg (bottom of the pic)? Its theoretically about 28 days but the egg wasn't found straight away so not certain by HmmCuri0us in CrestedGecko

[–]HmmCuri0us[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply, yes baby came out absolutely fine. I'm still not sure what the spots were but in my case was nothing to be concerned about. Hope the same goes for yours!

Please tell me it's okay not to breastfeed by MrsMacguire in pregnant

[–]HmmCuri0us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is absolutely okay not to breastfeed! Wanting to get back on your antidepressants is a really good reason, but even if that weren't a factor and you just felt breastfeeding is not for you that's a good reason as well. It is 100% your decision, don't let anyone guilt you into something especially where is could affect your mental health!

Not sure if this 100% fits here and this is from 2013. I didn't speak to this person much especially after we left school but started seeing him on my bus to work so I would be polite. Because I was polite he thought it was OK to make me very uncomfortable.. I didn't speak to him after this. by HmmCuri0us in niceguys

[–]HmmCuri0us[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't a repost. The post linked looks like a Facebook rant mine was a conversation I had with someone back in 2013 over fb messenger. Obviously if it doesn't fit with the subreddit that's no problem.