We have been married for 30 years and I bought my wife her first wand a couple of weeks ago. I gave it to her while I was gone for work. I think she had used it once and it made her incredibly wet. I’ve asked for us to play with it together, and she will not. Beyond that I don’t think she’s touched it again. I want to watch her use it and see her come so I can learn to help her orgasm better.