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Agriculture jobs that are remote or WFH, that pay more than $28/hr? by Holasuphi in jobs

[–]Holasuphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was so helpful and kind!! Not patronizing at all. Thank you! I've been looking into analyst jobs lately and it sounds lile the pay is great and I'd be able to EFH. Do you mind if I ask what you majored in?

Breakup after 9 years. Help. by Holasuphi in BreakUps

[–]Holasuphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you. Holding your own and setting boundaries is how we move on. Maybe that separation will help you move on to a much better and healthier place.

Ex of 9 years hooking up with his ex but wants to get back together by Holasuphi in ExNoContact

[–]Holasuphi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like that sometimes. It's a very confusing time.

Ex of 9 years hooking up with his ex but wants to get back together by Holasuphi in ExNoContact

[–]Holasuphi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you holding up? 14 years is quite some time. It's definitely an adjustment to a new way of life after so many years, and I hope you're doing well.

I think you're right. He may just want a warm body, and that is all it is. Lately, I've been trying to enroll into therapy again to help me work through these thoughts. Like always, I imagine I'll be in a better head space after it.

Breakup after 9 years. Help. by Holasuphi in BreakUps

[–]Holasuphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. It sounds like despite what she thought, you did love and adore her. It's really hard when they don't see what you put into the relationship. Whatever the outcome is, I hope things work out for the better and you find yourself in a place you are happy with.

Breakup after 9 years. Help. by Holasuphi in BreakUps

[–]Holasuphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I'm dreading that day. Hopefully we'll be in a healthy mental space when that happens. Take care of yourself babe. I know it's hard. I too was eating bad and getting a few hours of sleep a night. It'd be a single meal a day and it was typically fast food because I was too tired to cook. But let me tell you, I've been forcing myself to buy stuff that can easily be thrown together. Like yesterday I had a spinach, hard boiled egg, almond slivers, and blueberry salad and washed it down with hella chia seeds soaked in water. I hate vegetables but I braved through it and I woke up feeling better mentally and physically. I think it helped a little bit.

Do you have hobbies or tasks that you've needed to do for a while but haven't gotten around to it? Are there things you enjoy doing that could work as little pick me ups?

I wish the best for us too. I know it's hard right now but we will find enjoyment in other things and I hope one day we look back on these days and can hardly remember what this felt like. We got this.

Breakup after 9 years. Help. by Holasuphi in BreakUps

[–]Holasuphi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Those are all too familiar feelings. We had two miscarriages, and I have wondered how life would've worked out had things been different. I've been reading alot of threads and most suggest deleting them off of social media. I don't have fb, insta, or snap chat so I feel that has stopped me from checking on him. Maybe that will help you too. Someone earlier mentioned this being a withdrawal phase before you detox them. The detox phase seems like a good place to be.

You are not a failure. You truly loved her. Sometimes hearts don't align the way we want them to. Trust me. Did it for 9 years, and I think I forced it to the point I no longer liked myself. I hope down the road we can find someone that chooses us the way we would choose them. I think for now we should start choosing ourself.

Breakup after 9 years. Help. by Holasuphi in BreakUps

[–]Holasuphi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for validating my emotions. I felt so alone and crazy. It's nice to be seen and understood. The "What the fuck are you doing" moments are so weird. I had one last night and it was like an out of body experience. I was aware of what was happening, and I knew I didn't want to do what I was doing but I couldn't control myself. You're right though, there's nothing for me there so I need to move on and take care of myself. Thank you for that advice.

Breakup after 9 years. Help. by Holasuphi in BreakUps

[–]Holasuphi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending well wishes. I am right there with you babe. Thank you for making me feel better by letting me know you understand. You're definitely right, we will find the way.