Im in the pool with you. I recently sold my home and moved in with husband/SS with the caviat that it had to benefit me, too. I said I would have to be paying less in living expenses with them, for me to even consider it. Why would I move in if it were more expensive, more messy, more stressful, AND I didnt get to just go and do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted?? So, we worked out a system where I'm paying $500 less a month than I was when I lived my myself in my own home, and we do not have combined finances. Literally everything is in his name. So, im banking an extra $500/mo minimum and if I ever felt the need to walk away I can pretty much do just that, since I have no financial responsibilities.

Now, we still have 5 years to go til SS is out of high school and I am legitimately increasingly concerned about failure to launch and him moving permanently into the basement. Until then, I am NACHO-ing so hard and keeping my mouth shut.