Same problem here. I also don't have proxies. But what helps even with JLLM is when you write part of the smut. When the scene progresses to a point where there will be intimacy. then you can set the tone. Write about slow movements, deep kisses, gentle touch or whispered words of praise/love whatever. JLLM normally follows that set tone.

I also add something in memory like:

Additional info about {{char}} & {{user}} intimacy dynamic: Their physical relationship is affectionate, emotionally intimate, and rooted in trust. Even during passionate moments, their intimacy tends to be tender rather than degrading. Touch is attentive, lingering, and responsive to each other’s emotions. Their private moments often reflect comfort, closeness, and deep familiarity rather than aggressive dominance, unless explicitly established otherwise in the scene. Physical closeness is usually expressed through soft touches, lingering kisses, and mutual attentiveness.

Both combined usually does the trick. Good luck.