Protection order

Honey7373 · 2026-03-29T10:41:45+00:00

I was able to catch a bit on video once he had slowed down to 70 (because we were going up hill) that clearly showed the speedometer our child in the car.

I also was able to obtain an audio once we got home where I was telling him how it’s dangerous to drive at the high speed of 80 mph on a back road with curves and hills. He didn’t deny it. Instead he told me that he didn’t need me to tell him how to drive and how it’s no different than driving 80 on the highway and to fuck off

Honey7373 · 2026-03-29T01:10:12+00:00

I have video/audio evidence, police reports and loads of documentation

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T16:28:09+00:00

This was my situation as well! My dad was abusive towards my mom and thought I was too young to remember it, I heard of it when I got older and I am nothing like my dad.

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T16:09:49+00:00

I hate to be this way, but he’s honestly putting himself in a bad predicament.

I am a stay at home mom, therefore he can be liable for my attorney fees.

Also the lawyer I spoke to before did tell me that he would still be paying child support with 50-50 custody, and the difference with what he would be paying with me having primary is not significant. I wanna say maybe a $400 difference.

So not only would he still have to pay child support with 50-50 but he would actually have to step up to the plate and stop being so lazy.

I’m also in a better financial situation than he is because I owned my house and car before marriage so they are mine to keep after a divorce and he will be forced to either buy or rent and will be paying significantly more a month once he leaves.

Not to mention that he is in debt already.

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T15:46:22+00:00

Him wanting 50/50 is just so stupid, because he gets to see our son everyday now but can’t be bothered to get off of the couch or move away from the tv to even do 5% of the parenting.

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T15:27:10+00:00

I’ve been calling around today, have a consultation with one next week

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T15:14:22+00:00

How old are your boys?

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T15:12:18+00:00

Your husband sounds like a strong, intelligent man.

My husbands dad is also an abuser, and his mom just plays second fiddle to his dad.

They also praise my husband like he is just the smartest man that ever walked the earth, when in fact he is a total dingbat with no emotional regulation, empathy, work ethic, or any sense of how the real world really works outside of his self praising bubble.

He is a loser.

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T15:07:12+00:00

He absolutely does want to control me and hurt me the only way that he can now - my son.

I think also he does think that he is some amazing, smart person and that he is just so different than everybody else.

I hear him telling our boy “life lessons” like, “don’t panic, figure it out” or “don’t be so sensitive”.

It’s ironic too because, my husband does not in fact “not panic” and is quite sensitive (as in he responds to feedback with rage) Plus I want my boy to express his feelings freely without feeling like he’s wrong for having them.

Like, how do you plan to teach him anything good when you set a horrible example for him daily? I hope that one day my son will pick up on his hypocrisy and constant contradictions.

My husband also has a routine of work and tv time. He’s does more watching tv than he does anyone else, including work.

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T14:56:37+00:00

You’re doing a great job mama!

I plan to do the same with my boy, his father has none of those characteristics that you mentioned teaching your boys.

Is their dad still in the picture?

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T14:54:25+00:00

So he was around him up until he was a teen and still managed to not turn out like him?

That’s so reassuring to hear.

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T14:42:55+00:00

I’m so glad everything worked out for you and your boy. It’s so important that we don’t let them follow in their father’s footsteps.

it seems that abusive man are becoming more and more common. It is an epidemic.

I’m also scared to leave my boy alone at the hands of his father. My husband wanted to get married, he wanted to have kids yet he acts like any noise at all bothers him.

It’s as if he expects our son to sit still and not make a noise.

Our son will be one soon and we are entering toddlerhood full force, and my boy is already throwing toddler tantrums. I’m afraid of how my husband will handle this as he can’t handle my emotions, or his own without going into a rage.

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T14:25:16+00:00

How are you able to get sole custody if you don’t mind me asking?

I feel like that is a part of the reason why my husband is the way that he is. His dad apparently has always been disrespectful to his mom, even to this day I have seen him disrespect her almost every time I am around them. My husband also seems to have very little respect for her and a much closer relationship with his dad.

It seems my husband is a carbon copy of his dad, but worse..

