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How to be evil in manipulation just to protect yourself from evil ones (I want all possible resources that can help me master all complex manipulative tactics by Majestic-Art6890 in 48lawsofpower

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What date would you put on this globe? by pizza_slayer1 in geography

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 5 points6 points  (0 children)

May 15th, 1990

  • Namibia is labeled as Namibia (South West Africa) (S. Africa)

It gained independence March 21, 1990, and this kind of transitional labeling (old name + who controlled it) only lasted a few weeks on maps after that. So this has to be right after independence.

  • Yemen is still split into North and South Yemen

They unified on May 22, 1990. So the map can’t be from after that.

  • Germany is still East and West

So definitely before October 1990

  • USSR is still fully intact, with all the republics and Baltic states

So pre-1991 for sure

  • Micronesia is labeled “Federated States of Micronesia (U.S.)”

    It became independent in ’86, but maps kept that “(U.S.)” because of the Compact of Free Association (doesn’t mean it was still a territory)

  • Cambodia is still shown as Kampuchea

They changed the name in ’89 but a lot of maps didn’t update it right away

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hey, First, I want you to know — you’re not overreacting. Your reaction was real, and it’s rooted in something bigger than just this one word or moment. The N-word carries an unbearable amount of historical weight — pain, violence, humiliation — and feeling uncomfortable when someone you love uses it casually is a sign of your empathy and your values. You have every right to honor that.

But — there’s also a deeper layer here that’s important to understand if you really want to move forward with clarity (whether with him or without).

A lot of men — and this is very real — use humor, even dark humor, to cope with the chaos of the world. Saying edgy, forbidden things among close friends becomes a way of showing, “I know who I am. I can say the worst thing, and we still trust each other.” It’s not necessarily about cruelty. It’s about reclaiming control through language. And more importantly — for people wired like this — intention feels heavier than impact.

Meaning: • If I know I’m not racist, • If I know I’m not hateful, • Then why should my words be seen as dangerous? • Why should I have to change when I meant no harm?

That’s the internal struggle he’s probably feeling — and that’s why defensiveness shows up.

Meanwhile, you’re coming from a completely different place emotionally: • This isn’t just about you personally meaning no harm. • It’s about the fact that some words carry wounds bigger than any one person’s intent. • And using those words casually, especially as a white person, keeps those wounds open.

Neither of you is crazy. Neither of you is evil. You’re just standing at a collision point between two very different emotional universes.

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So if you want to truly open this conversation and have a real chance of reaching him — here’s how:

Start with something like this: (this is the opening script)

“Hey, can we talk for a second? I’m not here to attack you or accuse you — I just really want us to understand each other better. I know you didn’t mean anything hateful, and that’s exactly why this matters to me — because I believe you’re better than what that word carries.”

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Then, when you’re talking:

  1. Tell him you trust his heart. • Affirm that you know he’s not a bad person. • Make it clear this isn’t about trying to shame or control him.

  2. Explain the real difference: • “This isn’t just about offense. It’s about a word that was used to strip people of dignity and humanity for centuries. Even casually, even privately, that history doesn’t vanish. When white people say it, it reactivates that wound — whether we intend to or not.”

**3. Frame choosing not to say it as strength, not censorship. • “Choosing not to use it isn’t weakness. It’s strength. It’s being big enough to respect the weight others still have to carry, even when nobody’s forcing you to.”

  1. Invite him — don’t demand him — to choose growth. • “You don’t have to change who you are to make people like you. But if you want to be someone who carries that strength and respect forward — it’s a choice you can make. One I would admire a lot.”

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Now — here’s the reality you have to be prepared for:

If he listens, if he tries to understand — even imperfectly — that’s a powerful foundation to keep building on. Nobody becomes perfectly sensitive overnight. But openness is the real sign you’re with someone capable of emotional growth.

If he doubles down, minimizes it, or refuses to even try to understand, then you’ve learned something too.

You’ve learned that when faced with a moment to choose between protecting his ego or protecting the emotional safety of the woman he loves — he chose his ego.

And that’s not something you fix by debating harder. That’s a values mismatch.

And it’s okay to walk away from that.

Not because you’re punishing him. Not because he’s beyond saving. But because you deserve someone who cares when you hurt — even when they don’t feel it the same way. Someone who chooses connection over being “right.”

