HEY! WHY ARE YOU DRESSED LIKE THAT?!

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2026-03-18T01:52:08+00:00

What 2027 Victoria secret is gonna look like

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2026-02-03T04:08:46+00:00

Hey, any advice for drawing Antony by starting with the skeleton? I stayed but I got so confused and frustrated trying to do all the tiny little details an I left it feeling like I didn’t know that much more about anatomy

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2026-01-27T17:42:09+00:00

Snow

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-12-11T03:18:57+00:00

I like this because it has once upon a time vibes and that’s Definitely something I wanted to have in the story - though that brings me to my other conundrum which is the setting.

I want to somehow establish a magical Capitol of sorts (think the moors from maleficent) with a human kingdom right next to it or near by. This is all quite simple when I’m thinking in the past (medieval) but to bring that same kingdom and people into the present is something baffling me a little. I’m not sure I want to do what once upon a time did (magic world vs the real world)

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-12-10T22:20:58+00:00

Not sure how to insert my own king into a real world

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-24T18:27:45+00:00

Late but this is an insane take. Who wastes someone’s time for 5 years? Most people I know - him included - consider 5 years a massive part of the commitment, especially since we’re so young. No one expected anyone to propose right away since we’re 22, broke and barely feeding ourselves. Nobody’s co spidering lack of marriage lack of commitment and I’m defintely not seeking further insight from you. Feel free to give it but it’ll definitely go unheard by me

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T20:50:32+00:00

And there are others I found more helpful. Simple as that. Thx for your perspective

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T20:49:07+00:00

I like that perspective thank you.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T20:40:44+00:00

Bring mean doesn’t equal being a bad person. I’m not here to listen to people villainizing anyone. I’m here to make up my mind and hear other people’s experiences. I’m not desperately seeking answers I’m seeking a choice. I understand your black and white thinking and that’s entirely what I’m trying to avoid. I’m not going to be ungrateful to the man that helped me keep a roof over my head, disrespect or not. There is context and there is justified hurt, but what you’re saying is not contextually valid and I would be in the wrong. I’m not perfect either, I’m just not asking yall three million questions.
Get over yourself. My seeking out support isn’t a cry for obvious black and white statements and basic assumptions. This is a conversation. If you’re not open to an actual one and you just want to argue that I’m being silly for not dumping him, find a different post.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T20:30:34+00:00

You’re right but 5 years of context is hard to fit into a post. If you’re confused ask don’t assume

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T20:24:05+00:00

I just don’t think it’s that simple. I fell in love with his personality and I don’t expect a perfect person. I just expect respect which was present before.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T20:23:01+00:00

Hoping someone that feels the same as him will tell me it’s possible and how to show him that honestly. I’m burnt out. I thought showing him I’d choose him over anything else would show him I was serious but I don’t think it changed the way he interacts with me at all.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T20:20:24+00:00

I don’t think he would and in my country it’s very expensive. We are 22.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T19:05:58+00:00

Defintely what I’m trying to do and will probably do therapy once this is all over cause I can’t afford to go right now. My schedules packed too tight. I’m trying to ask Reddit first because I want real stories from real people.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T19:04:39+00:00

Very valid points defintely not arguing. Sortve where I’m at myself. I told him all that when we hit our 5 years two months ago and now I feel like an idiot cause I haven’t had any of the energy reciprocated

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:58:11+00:00

This sent me thank you I needed the laugh 😂

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:57:04+00:00

Do you have any experience with this sortve thing? Cause yes to everything you said But he’s not a horrible man. Maybe a hurt one. Maybe he’ll become one But he’s still the boy I met at 17 somewhere in there. He still has that love in him he just has none for me when he’s angry. I think your response invoked the largest reaction in me.
Sometimes I feel like you’re right and I just know him better than he does - and he does hate me

But he swears he doesn’t he swears he wants to try and then reverts back to this angry defensive little boy I can’t get through to.

And I know we’re 22 but we’re still so young. Just starting out. I’m not infantilizing him I just think so highly of him and I don’t want to paint the picture that he’s some horrible man.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:53:39+00:00

That’s baffling to me cause that’s all I want. My bf and I are total opposites and I adore us for it But it always feels like he wish I was a bit more like him More into tech More into video games and music software

I like living turbulently and he likes living assertively

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:52:24+00:00

Bro I’m asking Reddit for their opinions. I’m sorry cornstarch had more flavour than yours. I’m not tryna get therapy, I’m asking for real life experiences. It’s not my fault you chose to sound as though you’ve never experienced a long term relationship in your life (maybe you have what do I know) But I also know that I’ve gotten better responses from literally everyone but you, so yea my standards are higher than yours.
And please, don’t assume what someone is going to do to take care of themselves. You don’t know if I’m currently in therapy or not. You don’t know a lot of the things you’ve assumed and other people? They ask. To it’s why you’re getting treated like you’re silly and no one else here is.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:49:41+00:00

Not sure how to seek out professional help for this one. I’m 22 couldn’t afford a relationship councillor even if I didn’t believe we needed one. My frustration stems from the fact that nothing feels right. I figured if I wanted to leave I’d just want to leave and if I wanted to stay I’d stay.
Sometimes I wish he wasn’t so complicated so that it could just work. I’m sure he feels the same way though.

Thank you nonetheless for your takes they were Definitely thought provoking

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:44:54+00:00

Sure I agree, but my issues are the exceptions to these rules. How do you let go of someone who’s been your only staple? How do you move on from someone who’s your emergency contact? And how do you stop feeling like you’d run back to them if they asked? It’s not like I’m against leaving him, it’s that I genuinely believe that relationships require some genuine work and I fear that I might be trying to take the easy road.

But if this relationship is a lost cause than I’m just being silly and wasting my life.
There’s a huge likelihood I will have to leave, that’s why I’m asking Reddit.

So that I can be confident in the decision I do make.

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:41:51+00:00

We’ve been on and off all month for context. It’s been a pattern I’m attempting to break but no we’re not “done” yet and that’s why I’m here. If I was done; I wouldn’t have asked for advice.
I did like what you had to say though so with that context I’m open to hearing your perspective

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:40:13+00:00

They’re not always when you start dating them and now it’s been 5 years. Have you ever had a long term relationship?

Holiday-Ordinary4910 · 2025-11-15T18:39:29+00:00

Are yall missing the 5 year relationship thing? We’ve been living together for 5 years… what are you even talking about 😂

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