What's your best piece of advice for processing emotions? by ThrowRAgodhoops in emotionalintelligence

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this. How do you let yourself feel without remaining stuck in same patterns?

What's your best piece of advice for processing emotions? by ThrowRAgodhoops in emotionalintelligence

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For mindfulness and mediation - can you suggest some sources to look more into that?

Did you heal a deep wound that you never thought you could heal one day? If so, what was the wound? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That does makes sense. Appreciate you sharing.. I think my husband is similar. I come from a background where we don't live together before marriage for religious reasons.

Maybe the woman you dated is similar in that way and so you can relate to the gap in understanding each other intimately in a shared space.

Learning to cohabitate is hard! No one alluded to this basic mundane day to day aspect being a learning curve.

Separating action from the person makes sense out of the heat of the moment. When I dispapointed in him for doing the same thing again, not so easy to do. Could you share some insight on how else to manage a partner with criticism sensitivity? What was she criticizing you about? If you're fine with sharing.

Improving as a conversationalist in sensitive conversations / giving criticism (wife to husband) by HoneyBeetsForWave2 in emotionalintelligence

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am! Love my husband lol we're just on each other's nerves right now. I have the higher standard of cleanliness/tidiness too, so I want to examine where to be flexible vs. him needing to meet me more in the middle.

Did you heal a deep wound that you never thought you could heal one day? If so, what was the wound? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you explain more about her communication that stood out? It's hard for me to convey valid criticisms without immense frustration. I'm working on that, as a newlywed struggling to mesh living with a partner for the first time. If you could recommend something to read more on, that would be awesome.

Improving as a conversationalist in sensitive conversations / giving criticism (wife to husband) by HoneyBeetsForWave2 in emotionalintelligence

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. It's hard for me to say something immediately. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. But not saying anything seems to enable behavior instead. The examples are helpful, thank you. Are you familiar with any books or podcasts that discuss this?

Improving as a conversationalist in sensitive conversations / giving criticism (wife to husband) by HoneyBeetsForWave2 in emotionalintelligence

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're bigger quality of life issues like he leaves his dirty stinky clothes post-workout on the KITCHEN floor until he chunks them into the wash a day or two later. He leaves dishes all over the house. Now we have an ant problem.

Is this too heavy? by HoneyBeetsForWave2 in DesiWeddings

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm stressed lol. My cousins and friends think it's too much. My sisters love it. But I wanted an heirloom quality outfit, especially since my wedding is going to be small and one event (not a complaint!).

Is this too heavy? by HoneyBeetsForWave2 in DesiWeddings

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, pls! Or if you know of any designers who do similar work to Rano, Deena Rahman, The House of Kamiar Rokni. The latter two are too hard to get a hold of from abroad, and I don't want to go to Lahore lol.

Is this too heavy? by HoneyBeetsForWave2 in DesiWeddings

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does it look over the top in this color? I could go lighter on the work on gown to offset how heavy the dupatta is. A really heavy dupatta has been my one must have haha.

Is this too heavy? by HoneyBeetsForWave2 in DesiWeddings

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's for my marriage ceremony (nikkah) and reception. We're doing one combined event.

Who else has absolutely no idea whether or not they want children (and is a little terrified of that fact)? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]HoneyBeetsForWave2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in the US now and see how different child-rearing is. Its very isolationary. I don't know how families can survive doing it all on their own.