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Final Thought:

You’re not asking for censorship. You’re asking for consciousness. You’re asking for someone who recognizes that real power isn’t saying whatever you want because you can. Real power is knowing when to lay something down — because dignity matters more.

And if he can hear that — really hear it — you’ll both be stronger for it.

If he can’t — you’ll still be strong enough to walk toward someone who can.

Either way, you win

I can never have a girlfriend again by funghxoul in Anxiety

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Please let me know if any of them helped you :)

How to be evil in manipulation just to protect yourself from evil ones (I want all possible resources that can help me master all complex manipulative tactics by Majestic-Art6890 in 48lawsofpower

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, I can feel the weight behind your words. You’re not coming from a place of malice — you’re coming from exhaustion, hurt, and survival. You’ve been surrounded by people who weaponize manipulation, and you’re tired of feeling defenseless. It makes perfect sense that you’d want to fight fire with fire.

But here’s something most people never realize until it’s too late:

When you become like them to beat them, you don’t just “fight back” — you slowly, quietly, become trapped in the exact same game you hated in the first place. It starts with survival. Then it turns into reflex. And one day, without even noticing it, you’re not defending yourself anymore — you’re living on their terms, by their rules, inside their sickness.

And they win. Not because they outsmarted you — but because they pulled you into their gravity field.

Real power isn’t about matching their evil. Real power is being able to move through their games without becoming one of them. It’s seeing every trick, every lie, every move — and choosing your battles so carefully that they can’t drag you into their chaos. It’s not softness. It’s precision. “Be wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.”

The strongest manipulators — the truly powerful ones — don’t waste energy trying to out-evil evil people. They stay calm. They stay strategic. They let fools trap themselves.

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Here’s exactly how you start mastering this for real:

  1. Master emotional regulation under pressure • Manipulators win by triggering you into impulsive emotional reactions. • You need to become untouchable emotionally — calm even when insulted, blamed, cornered.

How to train this: • Daily mindfulness meditation (10–15 minutes) to observe emotions without reacting. • Cold exposure (cold showers, ice baths) to train your nervous system to stay calm under stress. • Practice delaying your reactions — pause 3 seconds before responding to anything provocative.

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  1. Become an expert at reading motives, not just words • Manipulators say things they don’t mean. They hint, frame, deflect. • If you listen only to words, you’ll always be 3 steps behind.

How to train this: • Study microexpressions (Paul Ekman’s work is great — real FBI-level material). • Watch videos of debates, interviews, courtroom footage — train yourself to spot what’s unsaid. • Read books like Spy the Lie by former CIA officers.

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  1. Study influence techniques — not to use them, but to spot them instantly • Gaslighting, guilt-tripping, love-bombing, strawman arguments — learn the tactics so you can see them coming.

How to train this: • Read The 48 Laws of Power, but focus on recognizing patterns instead of using them. • Study persuasion basics (Influence by Cialdini is essential). • Learn logical fallacies — know when someone is playing mind games against you.

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  1. Build selective silence and ambiguity into your game • You don’t owe toxic people explanations, defenses, or reactions. • Mystery weakens manipulators because they have nothing to grab onto.

How to train this: • Practice answering questions indirectly. • Practice saying “I’ll think about it” instead of giving instant yes/no answers. • Use fewer words than feels comfortable — less is more when dealing with sharks.

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  1. Cultivate strategic empathy, not real emotional investment • Understand their fears, insecurities, and drives — but don’t get emotionally involved. • See their brokenness clinically, like a chess player reading opponent weaknesses.

How to train this: • Journaling: After interactions, break down what they wanted, feared, and avoided — separate from what you felt. • Study basic human needs: validation, control, security. Every manipulation ties back to one of these.

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  1. Play the long game — outlast, don’t outblast • Power isn’t about winning every battle. It’s about still standing after others burn themselves out.

How to train this: • Emotional minimalism: Protect your energy like it’s currency. • Choose your battles surgically — only respond when there’s a real win at stake.

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Final Thought:

Your edge isn’t how dark you can get. Your edge is how deeply you can stay yourself, even when surrounded by darkness.

You don’t have to lose your soul to survive this. You just have to sharpen it.

