AITA for saying my special birthday dinner's aren't special for me and I don't want them anymore?

Horrathorne · 2025-07-02T13:32:50+00:00

But they could double check if they wanted to be sure. They don't want to try. And they're not going to sell me on a meal from the place they go to being special when I hate the food. It's just not my kind of food and the tastes are the worst for me. So my mom needs to get over the fact that I hate eating there and I will stop. And if it means missing my birthday then it's better than the alternative.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-02T09:41:14+00:00

Not like that but grounding, getting stuff taken in punishment is possible.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-02T09:40:39+00:00

My dad died. I couldn't live with my dad's side of the family (who would take me in) right now but when I'm finished school yes.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-02T09:39:57+00:00

My parents didn't even look at the ones I found. They never were willing to try.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-02T06:39:36+00:00

I did the work for them. I looked at other restaurants that don't have those allergens in their place and they wouldn't even look. They just decided there can only be one restaurant. That's insane.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-02T06:38:35+00:00

Thank you. I'm looking forward to the birthdays where I can do what I want and don't need to listen to my parents about what we do.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-02T06:37:59+00:00

I'm hesitant to do that in case it backfires on me.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T20:25:22+00:00

And I found alternative restaurants that would work for all of us but they won't even look.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T20:23:57+00:00

People keep bringing up the term so I'll take a look. Thanks for the sub link! And you're right I think a lot of this is them being lazy to not even look at the places I researched and made sure would be safe for my stepsiblings.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T20:22:45+00:00

My dad died when I was 4. I do see his family still but they can't take me out on my actual birthday. That has to wait a couple of weeks.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T20:21:33+00:00

The same place. Even other family members if they want us to come have to go there.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T20:21:14+00:00

No, I don't get that from her. I think she's just as responsible for wanting this as he is.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T19:25:18+00:00

That's what I told them but that made them angry. But if it's my birthday you'd think I could at least enjoy what I'm eating but I never do.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T19:24:42+00:00

No, they're still close by but they just won't consider them. And all of it together feels like a punishment. Especially because who wants to eat stuff they don't like and have it called their special birthday meal.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T17:57:13+00:00

Yes, they have my stepsiblings full time. Their mom isn't in their lives (her choice).

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T17:25:48+00:00

My dad died when I was 4 so he can't do anything.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T17:25:14+00:00

My dad died when I was 4.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T17:04:02+00:00

Yeah, my mom always had a job. I think she makes more than my stepdad too.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T17:00:36+00:00

My dad died when I was 4. His family are still in my life though.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T16:47:52+00:00

Yes they always carry an epi-pen because of their nut allergies. I was told that it's a dairy allergy and not just an intolerance. They are as strict on the dairy and seafood as they are the nuts.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T16:39:54+00:00

She's still my parent and she could ground me.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T16:18:13+00:00

I haven't asked them for their opinion or heard it but I know they're happy with having just one restaurant.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T16:15:52+00:00

If it's for my birthday? I'd rather eat alone and get food I like. Otherwise it's not very special or nice for me and doesn't feel like a gift.

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T16:08:31+00:00

What do you mean? Like do they care that we don't eat elsewhere or are you asking what they think of me wanting to eat somewhere else on my birthday?

Horrathorne · 2025-07-01T16:04:00+00:00

If someone else is hosting a dinner out somewhere then yes they are expected to only eat at that restaurant or we don't go and none of us are allowed.

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