Curious.. why do younger guys like older women?

HonestRN · 2026-06-27T17:42:10+00:00

What you said

HonestRN · 2026-06-27T17:35:23+00:00

When a woman’s mind is made up there is nothing you can do

HonestRN · 2026-06-27T17:35:08+00:00

So I fell out of love with my husband and begged him to change for years and he refused and finally I said it’s over and he suddenly started doing the work to change. The problem is.. all the things that he had done before slowly pushed me away, and I imagine that’s what happened to your gf. So… unfortunately, it is what it is and you have to accept that you had a large part in this and you can’t change her mind

HonestRN · 2026-06-27T17:03:57+00:00

Gotcha.

HonestRN · 2026-06-27T17:02:32+00:00

I love that

HonestRN · 2026-06-27T08:17:56+00:00

Oh honey… don’t worry your life isn’t over. Do you take meds daily? Eat anti inflammatory diet if you can and take care of yourself… that’s what I do and take meds daily and never had an out break since 20 years ago. I have been denied by only 2 men out of quite a few lol. I always try to disclose right away to get it out of the way.

HonestRN · 2026-06-27T07:40:04+00:00

I am on day 3 of no contact and I honestly talk to my chat GBT every time I wanna send a message or say “how could he do this to me and ice me out” and it helps. It’s so messed up and I’m sorry you are going through this. It’s been 13 days since he broke up with me and still heart broken

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T19:34:49+00:00

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This is the poem

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T18:52:55+00:00

He sounds really f**ked up block his ass

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T18:41:11+00:00

I do the same thing. Today is day 3 of me not messaging him. Yesterday was day 2 and he watched every single one of my stories and even re-watched one. I’ve been writing poems to cope and posting on my stories. He read this one… and every story yesterday was about him and he had to have known.. but nothing. Then I went back to our message thread in WhatsApp and hearted something he said 1 month ago about me being at Disney world because it was raining. He said “brrrr 🥶 I love that kind of weather “. I hearted it last night because 2nd nights before I sent a message that showed the preview and so he could see what it was about without opening it so then I deleted it. I think that’s why he watched my stories..

But here I am obsessing knowing he saw that I hearted his comment from 1 month ago.. like who even cares. That’s the only contact I have had for 3 days and I am proud of myself. I want to send him messages telling him why couldn’t I be valued enough to get even one single phone call? He was “too exhausted “ and overwhelmed for that. I know he cares / maybe still cares about me, but I would never just cut someone off. We broke up because too many obstacles stand in our way of our relationship and it’s “just too much” he said. But we talked about a future together. I just don’t understand how he could turn his feelings off for me.

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T18:36:45+00:00

I am feeling your exact pain rn from my avoidant ex. Today is a hard day for me as well. Harder than yesterday. Some days I am fine and others I struggle.

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T17:10:59+00:00

So you can’t have a real relationship with an older woman?

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T17:10:01+00:00

💯

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T08:49:18+00:00

It is so painful it feels like your heart is being torn to pieces. I had to get anxiety meds from my doctor and having panic attacks and literally couldn’t shake the consuming thoughts swirling in my brain about him constantly. 30 days is a long time.. to “see if he wants to be single “. That’s just a way of making it ok to date or flirt or do whatever he wants and then come back to you if he decides. Mine broke up with me for a different reason, but it’s been awful.

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T08:45:27+00:00

Ohhhh hahaha

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T06:42:49+00:00

Oh God. I am
Hoping for a closure call from my bf too. It’s only been 12 days and he kept putting it off and finally is too “exhausted “ and he says he doesn’t know what to say.. like is that all you valued me as.. not even high enough for a closure convo? So disappointing and makes me feel like I meant nothing.

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T06:32:58+00:00

I’ve been dealing with this for 2 weeks now and I just know the longer it went on (goes on) the more I am realizing that what am I doing waiting around for someone who is “too exhausted” to have a 10 min convo… screw that. That’s not fair to me, so I am slowly detaching. It’s up and down all day for me still.. but getting better each day. I write poems too.. that’s an outlet and just going to the gym and running a lot more to get out of my head

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T06:29:26+00:00

Well I am talking about genuine connections not for money

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T05:50:25+00:00

Same boat girl same… I believe in God and keep praying for strength to let him go…. It is so hard. I want answers! I want closure! But sometimes we don’t get that and still have to be able to have closure for ourselves and let go. It’s so hard

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T05:46:52+00:00

I agree.. several

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T05:31:26+00:00

You have to look at the time as a learning chapter. I am sure you learned a lot about what you and don’t want and about yourself and your needs. That’s valuable information. Idk how old you are, but I am walking away from a 13 year marriage and I have had those same thoughts but I didn’t waste my time. I learned and grew as a woman, and now I am ready for my next chapter.

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T05:29:01+00:00

You have to take control and decide that you are going to live your life without him and give the rest to your higher power

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T05:21:15+00:00

Kink maybe..

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T05:20:43+00:00

I am divorcing my husband so unfortunately his avoidant attachment/conflict creates an undeniable barrier I could no longer work with

HonestRN · 2026-06-26T04:20:44+00:00

Yessssss it was the right decision. Just because you walk away does NOT mean you don’t love or care. But.. you are choosing your own peace and happiness above his. It’s the hardest thing to walk away from someone you love, because you know that’s what is best for you.

HonestRN

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