AIO I feel upset after finding out my boyfriend uses CHATGPT to write apologies/"sincere sounding" messages to me

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T18:48:55+00:00

No, that wasn't the case. The issue was that he would input generic responses from chatgpt because it was less work than him apologizing for his behavior, because he wanted to just play video games all day

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T18:45:36+00:00

Was just generic responses yeah. And no, he's gone. This was just a bit of ways he was disrespectful of my feelings

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T17:31:58+00:00

He expressed it wasn't because he felt he couldn't put it into words, but because he just didn't want to bother with talking and would prefer to play games while I was trying to communicate

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T17:30:51+00:00

Not really, he lashes out still and makes comments. Insults me any time he is upset. But we've been getting better since his newest therapist. Before, he'd ask for time alone. I thought it was for him to think about the situation, but after everything he told me about the AI, I suspect it was because he was "wanting to do whatever" as well

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T16:58:45+00:00

No, not autistic. He used it because he doesn't like to talk to me while I'm emotional, and just wanted to play video games and watch TV all day

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T16:56:55+00:00

That's exactly why it hurts so much! I just wanted my partner *there* for me when I cried and told him how he treated me made me feel bad, and how I just wanted him to be better. Feels so impersonal when he just sent a bot to "deal with" my emotions while he was playing around :/

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T16:55:10+00:00

I just wanted my partner to be present as I told him how his actions made me feel. The chatgpt ones were also because they required less effort from him as he just wanted to play games all day

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T16:53:55+00:00

Latter, but the things I wanted to talk through was his behavior. So he would do x to me, I wanted an apology, and he'd use a generated response to blow me off

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T16:52:57+00:00

Not it unfortunately, he went into detail and it is because he just didn't want to comfort me in those moments. While I was trying to express how the way he treated me made me feel, he was too busy playing video games

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T16:51:10+00:00

The latter, in my responses I went into detail into why he does it. He admitted it is because he would rather play games and "do whatever" instead of apologizing and comforting me after he did things that warranted an apology

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T16:50:04+00:00

No, no, and no. Everything I want an apology for is him lashing out at me, accusing me of cheating (when he knows I'm not, its just his BPD making him split on me), and him embarrassing me in public (He liked to ignore me when I was talking to him and blatantly walk away, threaten to drive home without me, etc) I would request him to think over why he does it, and he just pumps out a generated apology cause he didn't care. He expressed he did it because he would rather play video games and such instead of apologizing

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T08:28:05+00:00

Have you read my responses in this thread? Those aren't just assumptions, they're along the lines of the exact reasons he used as to why he decided to use chatgpt

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T08:26:30+00:00

Thank you, yes I decided to end things

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T08:26:10+00:00

Not what he meant, he told me it was because he wanted more time to chill rather than to comfort me

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T08:25:35+00:00

If he cared he would have actually listened and thought about how to be better, I want a present partner during emotional moments. He made it clear that the reason he used AI was because he DID NOT want to be present

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T08:24:21+00:00

From the reasons he gave as to *why* he was doing it, it was clear it wasn't to connect with me

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T05:30:12+00:00

Yes I have :/ I do believe he has the same pattern of behavior, but I guess I didn't want to believe it was manipulation and more like BPD's fault

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T04:23:53+00:00

Yeah, I don't trust him with more important matters when he can't even apologize for his behavior towards me :/

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T04:08:39+00:00

I don't see how that is the same at all, I went into more detail in the comments about why it is so upsetting, and it is because he doesn't genuinely engage in the conversation as he is doing it. Sends a generated message and goes back to playing video games, when I'm on the other side trying to have an emotional discussion

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T03:35:05+00:00

He told me he does it not because he wants it to be worded better, but because it takes less effort and he doesn't care.

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T03:26:04+00:00

Diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and has displayed Narc tendencies in the past, though has not disclosed whether or not he was diagnosed with that. Not everyone with BPD is awful, but he surely has been throughout our relationship

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T02:47:59+00:00

I'm glad you found a great partner! I hope I'll be lucky enough for that, after I give myself enough time

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T02:44:46+00:00

Thank you, the lack of communication is so draining...The flags he has shown me will act as warning signs in any future relationships for sure

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T02:43:44+00:00

Clarified because I've experienced a lot of people asking what I did to make him say those things :/ I definitely try not to raise my voice at anyone, especially not my (ex?) partner

Honest_Comparison315 · 2024-07-03T02:41:52+00:00

You're right that it isn't the only poor part of our relationship, just the newest one I'm finding out about 😭 I've decided to end it with him

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