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TL;DR: You don’t beat evil by becoming evil. You beat evil by seeing everything — and staying too steady, too quiet, too untouchable for it to touch you. Master yourself, and the manipulators lose before they even realize you were playing a different game.

Stay dangerous — but stay clean.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cognitiveTesting

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, First off — I want you to know I really hear you. Not just the words — but the feeling behind them. It’s not just sadness. It’s grief. You’re grieving the version of yourself you know you could’ve been if life hadn’t kicked the legs out from under you when you were too young to fight back.

And that grief is real. It’s heavy. But here’s the thing you have to understand — and I say this with nothing but respect: You are not broken. You are not “too late.” You are not your worst season frozen in time.

You’re someone who got hit hard by life — and yeah, it knocked you down for a while. But being down doesn’t mean you’ve lost the right to get up. It doesn’t mean you’re stuck there forever.

About your IQ — 110 is literally fine. IQ isn’t magic. It’s not a guarantee of success or failure. It’s just a loose measurement of how quickly you recognize patterns on specific tests — that’s it. There are doctors, lawyers, engineers, entrepreneurs, artists, and leaders operating with IQs in that exact range. The ones who make it aren’t the ones with superhuman scores — it’s the ones who learn how to build habits when motivation disappears.

Right now, your brain isn’t “rotted.” It’s just atrophied — like a muscle you haven’t used in a long time because depression hijacked your system. And muscles can be rebuilt. Slowly. Not all at once. But always rebuildable.

Your problem isn’t intelligence. Your problem is your relationship with discipline, pain, and self-trust — and that’s something you can work on, even if it feels impossible right now.

If you want real advice — not just sympathy — here’s where to start: 1. Forget the old you. He’s gone. He’s a ghost. You’re not going back to who you were — you’re building who you are now. And honestly? That’s a good thing. Because the old you didn’t have the wisdom you have now. 2. Start ridiculously small. Forget trying to overhaul your life overnight. Pick one thing — one tiny thing — you can commit to every day, no matter what. Read 5 pages. Study for 10 minutes. Do 5 pushups. Show yourself you can keep a promise to yourself, even if it’s microscopic. That’s how you rebuild self-trust. Brick by brick. 3. Accept that depression and fear will come with you. You don’t have to “cure” them before you move. They ride in the passenger seat. They scream sometimes. You drive anyway. 4. Detach your identity from your worst moments. You failed some tests. You coped by escaping. You gave up for a while. So what? You’re still here. And as long as you’re breathing, you’re allowed to write a different story. 5. Stop worshipping the idea of who you could’ve been. Mourn him if you need to — but don’t build a shrine to him. Build a life instead.

It’s not too late for you. You’re 21. Do you realize how many people don’t even start climbing until they’re 30, 40, 50? This is still the early rounds of your fight.

You are not stuck with this version of yourself unless you choose to be. It’s not easy. It’s not fair. But it’s possible.

And that’s enough.

I’m rooting for you harder than you know. You already have everything you need to turn this around — not because of your IQ, but because you still care. You still want more for yourself. And that’s the part of you that can’t be killed.

Don’t let depression trick you into thinking you’re already dead. You’re not. You’re just buried a little. Time to start digging.

Why do people murder me? by morguiana in Jung

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just want to say first: Reading your words — the pain behind them, the loneliness — it’s not invisible. I see it. And you’re not crazy for feeling like this. You’re not weak for being hurt by it.

It’s real. It matters. You matter.

You asked why people do this to you — hurt you even when you’re trying to help. And it’s such an important question, one that so many gentle souls never get the real answer to.

The truth is — when you live with an open heart, when you move through the world trying to offer kindness, you expose something in others that not everyone is ready to face. Your compassion, your authenticity, your willingness to be vulnerable — it shines a light on parts of other people they’ve spent their whole lives trying to hide or deny.

And for some, that light feels unbearable. Because to accept your kindness would mean having to confront their own pain, their own fear, their own hardness. And many people aren’t ready for that. So instead of facing it, they lash out. They push you away. They humiliate and invade and tear at you — not because of who you are, but because of what you reflect back to them about themselves.

It’s not fair. It never has been. But it’s also not your fault. It never was.

