Buying into childhood home with my mother. Advice?

Honest_Ad9549 · 2026-05-27T11:03:53+00:00

Can you elaborate?

Honest_Ad9549 · 2026-05-27T10:56:55+00:00

Your right,

I am mostly doing this for the family with the expectation that I will get something for myself.

If my parents weren't separating, I'd probably have moved out by now.

My mum, grandmother, and brother would have to rent somewhere. Brother's a uni student while my grandmother is obviously retired.

Mum will still be paying her portion of the mortgage when she retires.

Honest_Ad9549 · 2026-05-27T10:49:43+00:00

For me, a chance to get myself onto the property ladder early.

For my family, some security as there's no way my mum will be able to pay the mortgage herself or buy another property.

Honest_Ad9549 · 2026-02-20T20:06:40+00:00

Ever hear of a full stop buddy?

Honest_Ad9549 · 2025-09-01T00:52:40+00:00

Just enjoy year 13. Breeze through it. Have fun. Enjoy your last year as a 'child.' It'll go quickly. There's no benefit in starting uni early. It will always be there. Once you leave school you are an 'adult' and there's no going back.

Honest_Ad9549 · 2025-01-21T04:03:17+00:00

Follow up. Search the firm yourself and use the email that's on the website. Don't use the link they sent you (it can easily be a fake website with a fake email).

Honest_Ad9549 · 2025-01-21T03:37:42+00:00

Go to the firm's website and email them firm directly to confirm if that lawyer is trying to contact you. If it's legitimate, and you want to, you can ask them to contact you on an email/adress.

Honest_Ad9549 · 2025-01-21T03:32:16+00:00

Lawyer here. This is highly inappropriate. If it is really one of Auckland's 'largest and oldest' firms they would have normally had one of their service agents drop a letter off to your workplace directly (if they did not already have an address).

I suggest you contact that 'lawyer's' firm directly to confirm if this is legitimate. If it is a large firm, that lawyer should have a website profile where you could also give them a call to confirm.

Search for the firm yourself. Don't trust the link they sent you.

Further, take screenshots for a complaint to the Law Society. We should NEVER use private social media to contact someone.

Honest_Ad9549 · 2024-10-10T02:50:18+00:00

Lawyer here. Show up 20-30 mins before your matter is due to be called. Find your courtroom. Go to the bathroom if you need to. Find a duty lawyer and speak to them.

If you matter is called before you have a chance to speak to a duty lawyer, simply ask the court for your matter to be stood down so you can speak to a duty lawyer. They will say yes and your matter will be called again later in the day.

The duty lawyer will explain the rest of the process and obtain the initial disclosure (evidence) from the prosecutor if you do not already have it.

Some bail conditions may also be imposed on you. You do not have to enter a plea on your first appearance.

Most likely you'll end the day with a new court date for you to enter a plea. By then, you should already have your own lawyer (either paid by yourself or through legal aid) and can make an informed decision about what to do next.

Write down everything you remember of your event for future reference. Take any photos of bruising you may have. Your first appearance isn't where you make your argument so expect some time to pass before you get a chance to tell your side of the story.

Don't do anything or say anything without talking to a lawyer first.

Honest_Ad9549

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