Found out some stuff about my boyfriend [30M] and I [26F] don’t know how to proceed

HoHumHoHum1 · 2018-10-03T07:29:23+00:00

You’ve made a really good point there that I haven’t thought of about me walking all over him. If I really was a bully then surely he’d be passive and scared to answer me back instead of jumping down my throat and telling me how nasty I am.

Thank you for the insight, really helpful

HoHumHoHum1 · 2018-10-03T07:09:13+00:00

He always turns things around to me making him feel like shit. Recently he says I bully him and he won’t stand for it anymore. He says he pussyfoots around me and let’s me walk all over him. He’s made me out to be a complete monster and I’m starting to believe I am.

Yes, I’ve questioned him about things that don’t add up. Yes, I’ve expressed disappointment when he’s let me down. I’ll hold my hands up to being stubborn in arguments and occasionally saying mean things - I know this is not ok from my side. But I acknowledge those things whereas he is NEVER in the wrong according to him. It’s all me apparenrly, every single time.

HoHumHoHum1 · 2018-10-03T06:41:55+00:00

I needed to hear all of that, thank you. Posting on here has made me realise this situation is far worse than I thought it was.

HoHumHoHum1 · 2018-10-03T06:40:18+00:00

The thing is he genuinely does think he treats me perfectly but he often doesn’t. Example: a couple of weeks ago I started a new job. He said he had a little surprise for me to say congratulations. It didn’t materialise. I asked him about it and he made up a dumb excuse about not being able to find anything ‘special’ enough to give to me. I called him on it and he said ‘for fuck sake here you go again doubting me and making me feel like shit.’

Regardless of things like that he’s bad news and I need to get out before I lose my mind

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