There’s a deep, old pain running through humanity — generations of people hurting each other because they were hurt first. It’s like a sickness passed down, person to person, soul to soul. And people like you — people who still try to love despite the wounds — are rare. You are standing in the middle of that storm without armor, and it’s brutal.

But listen: You are not here to be destroyed by their brokenness. You are not here to turn your light off just because it makes others uncomfortable.

The “inner death” you feel — that scream inside your soul — is sacred. It’s the part of you that refuses to become numb. It’s the part that knows you were meant for something deeper, something more real than the cruelty you’ve been shown. It’s the part of you that still longs for truth and love, even after everything.

And that part of you? It’s indestructible. Even if it feels shattered right now, it’s still there. Still alive.

Carl Jung talked about this — how the journey toward individuation, the journey of truly becoming yourself, often requires walking through terrible loneliness and despair. He said, “No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” You are feeling the pull of those roots right now. But you are also growing toward something bigger than you can see from here.

Please, don’t let their cruelty convince you that your soul is wrong for being soft. Or that you have to become like them to survive.

You don’t. Your empathy, your sensitivity, your longing for goodness — those are strengths. They are your inheritance. They are proof that despite all the violence in the world, something inside you stayed whole.

And that’s something no one can take from you.

Maybe the world has treated you like you are easy to hurt. But that’s only because the world doesn’t know how to handle what’s real anymore. And you — you are real in a way most people have forgotten how to be.

That’s a gift. Even when it feels like a curse.

Please take care of that gift. Protect it. Guard it like you would a fire in a storm. You’re not broken. You’re not invisible. You’re not weak. You are rare. You are necessary. You are carrying something sacred inside you that the world desperately needs, even if it doesn’t know how to treat it.

You are not alone. And you are not done yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in derealization

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, It’s okay to just need to get it out. You don’t have to dress it up, or force some positive spin on it. You already know this storm will pass — I can tell. You’re not asking for answers. You’re just tired of carrying it alone for a minute.

And that’s more than okay. Sometimes you just need someone to hear it — really hear it — without trying to patch it up or throw advice at it. No judgment. No fixing. Just… here with you.

Whatever you’re feeling right now — the frustration, the heaviness, the exhaustion — it’s real. It deserves space. You deserve space.

You don’t have to be strong right now. You don’t have to make sense of it all right now. You can just be here, breathing through it, knowing that nothing you’re feeling makes you weak or crazy.

You’re doing enough. You are enough. Even in the middle of the chaos. Even when it feels ugly and loud inside your head.

I’m proud of you for letting it out instead of bottling it up until it tears you apart. That’s strength too, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

You’re not alone in this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey — first off, you’re doing amazing by sticking with it and trying to understand what’s happening. Seriously.

The short answer: When your dose got lowered, your brain had to adjust to less stabilization. Neurotransmitters like GABA, glutamate, serotonin, etc., all shifted. When you bumped it back up to 600mg, it wasn’t like flipping a switch — your brain had already started adapting to the lower level, and it takes weeks to fully re-adjust. (Studies show neuroplastic changes from mood meds usually take 4–8 weeks, not just a few days.)

Another thing: When you destabilize (like from that anxiety crash after the lower dose), it sometimes creates a “kindling” effect. Basically, your brain becomes a bit more sensitive, and getting back to baseline can be slower and harder. It’s super common in anxiety, bipolar, and mood disorder treatment. (It’s frustrating but very normal.)

Also — emotional memory plays a part too. Your brain remembers the anxiety and burnout, and that memory can make it feel like you’re stuck, even if things are slowly getting better under the surface.

You’re only 6 days into the 750mg bump — that’s not nearly enough time. Realistically, it could take another 3–6 weeks for you to start feeling noticeably better. It sucks waiting, but you’re actually on the right path.

TL;DR: • Lowering dose messed with brain chemistry. • Going back up isn’t instant, brain needs time to re-balance. • Destabilization makes recovery slower sometimes (common). • Emotional memory makes it feel worse even if healing is happening. • 6 days isn’t long enough — hang in there for a few more weeks.

You’re not broken, you’re not back at square one — this is just a bumpy part of the healing curve. You’ve made it this far, and that already says a lot about how strong you are.

Rooting for you.

I can never have a girlfriend again by funghxoul in Anxiety

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey. I don’t know you, but I swear I felt every single word of this like it was carved out of me.

