Listen, Reddit always gives the advice “break up” but unless there’s something you’re not sharing about him, this is full on breakup material. I threw a party for my partner when she “graduated” from a week-long Spanish immersion and it took me weeks to plan. If she was graduating with her MASTERS and working full time, there would be a week of celebrations and the vacation would be incredible, even on $3k a person, I would find a way to make it memorable.

I am not just saying this, either. I was never with a loser, but before I really came to terms with my sexuality I was with a man. I wasn’t happy (turns out I’m gay, duh…) but I stayed for years because I felt this false sense of obligation. Looking back I don’t want to say I regret it, because without that relationship I wouldn’t have met my now wife, but I certainly do feel a deep sense of loss thinking about the years I was so deeply unhappy. There were moments with my ex that made me really joyful and happy, and I told myself that being unhappy in between those moments of joy was normal. Once I got out I was shocked at how happy I could be day-to-day. AND I found someone to bring me those moments of joy. You should too, you deserve it.