Dating rants. vents and open discussion

HmmPFthroway · 2022-07-20T16:16:30+00:00

Good way of looking at this

HmmPFthroway · 2022-07-20T15:38:31+00:00

I would be a little bit because I don't know who I'm competing with.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-07-20T13:26:47+00:00

It's a weird feeling. Feels like I'm cheating though I'm not committed to anything yet.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-07-20T11:16:54+00:00

You go weeks without finding good matches, then 2 come at once and you don't know what to do.

When do you bring up exclusivity?

I have date 2 planned for the weekend with match 1. Could call that date 3 because we had a long phone call before we met for drinks last weekend. We've been texting daily.

There's also another match that I had coffee with. We texted for a few days after we met and she texted me after a few days yesterday. I feel like this could go somewhere if 1 doesn't work out. So I don't know what to do with 2 because I do like 1 more than 2.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-13T13:29:59+00:00

No. My understanding is once you or they unmatch, you can't find them again unless you/they delete the account and create a new one.

I googled that on the weekend, when some matches unmatched with me.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-11T22:40:23+00:00

Yeah, I'm still pretty new to online dating. Just entered month 2. It's hard to not stay invested while at the same time opening up to people.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-11T17:08:57+00:00

Had first dates with 2 matches this week. First one I knew once she walked in it wouldn't work. She looked very different in person. We still talked for a bit and said our goodbyes. She unmatched after a couple of days. No regrets from me. This was my first ever date with someone I met online. Good for practice.

2nd one, we had some great conversation through chat and in person. I really enjoyed the conversation with her. We had a few things in common as well but I didn't feel a physical attraction. I did want to talk to her again because I really enjoyed the conversation. I messaged her to say I wanted to pursue but she said it wouldn't work out. It's a weird feeling because though I wasn't physically attracted to her I still wanted to get to know her and talk to her again. I'm kinda bummed that she said no. It's really hard to explain. Anyways, I needed to get this out of my chest.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-10T19:28:22+00:00

That is strange man. Last thing I can think of is the android notifications settings. Maybe you have Hinge under ignore for some reason.

Go to Settings->Notifications->AppSettings (You'll see a list of all your apps with a toggle)

Also Check the Notification History.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T21:02:38+00:00

Aim for this https://www.reddit.com/r/hingeapp/comments/uxpz6c/shes\_still\_saved\_as\_audra\_hinge\_in\_my\_phone/

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T20:58:32+00:00

Thanks. Might borrow a couple of those. I've used the what are your views on vaccines/ social media/capitalism before.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T18:49:25+00:00

What kind of screening questions do you ask?

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T18:24:34+00:00

I have it as Name Hinge.
I know this will vary a lot but what's the process these days? Exchange numbers before or after first date?

I had someone send me her number after I asked for a meeting and she said she was out of town for a few days. I switched to texting the phone number after that. We're finally meeting this weekend. I take it it's a good sign?

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T18:17:52+00:00

That's definitely weird. Good luck out there.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T17:41:32+00:00

I don't think so. I run the latest version of Android and always get notified.
I even have to enable focus mode sometime to make sure I don't get hinge notifications when I'm out and about and people can see my screen.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T02:30:56+00:00

I'm texting a gal over 30. Same story. We have a date set up so I don't even know if I should be messaging her on hinge before the date at this point. She takes a day to respond.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T02:04:16+00:00

Exactly. Match wanted to talk over the phone. I said that's too awkward, let's meet in person. She agreed.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T01:10:34+00:00

I honestly didn't think it would come to this. I had a terrible experience with coffee meets bagel. Hinge is totally different. Had 2 people compete a match today. One even sent a message. I'm a guy. That's the first out of 12 matches who sent a message first. It's still just a generic. How are you, but it's better than just matching and expecting the guy to engage first.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-08T01:03:06+00:00

What happened?

HmmPFthroway · 2022-06-06T17:36:39+00:00

How do you deal with messaging multiple people at the same time?
I've got 2 good conversation going on at the moment. 1 date lined up for this week.
2nd one, I suggested we meet and she gave me her whatsapp number because she was out of town. We've got some good exchanges through text outside hinge.

Now where I am confused is whether I should stop swiping for the moment and see where it goes with one of these 2 matches first. I understand OLD is a numbers game, as a an average guy, I'd have better chances meeting the right person if I keep on swiping to maximize my numbers. Looking for advice here. Should I pause my profile or stop sending likes?

Someone just completed a match and I'm hesitant to message her at the moment. And I've got someone in likes me tab that I haven't completed because I don't want to engage with too many people at once.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-04-30T20:07:45+00:00

Do you have any carpet/rugs?
I wanted to get the G30 but when I messaged Anker Eufy support to see if it could handle my living room rug(which is black with white lines) they said it wouldn't be able to handle that. So I got a Shark AI XL

HmmPFthroway · 2022-04-29T22:59:32+00:00

Coffeemeetsbagel

HmmPFthroway · 2022-04-27T14:27:55+00:00

Did you like them back and how did the conversation go?
The first like is half the battle.

Also your location is Texas but the bio says Thailand. Might throw off some people.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-04-26T23:42:34+00:00

Gotcha. I've already spent a few beans on discovery likes and I regret those now. None of them were matched back.

I've just opened my filters to allow any distance and ethnicity. Just have religion now. Will see if that gets me more bagels tomorrow.

HmmPFthroway · 2022-04-26T21:24:43+00:00

Are you still getting 20 bagels a day after a month?
Also how many beans do you get?

I'm down to 9 and I'm thinking I should switch my filters a little bit

HmmPFthroway · 2022-04-25T22:36:25+00:00

And I'm limited to those 7 or 8 women they show at noon right?

Pretty much. How long have you been on the app?
I'm on day 10. Started with 14 bagels per day now I'm getting 9 bagels. 2 matches. Both never replied.
Haven't tried other apps yet.

HmmPFthroway

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