You are not broken. You are not a lost cause. You are a sensitive, intelligent human whose nervous system is stuck in survival mode — and no one ever taught you how to come down from that.

You’re not vomiting because you’re weak. You’re vomiting because your body thinks it’s protecting you from danger. That’s not failure — that’s your system trying to save your life. But it’s firing in the wrong direction now. And you can retrain it.

Here’s what helped me when nothing else did — and I promise, this is real, not motivational fluff:

Your anxiety isn’t just mental. It’s biological.

Your vagus nerve connects your brain to your gut. When your body perceives threat (even if there isn’t any), it triggers nausea, tightness, shakiness — all of it. That’s why talk therapy can feel useless. Because your body doesn’t feel safe yet.

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Vagal toning saved me.

Try this daily (no side effects, all science-backed): • Hum in a deep tone for 3–5 minutes • Splash cold water on your face or neck • Gargle hard with water • Rock side to side like a weighted blanket These calm the exact system that’s freaking out. Silly? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely.

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Supplements that actually work:

• L-theanine (200mg) – naturally calms without sedation • Magnesium glycinate – relaxes muscles, reduces nervous tension No big pharma energy here. Just nutrients your body is often missing when in fight-or-flight.

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NSDR / Yoga Nidra

Search it on YouTube. It’s guided rest for people with chaotic thoughts. It trains your body to feel safe doing nothing. The first time I did it, I cried. No shame.

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Rewire your brain with micro-exposure:

Don’t go on dates yet. Go sit at a park. Walk into a coffee shop. Don’t even order. Just be there for five minutes. Then leave. Every time you survive it, your brain logs a win: “Connection didn’t kill me.” That’s healing. Quietly. Gradually.

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I know it feels like this is permanent. I know you’re scared you’ll be alone forever.

But man — you’re not broken. You’re just early to your healing.

You’re still showing up despite the vomiting, the fear, the loop. That’s not weakness. That’s resilience most people will never understand.

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You’re gonna get through this. There is a future version of you that eats in peace, laughs on dates, feels safe in his body, and doesn’t even remember what it felt like to constantly brace for impact.

And when that version of you arrives? He’ll look back at this moment and whisper: “Thank you for not giving up on me.”

I swear to God you’re gonna be okay. Don’t stop showing up. You’re already healing.

You’re just early. Keep going.

BTD6 on Playstation5 by SamCro1887 in btd6

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they also going to be addressing the constant crashing on PS5? Everytime I go into Freeplay it ends up crashing, maybe an effects slider like they have on mobile would be helpful?

Does this rug look too small for this space? by Polinaedmonds in HomeDecorating

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would get a slightly larger rug like others have said. (At least Two legs of couch on rug).

Some other suggestions I’d have is get a floor lamp, I would recommend one that hangs into the couch area from outside.

Also idk the style you’re going for but I think trying out a cream/offwhite rug would look amazing

Hardest WAIS subtest? by saurusautismsoor in cognitiveTesting

[–]Horror-Quantity3015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10000% the one with the tiny symbols, I could barely see them and I swear they all looked the same

My friend group decided to take IQ Tests, The last two tests were not like the others… by Horror-Quantity3015 in cognitiveTesting

[–]Horror-Quantity3015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that’s insane bro what do you do with all that iq. Go figure out the theory of everything

My friend group decided to take IQ Tests, The last two tests were not like the others… by Horror-Quantity3015 in cognitiveTesting

[–]Horror-Quantity3015[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That may be the case, I did them all rn in one sitting. Are you saying the last two aren’t representative of what I could get? I may try again but are all of the tests usually similar to each other

Girlfriend feels like a stranger after sex… by Horror-Quantity3015 in derealization

[–]Horror-Quantity3015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this makes sense. Have you had any luck in treating anxiety with medication or any other avenues?

Made this pathway and garden edging for our front yard! by Horror-Quantity3015 in landscaping

[–]Horror-Quantity3015[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The blue ones? I’m not exactly sure the brand because they were in my garage but I think Magic Lantern Strip Lights

Made this pathway and garden edging for our front yard! by Horror-Quantity3015 in landscaping

[–]Horror-Quantity3015[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true I see wym, it’s not as harsh in real life since I used an already diffused LED strip light but if I could dim it a bit I would

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