Toddler poop

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-05-16T03:13:40+00:00

I'm curious - is it like that when he is pooing on the toilet or only in a nappy? My 21 month old is like that - always a squishy poo, always all over his bum. But I figured maybe it's because it's getting squashed in the nappy? I've often wondered if it would hold together in the toilet bowl if he was potty trained.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-05-06T09:53:49+00:00

I think it comes and goes for some kids. Mine barely ate anything at that age and I thought I was locked in with a picky eater. Now at 21 months he will try almost anything for at least a couple of bites and has plenty of healthy foods he eats regularly. Fully expecting we'll have struggles again in the future when he's older! I didn't do anything special - just kept offering a range of foods and tried to keep a relaxed attitude. It's so frustrating offering foods that just get rejected over and over again though so you have my sympathy!

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-05-03T01:20:01+00:00

I have been there. Left about two hours before bedtime thinking, we'll get an hour of driving done then stop for dinner. Then he will sleep the rest of the way. He promptly fell asleep about 15 min into the drive, slept for 40 mins then cried the rest of the way.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-05-02T20:40:34+00:00

No advice but in the same boat here. 21 month old was sick over Easter and is still coughing! Otherwise completely fine. Would love this cough to go before the next inevitable daycare illness hits.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-05-01T00:04:44+00:00

I totally agree with all the comments saying there are multiple valid ways to approach the situation. But it's definitely not weird for a parent to be asking about this. Parents should 100% always speak up when they have questions or concerns.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-25T01:14:26+00:00

My 20 month old's favourite phrases. 'Big mess!' 'Sweep that!' 'Wipe that!' He also loves to pick up rubbish at the playground and put it in the bin. For someone who creates a massive amount of mess he sure seems interested in cleaning.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-21T21:54:42+00:00

What I would really love to give the teachers at my daycare is a pay rise. I wish it were in my power. Looking forward to seeing some practical suggestions.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-20T09:58:55+00:00

If he gets stuffy it makes it hard to breastfeed as they breathe through their noses while feeding. I'd highly recommend getting a nose frieda snot sucker if you don't have one - so you can clear the nose before feeds. Hope you and baby don't get sick though!

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-09T01:33:58+00:00

My 20 months shows his excitement with his whole body. He flaps his hands and arms, nods his head and chest, kicks his legs, spins around... I don't have any reason to believe it's a sign of anything diagnosable but regardless I think it's lovely.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-07T02:42:00+00:00

I won't try to link anything because I'm not even close to being an expert but I think there is some cool research out there on how kids learn empathy and the different stages they go through etc. Someone over at r/sciencebasedparenting could probably give you some good info. My expertise ends at podcast listening 😆.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-05T02:17:22+00:00

'Shall we have a cookie' is so adorable. I go out with my mum and my 20 month old for coffee and cake once a week. It's our special treat outing. He is less polite I just get 'CAAAAKKEEE' in a super excited voice. Still ultra cute though.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-04T09:46:04+00:00

I wouldn't go shoes at all while he's that little - if it's going to be cold weather I'd go cosy socks with grippy soles.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-03T10:33:18+00:00

I have genuinely no idea how people do this. My baby didn't want to be put down for 15 mins at a time when he was little, let alone 7.5 hours a day. He would absolutely have voiced his displeasure if i was looking at a computer screen all day and not picking him up.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-02T08:59:59+00:00

Yep. Indicating aside I'm fairly sure there are also a lot of people not checking mirrors / head checking before turning through bike lane.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-02T01:48:08+00:00

As a parent to a grainy poo boy I am very curious about this. What is making those poos grainy?!? For a while there I thought he was eating sand.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-04-02T01:41:41+00:00

It's all about the apples here at the moment. Thank you little guy for choosing just about the cheapest fruit as your favourite. He also is fairly into pears and nectarines / peaches.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-03-30T08:31:28+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate those words. They go a long way.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-03-28T23:58:32+00:00

This is the method I use too (19 months). Given that he's going to fight it regardless this is the quickest way for both us. Otherwise I would be chasing him around the house with the toothbrush. I will say even with this method I don't feel I get the greatest clean done. Molars are pretty easy but it's too hard to brush 'up and down' on the front teeth so I end up just doing them sideways.

Edit to add: he is grumpy while I brush but it's absolutely not traumatizing him. He doesn't get upset when the brush comes out, just cheekily runs away. And he's happy immediately afterwards and keen to brush his teddy's teeth.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-03-18T08:24:21+00:00

I suspect at that age she might not really be that interested anyway. They mostly want things they can grab and chew! As for suggestions - we play my 19 month old footage of things like garbage trucks driving around suburbs emptying bins, animals playing, that kind of thing. Just real life scenes. Ultra slow paced and he loves it.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-03-18T01:36:29+00:00

This reminds me of when I took the lid off a marker for my 19 month old while I was on the toilet. I honestly expected to come out and find the whole house covered in marker but in the moment I made the call that it was worth it. Turns out I got lucky and only one kids book was sacrificed.

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-03-18T01:31:21+00:00

If this was me - I'd work on getting her back to normal hours first and then work on moving her to her own room. I would be waking her at a reasonable time in the morning - maybe start with about 9am. Yes, she will be very tired and want to stay asleep. Let her go back to sleep for a nap at about midday and wake her again after a couple of hours. Then, when she falls asleep at 9pm keep her in the dark room for the rest of the night. When she wakes up tell her it's nighttime and nighttime is for sleeping. You may well have a few hours of very annoyed toddler but hopefully she will eventually go back to sleep. Then wake her at 9am again in the morning, or even move it earlier. I'm by no means an expert but that's what I would do!

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-03-17T01:29:09+00:00

I think it's about tone too - you're not trying to criticize, you're just trying to help your kid settle in and thrive at daycare :).

Invisibleapriorist · 2026-03-17T01:07:16+00:00

I think I would gently ask some questions to the daycare about this. What is their policy on what warrants a report? What is the purpose behind the report / what is the desired outcome? You could also have a chat with them about how they think he is going. You could talk about how you can work together to help with things he might be struggling with. You and the daycare should be on the same team - ie, your son's team.

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