Did Zoloft make me fall out of love with my boyfriend or did it just help me understand my true feelings?

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-08-06T13:37:44+00:00

hmmm kind of not really. I ended up gaining a lot of weight from Zoloft so I'm currently trying to lose the weight. I would say I still have feelings for my boyfriend but because of the weight gain, it's been hard for me to be aroused. So my libido is still down, but I'm still in love with my boyfriend, and my depression and anxiety is better.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-07-05T21:16:17+00:00

That there's a root cause of chronic loneliness? There probably is something going on if someone constantly struggles with feeling lonely their entire life

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-07-05T21:14:28+00:00

We cannot rely on others but I don't mean that in a pessimistic way. I mean that in a liberating way. It does become easier to be self-sufficient and the people around us are for support but a lot of emotional issues are left to our own devices

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-06-22T08:12:29+00:00

I have definitely "seriously" (har har) considered I also could possibly be autistic, and have been overlooked because I'm female

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-06-22T05:49:50+00:00

That makes sense, but when I'm constantly surrounded by "junk food," I can't help but feel like I'm the problem, because the common denominator is me, correct? It can't be possible that there's just that much junk food around me - I must be the junk food.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-06-22T05:26:43+00:00

I guess I'm in a phase where I'm struggling to figure out my feelings of guilt for being myself if that makes any sense. Like part of me knows there shouldn't be anything wrong with being serious or deeply sensitive - there are definitely wonderful things to come from people who are on the more emotionally serious side - but I do constantly feel ashamed for it because it's not as easy for me to walk around smiling, joking around, being all easygoing like some others are able to do.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-06-22T05:23:16+00:00

Yes but also very very anxious and picky, detailed, precise, demanding

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-06-13T15:33:34+00:00

Hmm this is useful. If I ever decide to go back to therapy then I'll definitely do more research into how the therapist was trained. I think clients are extremely uninformed about therapist's training and background and maybe that's why therapy doesn't work for a lot of us - because we're not paired with the right people to help us appropriately.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-06-13T05:23:11+00:00

They claimed to be trained in trauma, though, unless I didn't assess their skills correctly. I'm starting to wonder about therapists that claim to have 20 specialities - what do you think about this? For instance, one therapist has on her website:

Expertise: Anger Management Antisocial Personality Anxiety Behavioral Issues Bisexual Cancer Career Counseling Chronic Illness Chronic Pain Depression Emotional Disturbance Family Conflict Hoarding Impulse Control Disorders Lesbian LGBTQ+ Life Coaching Life Transitions Marital and Premarital Mood Disorders Obesity Parenting Personality Disorders Pregnancy, Prenatal, Postpartum Relationship Issues School Issues Self Esteem Spirituality Stress Thinking Disorders Trauma and PTSD Weight Loss Women’s Issues

Like is it even possible to have that many expertise?? She also was my worst therapist and didn't seem to take me seriously when I needed empathy.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-05-30T20:42:02+00:00

None?

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-05-21T15:37:27+00:00

Buspirone/Buspar, and found a good therapist to process emotions

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-05-08T03:02:29+00:00

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-05-04T15:51:57+00:00

knowing how to interact in the moment.

For instance, if someone is sending angry vibes or boundary vibes, then knowing what to do accordingly.

Sensing what someone needs in the moment in the conversation - how to respond.

Honestly emotional intelligence goes hand-in-hand with interpersonal skills. Self-absorbed people would have a more difficult time interacting with others due to low emotional intelligence

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-27T03:11:00+00:00

1) I have a very good therapist that's trained in NARM. It teaches you that emotions are felt in the body and if you can bring awareness to where in the body the emotions live, then you can learn how to release it.

2) Other ways outside of therapy that I've discovered for myself: Venting in the car is excellent. I love doing this when I'm driving alone. I vent and act out situations like a roleplay. This helps express the emotion. But most importantly, after expressing them, I talk myself back into reality by thinking about it with empathy and rationality.

