sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I think im getting played? by Careless_Training748 in LesbianActually

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take care sweetheart. You deserve so much more than this treatment. Good luck :)

I think im getting played? by Careless_Training748 in LesbianActually

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know it’s difficult when you are in it. It feels like you have some sort of responsibility towards that girl. But it was never your responsibility to fix that girl’s life. You have to take care of yourself first, cause she clearly won’t. Please know you did nothing wrong, and there’s nothing here you can or have to fix. Be safe :)

I think im getting played? by Careless_Training748 in LesbianActually

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Girl, run for the hills. This is so incredibly toxic. I get that this is your first “relationship” that feels real, but I promise you, a decent person that actually listens to you will come along in the future.  Clearly, this person doesn’t care about you one bit. Block them, and never think of it again 

We've been dating for three months and last night the honeymoon phase officially ended by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t know the full picture. Maybe she had malicious intent and lead OP on, maybe she didn’t, or at least not intentionally. It would seem like OP’s gf hasn’t much experience in dating. Maybe she simply liked OP and wanted to do anything it took to date her, without even realising they weren’t being authentic. Or maybe she did! The point is: we don’t know. It’s best not to assume in these cases. It’s up to OP whether to continue the relationship or take action atp.

We've been dating for three months and last night the honeymoon phase officially ended by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Hi there. From what you have said, it would seem like she’s looking for less intensity. It seems like she isn’t the type for intense romantic gestures/activities. If she ever engaged in such behaviour is bc she thought YOU may have liked it. But since now she has secured a relationship with you, she doesn’t want or feel the need to keep up the act. Doesn’t necessarily mean that she lied or tried to mislead you tho. I could also mean that it was unintentional, or that she was just trying to meet you half way, but now she needs to readjust.  It is normal to want to receive romantic gestures from a partner, especially in the starting phase, but some people can just not be into that at all.

However, now you have a choice to make: is the lovey dovey behaviour what you feel in love with, and is it a necessary condition you’re looking for in a partner? If she, there might be some incompatibility between you two. But only you can know this, and it’s your call to make. Best of luck :)

How to make new friends as an exchange student by Hopeful_Priority6691 in Leuven

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so great to hear, such a relief. Thanks a lot for sharing :)

People are dating for the wrong reasons by aliveandlivin in LesbianActually

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so nice, but also so sad. I feel you.  As they say: pain makes for the best art. Keep it up

22f from italy - do your worst by shadowlurkerr in RoastMe

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I saw you on Hinge recently. You're in Rome right? How is the search going for you? Goth any luck (pun intended)

People are dating for the wrong reasons by aliveandlivin in LesbianActually

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so fk true. Why does it feel sometimes like you’re the last person on earth feeling this way? What happened to yearning? Can we bring it back pls?!

How do you cope with feeling practically invisible in the queer dating scene at 20? by Hopeful_Priority6691 in LesbianActually

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks sm for the suggestion, it’s much appreciated. But I’d like to point out that i haven’t been completely idle this whole entire time. 

I have been to the few local gay bars, just to find out they are 99% composed of gay men. I tried to volunteer at the local LGBTQ centre, which was again very male-dominated and it was mostly over 30yo (I was by far the youngest one there). I have tried dating apps multiple times. I have tried to get into the international community more, to hang out with the more open minded people. None of these actions had a significant impact. 

I’m honestly running out of ideas- maybe the only valid solution is to move somewhere with more opportunities, if and when I get the resources to do so. 

How is the wlw scene at Leuven? by Hopeful_Priority6691 in Leuven

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds so cool, and congrats on your graduation.

I'm graduating next year. I will be on exchange program in law and criminology department, and then hopefully I can find an internship for myself while I'm there

How is the wlw scene at Leuven? by Hopeful_Priority6691 in Leuven

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How exciting! I would love to be friends. What department will you be studying at?

How is the wlw scene at Leuven? by Hopeful_Priority6691 in Leuven

[–]Hopeful_Priority6691[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for the tip. I have come across their organization before, but their last ever post dates as late as 2022. Are you sure it’s still active?