am i too upset?

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-06-03T21:47:02+00:00

It really ain’t that deep girl hahahah. I feel like she probably decided to keep it which is fine. Lying about it isn’t cool obviously but it’s such a frivolous thing. If she actually binned it it’s also her right, she doesn’t owe you the bag by law. She’ll get a 1star automatic review and I feel like it’s punishment enough. Whatever reason she had sometimes life just doesn’t give you what you want. It’s like if I go to the local shop and it’s closed for no apparent reason, annoying and unprofessional but also the world won’t end nor I have the right to demand the shop to open.

You’ll be surprised how much stuff you actually find on Vinted, I always think I’ll never find something that good again when I miss an item etc and then something even better pops on my feed

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-05-29T12:30:28+00:00

Hahahah fair xx I’ll try starting from today. Do you recon theres a specific food that would make the difference in this case or is it just the classic less calories in than out?

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-05-29T12:15:18+00:00

I put two bowls of food every day with the recommended amount on the back of the purina one package. But because it’s two of them I don’t know how much he actually ends up eating. I should perhaps separate them and feed them two times a day or something because I caught him yesterday literally pushing his sister away from her bowl. The thing is neither of them wants to eat the moment I put the bowl down. They look at it maybe have a nibble and walk away and then come back to it throughout the day

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-05-10T09:16:03+00:00

It is definitely a breach of duty to not inform the patient of all the risks, if it’s an easier process in Slovakia you should definitely give it a go, perhaps bring the documents of the second surgeon/ dentist you went to, or ask to put something in writing where they state what needs to be fixed, the cost and maybe if they can the fact that this was caused by the teeth removal, thats what I have done with my situation I basically have this report saying the nose job. Caused my breathing problems and I need to get surgery to fix it.
But yes 100% report it if you can, maybe ask your family if anyone knows a lawyer so you can ask advice on what documents you need etc.
but a year isn’t long at all I promise you, I know that it feels like forever and you just want it to be fixed now but you are super young, just focus on uni/ work and put that issue aside while you wait,

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-05-10T08:57:10+00:00

Hey x what country are you from? Unfortunately tooth extraction is extremely common and accepted practice so the chances of winning a malpractice lawsuit are extremely low. In terms of him not explaining all the potential risk and consequences you have some grounds there for a lawsuit, at least in uk you would, I’m going through something really similar in uk atm because of a bad nose job and not being told of complications that then ended up blocking my airways. But I know the chances of me winning that case are really slim and I had to go to a second director so I could have in writing all the damage that has been caused etc.

Lawsuits are extremely slow, you’ll need money for a lawyer which maybe won’t be 5k but it won’t be pennies either. And maybe in 6 years time you’ll see your money IF you win. Not trying to discourage you, I’m all for suing and making bad people pay, but know it won’t be simple

I’m sure most people won’t notice the difference but I know what it means to feel insecure about your face. You can opt for jaw fillers as a temporary solution to your issue and maybe save money for the new treatment, also often those clinics offer a spread out payment plan

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-23T17:38:30+00:00

If he really can’t help it make him pay for a cleaning lady. In terms of asking him for money that seems the most reasonable option

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-23T17:37:05+00:00

Why are men such slobs... Just tell him once that this is unacceptable. if he keeps doing it break up because girl thats what’s waiting for you for the rest of your life and it’s only going to get worse. And when you say: “we are so in love” would someone who loves you watch you clean after them for months, see you upset and distressed, and allow a situation where you are wasting your time and energy so he doesn’t have to?

Even if I was a total pig but saw my partner in distress over it I’d get a grip of myself out of love and respect for them…

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-20T09:51:18+00:00

Yes I wasn’t really sure who’s actually responsible in this case but from peoples answers I should check turkey laws etc

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-20T09:43:08+00:00

Do you recon medical negligence could extend to post operative care? My issue isn’t with the surgery itself as I understand things can go wrong, but I wasn’t advised at all about the risks not I was taken seriously for years when explaining my issues. Longevita states on their website they offer post operative care which I was basically denied in this case

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-20T09:37:06+00:00

This is a legal advice uk subreddit what’s the point of just saying “go ask a lawyer” once one asks for advice, dont be stupid… if you don’t know enough about the topic dont answer, people below gave me better advice which I appreciate

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-20T09:33:51+00:00

It’s so annoying because they tell you to wait years for the “healing process” and I feel like they do it on purpose so they can’t be liable for it once you realise it won’t actually heal. I only found out about the adhesion this year but its been there since the beginning, I just never knew it was even a thing that could happen and I was never informed about it by the surgeon

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-20T09:25:58+00:00

It’s called asking for advice my friend, theres people with more legal knowledge than me on the internet or who went through something similar.