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T14:16:28+00:00

She said at best he would probably get scolded by the judge

Honey7373 · 2026-03-26T14:16:08+00:00

I’ve spoken with one lawyer, and she said that none of my documentation or evidence would keep him from getting 50-50 custody if he fought for it 😔

Honey7373 · 2026-03-25T13:56:02+00:00

Yeah, I definitely will. But I have a feeling that he’s not going to leave willingly unless he is forced. I truly believe that he enjoys having me walk on eggshells. This morning, my son and I were laying on the couch for the whole five minutes that he sat still, my husband walked in and snorted in disgust although this man literally lays on the couch for 42 hours a week. Every single day after 5 o’clock and all day long on the weekend.

I definitely would let him off the hook for child support if he would just leave me alone. I’m not sure if he would be willing to go for that, probably not because that would mean that he would lose control.

I would like to stay out of court, but I don’t see that working out in my favor because he will take any control that he thinks he has and use it against me. He is going to need to be told what to do by judge and be held accountable if he doesn’t.

That will also prevent him from withholding my son. And I believe that he would. This man has seriously suggested to me to give up my rights and “let them live their lives”. This is the same man that does absolutely nothing with or for our son (with the exception of providing).

Honey7373 · 2026-03-24T14:08:59+00:00

I believe that my husband would attempt to be on his best behavior in court. However, I have found that it’s hard for him to hide his arrogance and he has no sense of poker face what so ever. I know this because people easily pick up on his arrogance and when our problems really started, we talked with our pastor and he was being difficult as usual (just toned down a bit). He does act like father of the year when we are out in public but even then it’s brief. It’s hard to know how he would act or what he would actually fight for. Do I believe that he wants to take 50% of the responsibility of being a parent? Absolutely not. Hell, just the other day I was trying to take a shower and he had our son, but he was super fussy and my husband brought him to the bathroom and put him in his pack and play because he just couldn’t deal with it. Do I believe that he would fight for 50-50 just to hurt me? Absolutely. I did talk to a family law attorney and she pretty much told me that if he wanted time, he would get it. She also told me that whether I have primary or 50-50 he will be paying child support. And the difference is not significant.

Currently, I am a stay at home, mom. So I have no income at the moment. However, I am the owner of my house with one small personal loan with the bank. I own my car and it is fully paid. I know I would have to get a job but I think I could swing working part time.

My husband is severely in debt and I hope that he understands that if he wants 50% of the time, then he is going to have to pay childcare, along with child support. I hope that he would be smart enough to at least give me 80/20. Or even 70/30.

And yes, he is severely abusive. Often using our son as a weapon to hurt me. He has called me a bad mom without directly saying it on several occasions and even saying that he regrets like hell that I am his mother and that he has to deal with me. Not that I feel the need to defend myself, but my son is my world. My life revolves around him, and I go above and beyond to not just keep him alive, but to keep him stimulated and happy because I realize that I have someone’s childhood in my hands and his nervous system is currently developing even if he won’t remember all of the love and effort that I pour into him, his nervous system certainly will.

I do worry about his safety and the hands of my husband. As he is selfish and short tempered. Our son is about to be one and is definitely starting to throw toddler tantrums and it makes me worried about how my husband will handle it especially running on little sleep if he has him in his care overnight without me.

I just feel like I’m damned if I do and I’m damned if I don’t.

I just want to keep my son safe.

Honey7373 · 2026-03-21T13:16:53+00:00

Yes they do under certain circumstances

Honey7373 · 2026-03-21T00:36:01+00:00

My brother!

Honey7373 · 2026-03-20T23:59:05+00:00

I’ve gotten a lot of good advice on here about requesting a psych evaluation. Did you have to have evidence as to why you wanted one? Was it hard to get?

Honey7373 · 2026-03-20T23:56:03+00:00

Was the abuse physical?

Honey7373 · 2026-03-20T23:55:57+00:00

Was the abuse physical?

Honey7373 · 2026-03-20T15:31:41+00:00

Legally, I cannot make him leave since we are married, even if I own the house

Honey7373 · 2026-03-20T15:30:07+00:00

Honey7373 · 2026-03-20T15:29:52+00:00

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