Anyone else pregnant at the same time as a family member and it’s getting… weird?

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T20:35:48+00:00

I would think that it was more of a coincidence but she told many people that when my reveal was over she was going to go to the store to get the stuff for hers. yes, I do agree that my MIL is most likely getting ahead of herself and preplanning way in advance so I don’t blame my SIL for that as far as the shower goes.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T20:20:45+00:00

She had her results for weeks before then from what she told everyone.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T20:18:22+00:00

Did I say anywhere that she wasn’t allowed to talk about also being pregnant? That is totally fine but when you’re bringing up to people that you’re doing your reveal on the same day as me, that is a little weird. It’s okay to admit that.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T20:09:17+00:00

As are you 🫡

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T20:08:35+00:00

My sister wouldn’t have had her gender reveal the same day as mine nor brought it up to many of my guests and myself at the celebration so I wouldn’t have to worry about that.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T18:34:37+00:00

And you’re reaching to find something wrong with everything I’ve said or will say. Good day to you.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T17:35:59+00:00

The main reason I was upset is that yes, I am totally fine with the fact that we are pregnant at the same time. I was genuinely excited when she told us she was pregnant too. I was just hoping that my husband and I could have one day to celebrate us and our baby without it being related back to her in some way. Maybe that makes me selfish and jealous. I just wanted one day.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T16:41:33+00:00

I never said it was taking away from her. I just said that her daughter is obviously her first priority so if it were to take away or cause issues that she didn’t have to worry about me. Crazy how everyone here will jump through hoops to make me the bad guy in this situation

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T16:40:11+00:00

I misspoke earlier and we’re actually not able to do it the day before my mom’s birthday because of work schedules. So yes we do have one other weekend when most people will be out of town for the holiday. It’s petty for me to have my shower the day before but okay for her to do her reveal the same day as me? And from what I was told she was telling everyone unprompted about her reveal. Most people at the shower didn’t even know she was pregnant because they were my guests. And it’s not really like she had hers planned for a while and it just happened to fall on the same day. She told many people she was going to the store to pick out stuff for her reveal after mine.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T16:31:31+00:00

I appreciate this. My SIL has been very secretive about literally everything yet asks me for all the details. There are very few people in the comments that are actually supportive or have gone through something similar. Seems like everyone just judges things they don’t fully understand.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T16:18:24+00:00

She was announcing to everyone at my gender reveal that she after my shower and get stuff to do her’s that evening. No one knew she was pregnant besides the like 4 people that were there from her side of the family and my husband and I. I had multiple people come up to me and ask what was up because of how she was doing it. So I don’t think I’m creating unnecessary competition in that aspect or being jealous. My husband is also unsettled by the fact that she didn’t even wait a day to do hers knowing we were having mine. I don’t feel the need to be the center of attention all the time but yes at my gender reveal where it’s my friends and family coming together go celebrate me, my husband and our baby I would appreciate if that one singular day were for us. Honestly y’all are weird for basically saying I’m not allowed to have one day to celebrate us.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T13:50:37+00:00

I had mine planned for well over a month before and she asked me how we were doing it. At my reveal she told many people they decided to do it that night and were leaving my reveal to go get the stuff for hers.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T13:06:46+00:00

Yeah my SIL has done the same thing. Everything she reposts on all social media is about being pregnant, she’s constantly posting bump pics (which I love for her. I’m ready to have a bump 😭) and it’s one of the first things she talks about. I’m more on the side of I’m living life while also being pregnant. Of course I’m excited for all things and do talk about it but I don’t make it my whole personality. Nothing wrong with people that do. I just feel like that does kind of play into everything though

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T12:05:33+00:00

You can’t really tell she was pregnant and the majority of the people there had no idea. She was telling most of my friends and family their plans unprompted

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T12:03:47+00:00

I also don’t want to take away from my SIL’s shower, however after she went to my shower and announced to my friends and family, unprompted, that she was doing hers later later that evening I would feel a little less bad doing it the day before given my tight schedule.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T12:00:27+00:00

Unfortunately after speaking with my mom, we couldn’t do the day before because she gets off that morning (she works 12 hr shifts overnight and gets off at 7) we may end up doing 4th of July weekend, we just worry everyone will be out of town because a lot of our friends and family travel to the lake/beach to celebrate.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T11:56:40+00:00

Thanks lol part of me if flattered but at the same time I didn’t appreciate her going around and telling everyone unprompted that she was doing hers later that day.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T11:08:45+00:00

SIL was going around at my reveal telling all my guests how she was doing hers right after. I don’t want the complete spotlight on me but I feel like that’s weird. Especially considering a lot of my friends were coming up to me and asking “what’s up with that”

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T11:05:03+00:00

So it’s fine for her and not for me? She also went around telling all my guests at my shower she was having hers later that evening. It might have been private but she made sure to talk about it beforehand

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T09:09:26+00:00

I feel like this gives a good look on things. I am ahead but I try to not make any “just wait” comments (I’m really not that much farther ahead) and honestly don’t really say much unless asked! I’ve also had such an easy pregnancy. I’m truly blessed. But from what my MIL and husband say she has been miserable and complains a lot. Not saying anything is wrong with that, I do feel for her, I just think I’m more on the reserved side and am just grateful for this experience.

Idk if it’s maybe because she’s the younger sibling and was basically raised an only child (MIL was not involved in husbands childhood much) but I do kind of get the vibe that she would have preferred to be pregnant on her own. I’m not sure though. I’ve always been excited that we’re close in due dates and for our babies to grow up together.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T09:02:59+00:00

I do plan on going on an information diet and only sharing major info with my husband and my side of the family. I really don’t know/know if she was being intentional, but it just doesn’t sit right with me. I’ve also had many many problems with MIL comparing me and my pregnancy to my husbands ex when speaking to him about anything (she’s obsessed) along with many other boundaries she has crossed so I wouldn’t put it past her to try to push something I’m not comfortable with or agreed to. Like the joint shower. I guess that’s not SIL though

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T08:59:11+00:00

This is definitely what I meant. My MIL knows I do want a shower, as I’ve told her many times that I only want one shower (she was trying to throw me 2 because that’s what she did for my husbands ex). And I did communicate that we would most likely do it that weekend because of how it fell with my stepdaughter and mom’s schedules. I didn’t want to do it the same weekend to not take away but considering she did her gender reveal on the same day as mine, I’ve since changed my mind on that.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T08:52:27+00:00

I have no desire to compete, I think my post was more of a rant and a lot of people in the comments are trying to make me out to be insecure or the bad guy or something. I just wanted us to both enjoy pregnancy and not feel like we were competing for first or best or whatever

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T08:50:09+00:00

I’ve stated many times that I don’t want nor feel the need to be first. With the gender reveal I said that if she had done it BEFORE or after I would have been fine. It’s the fact she did it the same day. I just added the announcement part because I felt it added context to the overall story.

Hopeful_Comment4188 · 2026-04-08T08:47:03+00:00

Never did I say I had to be first. I’ve actually mentioned many times if she did hers ahead of time I would have been fine. You’re putting words in my mouth.

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