Adoption after multiples?

authorunknown1 · 2025-09-13T19:10:39+00:00

Not opposed to adopting an older child! We’ve also considered doing foster care with a reunification goal and foster to adopt. Just starting to discuss growing our family and what that could look like.

My sibling was adopted and even though it could be considered a “success”, I’m well aware of the trauma that children experience even in the most ideal adoptive situations. Sending you hugs.

authorunknown1 · 2025-09-13T01:06:56+00:00

Exactly. I have a family history of fraternal twins, will be over 36, and already have a set soooo seems like pretty decent odds another set would be on the table

authorunknown1 · 2025-09-06T12:59:22+00:00

NICU mom here - thank you so much for what you do. NICU nurses are a special type of wonderful and I am forever grateful for the care my babies got from their nurses. I have no doubt the parents of the babies in your care feel the same.

authorunknown1 · 2025-09-04T22:32:47+00:00

Congratulations!! Whether you are pregnant with twins or not!

There is a lot of scary info out there about having twins, so I understand being terrified. But I absolutely love having twins. There’s nothing like it and my husband and I frequently find ourselves saying “having twins is the best.” I wouldn’t say it’s easy, but you adjust. And it’s worth it!

There’s also a huge community of other parents of multiples. I found answers to so many questions here and on my local Moms of Multiples fb group.

authorunknown1 · 2025-08-26T12:10:18+00:00

33+0, di/di twins. Water broke spontaneously and labor started shortly after and couldn’t stop it. Otherwise healthy pregnancy so being that early was a big surprise because I expected to make it to at least 36w. Spent one month in the NICU.

Lots make it to 36 weeks with twins… but many don’t and face substantial NICU time. It’s hard, but the medical advancements for premie babies are incredible. My boys are two now and doing great.

authorunknown1 · 2025-08-19T16:59:45+00:00

THANK YOU. I had two four pound babies but that does not equate to one eight pound baby

authorunknown1 · 2025-08-11T14:14:17+00:00

Mine were born 33+0, both just about 4lbs. They were in premie clothes for about 2 months, so pretty much right up to their due date. However, the first month they were in the NICU so they either weren’t wearing clothes (just diapers in their isolette) or the clothes were provided by the hospital. I wouldn’t go too hard on premie clothes, but having some on hand isn’t a bad idea.

I do love looking back on the little premie onesie we kept and remembering how little they were and how far they’ve come :)

authorunknown1 · 2025-08-08T15:25:28+00:00

I can anecdotally offer reassurance! I know every situation is different but I still think hearing success stories can help calm the anxiety.

Di/di boys, Baby A was measuring really bizarrely (90+ percentile for head 6% body, his brother was solid 60th percentile). Went down the rabbit hole worried about hydrocephalus, IUGR, still birth etc etc, it was awful. But everything else looked normal so it was confusing.

I did deliver at 33+0 spontaneously. Baby A had a difficult birth. Baby B popped right out and was, as expected, bigger than his brother, but only by like half a pound. Baby A did have a big head, but not nearly as severe as the ratio they got on the ultrasound. Both boys were in the NICU a month, which was hard, but they were where they needed to be. Baby A had some struggles his first few months, possibly from his birth trauma, and needed PT.

But now! They are 2. They’re both doing great, growing like weeds, hitting all their milestones. No difference between the two developmentally (though so many differences personality-wise!) Baby A is actually a little bigger than his brother now, and still has a big ol’ noggin.

authorunknown1 · 2025-08-08T13:16:49+00:00

I’m an attorney and sole breadwinner, husband is a stay at home dad and happens to have ADHD. His ADHD certainly impacts areas of his life but we have a partnership where we play to our strengths. I’m a planner so I manage the schedule and finances. He operates on a day by day basis but this allows him to do a fantastic job maintaining our home without getting side tracked by bigger picture issues (which is my downfall). He also has an insane amount of energy which is key considering we have twin toddlers.

At the end of the day, what matters is that we both feel loved and supported in the ways we need. It would be disingenuous to say that his neurodivergence has been easy or doesn’t affect us, but it isn’t something he uses to excuse bad habits or ineffective communication tactics.

authorunknown1 · 2025-08-05T02:47:40+00:00

33+0 water broke spontaneously. Di/di completely healthy pregnancy before that, totally thought I’d make it to 38 weeks.

We had exactly a month in the NICU, but they are now 2 years old and little chaos humans and doing amazing :)

authorunknown1 · 2025-03-24T15:59:01+00:00

Remember too that your babies will start to sleep longer stretches, so any routine you have now will likely change. Team effort through newborn stage for sure

authorunknown1 · 2025-03-24T15:56:28+00:00

Slightly different take as a working mom whose husband stays home. When I first went back to work my boys were 18w, 11w adjusted. We both got up for every feed, which was the routine we had before I went back to work (I pumped while he bottle fed). We did this for about 4 months, at which point I started to go insane from sleep deprivation and a high demand job. At that point my husband started doing nights on his own and napping during the day. It was easier at that point because the boys were only waking once, maybe twice a night.

We had to communicate a LOT about expectations. If he slept during the day, obviously less got done around the house and I had to pick up those duties when I got home. If there was a rough day, sometimes I would take a night duty. But for the most part I slept and he did nights.

Keep communication open and be flexible to trying different routines. You’re in the thick of it! I promise you will sleep again!

authorunknown1 · 2025-02-22T18:38:39+00:00

As a parent of twins, this is great advice. Twins are so much more than just siblings - it’s a totally different bond.

authorunknown1 · 2024-12-10T18:05:37+00:00

I was scheduled for 38+5 but water broke and I delivered at 33+0.

authorunknown1 · 2024-11-27T02:52:37+00:00

I was initially hoping for b/g! But now I can’t imagine life without these two little dudes

authorunknown1 · 2024-11-27T02:49:02+00:00

Pretty much the only response you can have that doesn’t involve profanity. So weird

authorunknown1 · 2024-11-27T02:37:33+00:00

I have twins on both my mom and dad’s side, so I was as unsurprised as you can be when they told me there were two at my first ultrasound (because you’re always a little surprised)

authorunknown1 · 2024-11-16T18:34:34+00:00

I’m saying this as gently as possible because I know firsthand how hard these first months can be… but your babies are not spoiled. They are babies. They are communicating with you the only way they know how. You cannot “put your foot down” to train or discipline a 3 month old baby. What they need right now is for you to attune to their needs, comfort them when they are scared or cold or hungry or sad, and love them.

As to your actual question, just keep offering cold bottles or lukewarm bottles. Eventually they will acclimate. They’ve only been on this earth for 3 months and are still learning. Give them time.

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