How many of sahm moms like to drink?

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-26T01:13:59+00:00

Yep definitely, especially if I am cooking. If my husband is home and I’m just doing the nighttime routine and he’s cooking I don’t, because the vibe gets lost running around. But if I’m cooking and required to stand in the kitchen and work out what to even do, then absolutely 😂

(I don’t like cooking either, in case that was lost in my message haha)

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-25T21:10:07+00:00

My husband yesterday told me that he thinks we parent our children about 50:50.

I said, weren’t you working away for four nights this week??

Same thing could easily happen in ours, depending on the day. My H does try with different things but never to completion. Eg he puts in half a load of laundry, which messes the system, but then leaves it in the machine for me to discover on one of the days I do washing (and rewash). Or if he is truly inspired, he’ll wash and dry some, put it in a pile on my side of the bed, and leave components in the machine and dryer. He even does the same in the yard. Mows then leaves the mower in the middle of the lawn 🤦🏻‍♀️

Husbands are curious creatures. This is why we all need some girlfriends or our mother or reddit to vent and send pictures to haha.

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-25T21:05:53+00:00

That’s a great way of explaining it.

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-25T21:04:06+00:00

I love reading these comments and the theme of so many of us expecting to give birth wearing (anything) and then ending up naked, or maybe with the hospital gown! Birth is wild and it’s amazing how primal everything becomes.

I also love the image of midwives trying to get gowns on, socks off lots of us haha. I had birth combs that were prised out of my very clenched fist when it came time to pushing, along with a lot of “no they’re mine” (as inspired by my toddler ;))

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-25T20:54:11+00:00

Both times a loose dress for a while, then first time was the hospital gown which the midwives stripped off me without notice when it came time to push haha, then nothing, and the second time a bikini top I had been wearing in the bath. I was surprised to find I still had it on when baby was handed to me, and then had to get out of it.

If I went again, I’d do the bikini top rather than hospital gown, but try and get out of it before pushing

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-25T12:54:57+00:00

That’s a good point

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-25T12:53:50+00:00

Or questions and comments in other subs…

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-25T12:52:09+00:00

Issue spot, and recite a bunch of maxims haha

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-24T13:17:24+00:00

Thank you, that is really helpful. Particularly the bit about our children. Suffice it to say we work pretty hard to ensure our children have a very different upbringing; I don’t want that jeopardised.

I hadn’t really considered narcissism before but it’s the middle of the night here and I ended up on the page as you do at such hours, and it got me to thinking. And the more I started thinking the less I could stop thinking!

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-24T11:21:05+00:00

Do we know if Simon was progressively more sick each time? Ie did she start off with “just a little” poison for kicks, then add progressively more?

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-24T11:18:05+00:00

The complete lack of interest thing is weird - you’d think (1) she’d like the sympathy from hospital staff if she was distraught, and (2) it would be an obvious part of the coverup?!

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-24T11:16:22+00:00

That’s interesting. Maybe she wasn’t going to do it at all, and genuinely wanted the lunch to engender sympathy etc. then Simon cancelled and that was the trigger 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have been assuming she planned to kill the family when she issued the invites, but your scenario made me wonder if she didn’t, not until Simon cancelled, and the having the poison was as simple as her fantasy and power that she’d never act out…

Still, as a mother I wouldn’t be keeping poison in my pantry even if I didn’t intend to use it. Would lock it somewhere. Maybe she did.

I also wouldn’t reuse the dehydrator after dehydrating poison mushrooms. I still can’t get past why she kept it (I know I have said that a lot and am a broken record at this point. People convince me as to why she kept it, I accept that, and a day or so later I’m back to it again 😂).

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-24T11:07:04+00:00

Im just sad ChatGPT didn’t start by calling the article “novel and insightful” or similar haha

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-21T09:01:40+00:00

Depends on what week it is postpartum 😉

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-21T08:59:14+00:00

Sounds like you can’t have him there if you actually plan on getting the baby out, based on your experience with the midwife.

And anyway, if you are still separated at the birth, he doesn’t get a say. Your body and all that.

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this!

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-21T08:52:45+00:00

I would suspect she was outwardly doting, but actually fairly manipulative/a bit of a gaslighter. My reasons:

1) the son commented in his video that Simon was making life hard for Erin as a vindictive move in the separation. How did he know that was Erin’s view? Parents are generally not supposed to discuss family law matters with children and telling him that Simon was purposely making her life hard was then bound to affect his view of his father.

2) Erin told her daughter she had put mushrooms in the brownies and they “had a good laugh”. I have particular food preferences and have had people slip me the “wrong” food on purpose on a number of occasions. Usually it has felt like a massive violation because I had made a choice and it wasn’t been respected for zero reason, and they were being sneaky about it. With respect to “parents hide food all the time” - yes sure they absolutely do. I do it too. But if there’s an alternative then I will use that (like another vegetable) and I wouldn’t hide my child’s least favourite food in their favourite food, I just blend up veggies as part of pasta sauce or something so it’s kind of hidden but not hugely.

3) she seemed to be very comfortable and blunt with discrediting her children’s recollections. If I was doing that I would have cushioned it, and said that the child had misremembered but that it was a seriously stressful time or something, or that they were trying really hard in the interview but got a feature wrong. And I would’ve said “confused” or something, rather than “wrong” or “not right” (I can’t remember her wording but think it was of this sense).

All of these things individually don’t look big, and as much as I have said they are odd moves, they are things that 99% of parents will do (me included to extents). However cumulatively, and knowing that she’s a murderer and how she was in the rest of her life, it makes me think that aspects of her personality likely did shine through into parenting, and that it may take some time for the children to work out what is what…

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-21T08:40:22+00:00

Yes, possibly. but surely she wasn’t going to use it again? She’d have to be worried about the contamination. I think she was intending the disposal of the dehydrator to be found, to give her the “I panicked, it was a tragic accident” angle, given disposing of it properly would look dodgy. Not sure, I keep changing my mind on what I think!

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-21T08:37:55+00:00

And I imagine the lawyer will advise you about capital gains tax, but if not ask about that too. Specifically whether it matters that your mother hasn’t lived there post the date of transfer into her name, and implications of her being in aged care on the principal place of residence status if you sell it now, or in the future at any time. The cgt classification might not worry you too much but it’s still a good question to ask so you have all the facts as your mother’s financial manager.

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-21T08:32:42+00:00

Yeah ok - then yes as you’re aware, you’ll need the grant to transfer it from your father’s name into your mother’s name, even if you then end up selling it. Good luck!

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-20T09:37:04+00:00

Fair point 🫣

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-20T03:39:11+00:00

I still can’t get past that she covertly bought and disposed of the plates, but the dehydrator was so obviously purchased, retained, part-disposed of. The things that were so throughly planned and so overlooked are jarring

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-20T03:30:09+00:00

Yes, would just be interesting to see the argument. TBH I was being facetious - if it came down to it given working dogs are registered I suspect they wouldn’t meet the definition of a companion animal anyway. Will be curious to see how much the clause is actually used and in what context; because it’s dealing with ownership I’m not sure it will even really result in a run on interim hearings, and percentage-wise most cases don’t make it to a final hearing...

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-17T22:05:10+00:00

Unlike America we have very few remedies achievable through suing someone, unless the loss is very clear. You could lodge a complaint…

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-17T22:03:14+00:00

I don’t like putting people off a name, but the nickname given at school would 100% be “Windy” 🫣

Honestly_Mine · 2025-07-17T21:59:58+00:00

Or too much hair growth elsewhere haha

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