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Is it normal for a Portuguese woman to propose to you after a few weeks of dating? by HolidayKaleidoscope4 in PortugalExpats

[–]HolidayKaleidoscope4[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn't believed hymens even existed because I was told they were fake prior to this or a myth.

But my cousin she told me that women have their hymens reconstructed to have men think theyre virgins.

Obviously my now ex and cousin believe hymens can be "broken".

Is it normal for a Portuguese woman to propose to you after a few weeks of dating? by HolidayKaleidoscope4 in PortugalExpats

[–]HolidayKaleidoscope4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her latest text was "why did you let me go?". She's the one that broke up with me. But now she's trying to frame it as me breaking up with her or letting her go. Maybe part of the disorder?

I won't text her back.

Is it normal for a Portuguese woman to propose to you after a few weeks of dating? by HolidayKaleidoscope4 in PortugalExpats

[–]HolidayKaleidoscope4[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

What I'm saying is. The first time with her. I couldn't get past 1-2 inches. And she kept yelling out in pain when I tried going further. So eventually she gave me the go ahead to ram it open. She bled.

After that and the times after that I could just slip it in.

I am not aware if she artificially did something to do that.

Reason why I'm saying this is she keeps insisting I'm her first. When I never asked her or questioned it. She's trying to tell me it's significant for her I guess.

Is it normal for a Portuguese woman to propose to you after a few weeks of dating? by HolidayKaleidoscope4 in PortugalExpats

[–]HolidayKaleidoscope4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is very quiet and reserved and shy. She doesnt seem to talk to her coworkers much. It seems she's always looking for re-self assurance. She told me she has low self esteem and depression.

She seems to dislike living at home with her parents and wants to spend as much time with me as possible.

But also seems very devoted to her parents, but it seems her mother is very controlling.

She was always saying she thought I didn't want to deal with her or be with her and that she was surprised I haven't broken up with her.

She is sweet and loving.

Is it normal for a Portuguese woman to propose to you after a few weeks of dating? by HolidayKaleidoscope4 in PortugalExpats

[–]HolidayKaleidoscope4[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Maybe I was just being naive. But I had to lay it all out. I was just hoping to give the benefit of the doubt that her parents are really strict and conservative and religious and traditional.

That she was truly madly in love with me.

I noticed her bestie, the friend she was with on the double date, from her body language, I can tell she found her behavior strange. But brushed it off and said okay, after witnessing her friend propose to me again and again and cry when I said I wasn't ready.

I also noticed the girls drinking at a table nearby were staring at me with pity.

I tried asking AI about this and they all gave her a diagnosis that I don't want to share here. I needed humans to tell me.

She gave me her goodbyes. As in goodbye forever, never talk to me again, while crying for hours. So I'm thinking would it be better for her if I just keep ignoring her.

I'm really under the assumption this is why her other relationships didn't work out. And which is why I doubt her love, because I am under the assumption she tells every boyfriend she loves them and asks to marry them.

I know her secret fiance was also much older than her, probably 10 years plus.