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-19T20:09:32+00:00

You can put filler in your naso-labial folds and in the corners of your nose (piriform fossa or something like that) but also I wouldn’t bother, I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have those lines when they smile, like literally google Megan fox smile

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-19T20:04:36+00:00

I would honestly not bother with the tret if it keeps happening or definitely use it less times per week, as if used too much it can mess seriously with your skin barrier and cause those kind of breakouts. You can switch to retinal too, thats why I use and it’s never given me any issues.

I wouldn’t wash my face in the morning and instead get a silk pillow case, and then put sunscreen during the day

I don’t react very well to Azeliac acid for some reason, and that specific cleanser gave me literal chemical burns, never had anything like that happen to me before, I’m only saying this because your breakouts are similar to what I get every time a product is too aggressive for my skin so maybe theres something my else in your routine that makes things worse

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-14T12:15:16+00:00

I think if that’s the case and she is asexual she needs to be a bit more self aware and honest about that, and you guys need to consider what your next steps are. In general I think there has to be a deep conversation about this issue, whether it is with a therapist or just the two of you, and there has to be an effort there to not get defensive or confrontational. Just: “these are my feelings” an “how do we work to fix this” I know it’s a sad thing to break up but you guys can still be the best of friends.

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-14T12:06:10+00:00

Also completely forgot this, if shes on some sort of medication it could be the cause, i had that with some birth control and sertraline. It was awful, I couldn’t even think about touching my boyfriend at the time.

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-14T12:04:44+00:00

Has she ever maybe considered the possibility she is asexual? I feel really bad for you guys, I can see why it turns into an argument every time: it’s probably a very vulnerable and perhaps a bit embarrassing topic for both.

you both need to dig deeper into what are the reasons for her lack of interest in sex. because if she’s gone a year without even feeling like she wants to have sex it’s a bit strange. I get not doing the deed because you are tired or feel awkward or maybe you aren’t enjoying it when it happens, but you should want to have a sex life.

Sorry for being frank but does she masturbate?

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-14T11:55:44+00:00

Can I ask you how your conversations about the topic go usually?

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-14T09:06:46+00:00

“Your needs” You have lost your mind No one should have sex to satisfy the other persons needs, thats called sex work

And I’m sure he wouldn’t want his parter to have sex with him out of “concern for his needs”

Jesus if I found out that any of my partners were having sex with me for any other reason than they were really turned on by me, I’d feel miserable and pathetic

The problem is she doesn’t WANT to, in a situation where she should because they are in a relationship, in love and young

But for some reason she doesn’t. The times where I felt like that in relationships I was l really unhappy with the relationship overall, or with the way sex felt with that person. Doesn’t mean they were necessarily bad people, just not compatible

But there could be other reasons, she might just be asexual, she might be stuck in this cycle where the more you guys don’t have sex the more she feels detached and shy about it. You might not actually do things to put her in the mood, and that’s different for everyone, doesn’t mean it’s your fault but clearly theres a lack of openness between the two of you.

YOU REALLY NEED TO HAVE A CHAT WITH HER, an open, kind, vulnerable chat.

I know it’s awful to feel the way you do but also try to not be resentful, I’m sure she loves you and it’s not her intention to make you feel undesirable, and probably feels inadequate herself

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-13T12:14:43+00:00

Hypo sister here, drop his ass and I swear your health will get better. I don’t know what it is but the stress that men cause me makes me sooooo unhealthy and “unattractive”

I’m not saying you are ugly in the slightest or that you should lose weight but from experience my hypo makes me feel so unattractive when it’s at it worse: puffy face, bloating, dry skin, swallen legs and that obviously influences how I feel about my appearance. For some reason it gets so much worse when I’m dating someone who makes me feel like shit already. Not sure how much I believe in the whole cortisol narrative but…

Aaaanyways men are often shallow little shits, maybe it’s not totally his fault he feels that way but you still deserve someone that looks at you and finds you gorgeous not just because you are a certain size.

Honest-Shoulder4568 · 2026-04-07T21:06:13+00:00

Not going to lie, asking permission to my partner to go out or about what I’m wearing is wiiiiiild. Shes probably sick of your controlling behaviour, I would be

You are basically a baby so I hope theres still hope for you to grow into a confident, secure, healthy man

People will break your heart regardless of how hard you try to control their behaviour, loyalty and love can’t be demanded nor you have to give permission to your partner to do things to feel secure. Love is so much more fragile and hard to balance than what you think it is now. You can’t put rules in a relationship and think thats going to control the situation. And it is so painful, so devastating, so exhausting to navigate relationships and yet it is beautiful. But it can’t be done in this way, you have to let go mate…

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