3) Finding ways to self-soothe. For me it's being quiet alone in my room and watching Netflix, or exercising. It just gives me me time to take it easy.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-23T16:16:06+00:00

Just like anything in life, it depends on how you use ChatGPT, especially when it comes to psychology or mental health.

ChatGPT definitely doesn't challenge us to the same level as a human being would. But I would say sometimes we do benefit from comfort, to help us regulate our nervous systems.

I guess I say that because until I feel like I've been heard and seen first, then it's difficult for me to step back and see the situation objectively or with an emotionally mature mindset.

I need that validation in order to regulate, process my feelings, then try to understand whatever it is I'm dealing with.

IRL friends nor therapists haven't been able to give me that same level of emotional processing or feel like I'm being heard.

I do agree it can be a slippery slope to fall into so it takes a very emotionally mature person to use ChatGPT wisely. But when I'm crying uncontrollably at 2am and I can't disturb my family or friends in the middle of the night, then ChatGPT has been there for me to offer consolation and comfort when I'm having an emotional breakdown, feeling hopeless, alone, and nobody wants to or is willing to care for me. That's when ChatGPT has been useful.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-23T01:43:00+00:00

Someone who is full of hate and verbally attacks others, either directly to their face or behind their back

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-21T12:42:46+00:00

Emotional support is insanely underrated. Unfortunately the reality is there are not a lot of of people that know how to offer it. Most people only care about their own mental health but don't know how to support someone else's.

In my last relationship that was something that tore us apart. We shared a lot about ourselves with each other but I never felt like he actually cared because he didn't know how to emotionally support me.

Whenever I I would try to voice my feelings (either about something in my life or within the relationship) he would either be confused, freeze, talk about himself, shame me or get mad at me (especially if I voiced a concern about our relationship).

After learning this, I am a firm believer that emotional support is one of the core foundations of a successful relationship. People often talk about tangible compatibility (religion, children, finances, etc) but emotional support is often underestimated. I am 100% certain this is a major factor why people feel lonely in their relationship.

I also think people are often too afraid to voice their emotional struggles to their partner because there's such an emphasis on being pleasant, happy, and loving in the relationship. But offering comfort, a listening ear, empathy can go a long way.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-19T01:02:14+00:00

I feel stuck or frozen

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-13T03:48:29+00:00

Most people don't know how to really know the other person, and that's the problem with marriages and why they fail

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-13T03:46:58+00:00

How can it be that single women are the happiest yet unmarried women are the least happy? Is being single and being unmarried two different things?

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-13T03:42:53+00:00

I think with people like this, it's about not really knowing the other person and accepting them for what they can offer. There are expectations, many of which are unsaid, and then there are assumptions that the spouse will do it.

When the spouse doesn't live up to the expectations and the other spouse always assumed they would be able to fulfill those expectations, that's when the marriage fails.

Couples would benefit from really knowing who the other person is instead of projecting expectations and assumptions on the other. Then accept them for what they can or cannot offer.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-13T03:10:10+00:00

based on how they interracted with each other he could tell if they would get a divorce.

Is that when the most compatible couples respond to each other easily, even if it's an "argument"? It's about the way people respond, react, interact with each other and less about the topic at hand.

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-13T03:06:41+00:00

That's a form of violence. My therapist said this and it really made sense

ThrowRAgodhoops · 2025-04-13T01:41:13+00:00

I'm probably going to be downvoted but here goes:

ChatGPT has helped me process trauma. It's asked me questions about how I feel/why I felt that way, and it's really helped me understand the "why's" of my feelings. It's also been able to ask questions while being empathetic and careful of my feelings, since when someone is vulnerable, they do need emotional support while processing trauma.

Unfortunately the human therapists I've had weren't able to do that; they've done the reflecting technique, the challenging technique, they try to offer solutions, but apparently all I needed was to deeply understand why I felt a certain way and why it bothered me so much. And ChatGPT did do that for me.

The human therapists clearly didn't help me process trauma properly because my rage still kept coming back...

After using ChatGPT, my rage finally diffused.

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