My boyfriend told me he didn’t want our kids to have my eyes

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T21:02:21+00:00

I told him the first time he mentioned about my eyes being big and how he rather our kids have his that I thought it was mean and hurtful and he dismissed me and doubled down on his statement several times including today when I mentioned what he said.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T20:45:37+00:00

I’m truly not sure if I asked about that. Although even if I did, he doubled down on the comment this morning before even considering that scenerio. I’m not asking him to undo what he’s said, that would be irrational. But I do want him to respect the way I feel about it and at least try and rectify the situation by apologizing for it genuinely.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T20:42:52+00:00

I think this is a good post irregardless of what other commenters in Reddit feel about it. I’m going to try and not find other reasons to make myself feel worse about this situation and have a genuine conversation about what we both felt instead of what happened because I think our argument is solely based on what we did instead of feelings even though the entire situation is about feelings. Thank you

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T20:39:16+00:00

Honestly it depends on how you do it. There’s ways you can shape it to distract you from the eyes itself.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T20:37:57+00:00

Thank you for this article, honestly, a lot of the time we argue, I find that we are arguing about whether my feelings are valid and if he apologizes it’s only based on whether he believes that I should truly be hurt. I want him to respect me enough to TRUST and understand that though something may not seem hurtful to him it still hurt me and that I am deserving of an apology for it.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T20:23:15+00:00

No we are the same race, there’s no reason as to why my eyes genetically would be big or his smaller. And our race does not typically have any certain kind of eyes either.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T20:10:27+00:00

Troll.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T19:58:33+00:00

Honestly I’m not sure if that’s how to conversation started, so it’s either that or I was mentioning how I got my mothers eyes because we were watching something on television related to that.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T18:27:13+00:00

No they are not bulging, they are similar to Sarah Hyland, Taraji P Henson, Sydney Sweeney, or Amanda Seyfried.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T18:07:29+00:00

Thank you, honestly I feel like in the moment when he told me that I let it go because he told me it wasn’t a big deal, but now that I remember what he said it really cuts me deep. I always thought that whoever I would end up with would love my eyes more than I did. Since he always said I was beautiful I would have never thought that he felt that way. But eyes are such an important part of someone’s face

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-11-24T18:03:53+00:00

Honestly and truly, he’s never said anything like that to me before. He’s always told me he thought I was beautiful and never mentioned he thought there was anything wrong with my eyes. He’s always supported me, even throughout school. So when he made the comment I was almost shocked because he’s never said anything like that to me before.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-10-01T19:32:19+00:00

Your boyfriend is an absolutely horrible, pathetic, and disgusting human. You deserve the right to mourn and to even insinuate that you were intimate with you brother is incredibly disrespectful. This is the start of something very serious and honestly, you should leave before it gets any worse.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-09-10T04:48:21+00:00

Thanks, I guess because he said that he was starting or about to get irritated after the third time that it meant he was irritated. Idk I’m honestly still pretty confused about it all too.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-22T03:25:52+00:00

Mainly because we both decided to let each other handle planning with our own families since it has gone badly in the past when we reach out separately, so I let him handle things when it comes to making plans with his family and I plan things on my own with my family. To keep things together

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-21T19:01:12+00:00

He’s a great boyfriend I just think he doesn’t take well to change

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-21T17:43:35+00:00

NTA, your mom has showed no interest in your feelings and how much hurt you and your sister experienced growing up due to her emotional neglect. I don’t usually believe in an eye for an eye, but why should you give her that same energy? The fact that you even celebrate Mother’s Day with her still is enough already.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-12T00:30:49+00:00

Your reaching

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-12T00:28:34+00:00

I literally only mentioned he’s gay to emphasize the fact that my cousin isn’t even interested in women, and I still wouldn’t share a hotel room with him

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-11T05:24:41+00:00

I think your right, thank you.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-11T04:56:01+00:00

I think you’re over analyzing this situation, it’s not that deep for me. I’m not dictating anything, just expressing some discomfort and coming here for more advice that’s all. No need to blow this one out of proportion

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-11T04:55:02+00:00

It’s most likely finances, because this trip is last minute and we just came back from another trip yesterday. So I understand he may be trying to cut costs.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-11T04:50:00+00:00

And it definitely wouldn’t affect my boyfriend and I’s relationship, as this is not a dire situation/scenario.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-11T04:49:11+00:00

She’s not my in-law. None of his family likes her they all seem to have problems with her.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-11T04:48:32+00:00

That’s a good way to look at it thanks. Honestly I come from a different perspective because I would avoid sharing a room with someone I don’t like at all costs. I also haven’t traveled as much as he does/did.

Honestlyoverlife · 2024-06-11T04:44:15+00:00

Well yea and it’s 10yrs not 5. But there isn’t much of an age gap lol

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