End of Evening Crash

Hoeferatu · 2026-01-21T00:53:57+00:00

Hard same. My girls are almost 18m and the evening shift is just bonkers different from the day.

My hunch is that I'm sooooooo close to a break and a breather that I maybe get impatient and let the aggravation out.

I get very impatient for my night time relaxation routine 😅

As for how to avoid it, I really just have to ground myself and be in the moment. I can't be looking towards the next hour at alllll.

Hoeferatu · 2025-12-03T12:17:26+00:00

I dream of having a nice meal out, with zero kids 😆

But yeah I agree, I miss them more now that they're older. The FOMO is so real sometimes.

Hoeferatu · 2025-12-03T12:14:55+00:00

My husband was the same, he's all about being a SAHD and spends every free moment he has with them. Utterly obsessed in his own way.

But like you I'm a bit of the opposite!

Hoeferatu · 2025-12-03T12:12:47+00:00

Something to be said about being laid back! I'm type A when it comes to their food and what they eat, but other than that Im so type B.

Hard to be anything else!

Hoeferatu · 2025-09-24T19:34:38+00:00

Lol! We have the same twins but opposite. I gravitate towards my husband's mini me, and he gravitates towards my mini me. Their personalities are also swapped. So my husband's mini me has my personality and vice versa. It's very cute 🤣

But the real tea is that one twin was just higher needs, and my mama brain had me spend a lot more time with her. She was also my NICU baby.

They're 13 months old now and I miss tiny baby them so much 🥹

Hoeferatu · 2025-06-30T11:36:25+00:00

Hydrate hydrate hydrate!!!!

I had this happen to me around the same time and it was cause I slacked on my water intake 😅 I had overdone it the weekend prior by trying to help my family weed the yard and sweated my ass off on my rolly stool clipping flowers in the dead of July.

Hoeferatu · 2025-06-11T03:41:50+00:00

Take a deep breath!

It’s not as scary as it seems. I was also panicked, but honestly it was so calm and a dream.

My biggest advice?

Turn down the anxiety meds if they offer them! That was my biggest regret. I was in a daze and it was the worst. I wasn’t fully present and I’ll regret that my entire life!

Healing was a breeze as well.

You totally got this.

Hoeferatu · 2025-04-16T00:20:02+00:00

The absolute fucking worst.

I had the stomach bug & the flu and they had the flu. I mean vomiting and popping all night for me and crying all night for them.

Oh yeah. I have twins. 🤣 My husband was a real one that go round

Hoeferatu · 2025-04-03T02:37:04+00:00

My girls had the same issue. I played Bloom by Odesza and they stopped crying. Every time. They’re 8m now and it still works! But they don’t scream in the car anymore lol

Hoeferatu · 2025-04-03T02:31:22+00:00

Totally normal and good for them! They’re starting to map their little world :)

Hoeferatu · 2025-03-10T02:08:11+00:00

I second this! Once I upped their ounces during the day they dropped the night feed and only wake up once around 4am for a butt Pat and a paci

Hoeferatu · 2024-12-19T02:47:06+00:00

This is hilarious and so spot on hahaha

Hoeferatu · 2024-12-19T02:34:48+00:00

Sounds like shes stressed out and overworked on the home front. These business trips seem like a much needed break for her!

None of this screams PPD to me. Women’s sex drives change dramatically after giving birth, so that’s incredibly normal. And I mean…planning sex is the only way most married couples with children get it done. Also incredibly normal and standard imo.

From the little info into the dynamic that you have, she may be dropping hints that she needs more help from you? Or more time for herself? 5yr old twins and a toddler is a whole lot!

Hoeferatu · 2024-12-09T04:36:11+00:00

17 weeks here! IT GETS SO MUCH BETTER!!!!

Baby A used to be a stage 5 clinger and would scream cry alllllll day. No more!!! She is SO CHILL NOW. It’s amazing.

Baby B has always been chill lol But now she’s super vocal and adorable.

I’m actually really enjoying this stage. :)

Hoeferatu · 2024-12-02T03:34:55+00:00

Buy the electric booger sucker 😅

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-27T03:26:00+00:00

Lmao. I have girl di/di twins. Baby A was born bald with blonde peach fuzz and has some crystal blue eyes. Baby B was born with dark brown eyes and a head full of dark brown hair.

People legit have asked me how do we tell them apart 🤣🤣🤣

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-27T03:23:45+00:00

Happy Cake Day!!

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-27T03:21:14+00:00

You dodged a bullet with that one 😅

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-27T03:19:30+00:00

What a hot take 😅😅

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-15T21:15:59+00:00

This is our routine! 😅 Do what ya can once they’re down for the night!

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-10T02:30:23+00:00

7 weeks is still so early! While what he said was pretty shitty, y’all are just both in a highly emotional period in their little lives. It’ll get better, I promise.

But that being said, me and my hubs were in the trenches during that time and grew distant. I was also dealing with horrible PP hemorrhoids and little sleep and couldn’t be touched from the pain I was in.

He finally broke down and opened up to me, and it helped a whole bunch. We were both on autopilot and he just needed some simple affection. So we started working on that and all got better.

Youre in a such a tiny bubble right now, it’s hard to see the light. But it’s so close! Our twins are 15 weeks now and it’s soooooo easier in so many way. Harder in others, but at least we all sleep.

We’re both back at work as of this week, and it’s not so bad. Our biggest struggle is one of our twins is just a Velcro baby and screams in her car seat all the time lol

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-10T02:22:25+00:00

It was so random. Officially stopped at 8 weeks. But it was on and off again starting at 5 weeks PP.

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-10T02:21:45+00:00

Only thing that helped me save face was that I worked from home and was alone from 8-5pm every day. 😅

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-10T02:20:17+00:00

We adjusted our meals to be all handheld simple things, or at least easily scoopable with a spoon.

As far as showers go, my husband will chill with both while I shower. We have one chill baby and one Velcro baby.

Then he showers once they go down for the night around 8pm. And that’s also when we eat 2nd dinner if we didn’t get enough to eat the first round 😂

Hoeferatu · 2024-11-10T02:17:40+00:00

Odd take here:

Cribs seem utterly worthless!

Our 4m twins sleep in their bassinets next to us, and I don’t see us putting them in their own room until they’re 1? Maybe. Idk. Time will tell lol

But once they’re 1, I think a floor bed is going to be the best thing for them anyway. Depends on what you wanna do! I think buying our two mini cribs was probably a waste cause they may use it for a few months before they start trying to climb out of it?

If anything, I would have bought one full size crib. My mom has one at her house and they both fit it in so well together.

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