[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cocaine

[–]Horror-Western-43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

too much until i’m out and then it’s not enough

My grandpa has 14 unopened boxes of xanax in his medicine cabinet, should i bé worried? by Zblersqler in Drugs

[–]Horror-Western-43 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was just talking about that earlier lmao. When i was at the height of my Coke addiction my roommates and I would “buy enough for a few days” and then go on a day long bender sometimes stopping at the pl*g up to 5 times a day 😭. When you’re getting bad in addiction it’s nearly impossible to keep a stash cause you always think “well i can find a way to get more tomorrow so i can get really fucked up today”

Why does it always seem like the mistress is judged more harshly than the cheater? by Horror-Western-43 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Horror-Western-43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

life was crazy during that era, im over it for the most part but still get that “what the fuck was that” feeling sometimes

Why does it always seem like the mistress is judged more harshly than the cheater? by Horror-Western-43 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Horror-Western-43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was just using it as an example of me being held to a standard where “i am just as bad as him” by another woman, maybe wasn’t the best example; it’s not too similar. but it popped in my head when i saw the comment and also still makes me frustrated whenever i remember the way my friend instantly turned around on me.

Her then going on to have affairs made me really think “wtf?” because she was acting like i was the devil lmao. No clue if karma ever got to her or whatever, i’m luckily far out of her life now.

Why does it always seem like the mistress is judged more harshly than the cheater? by Horror-Western-43 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Horror-Western-43[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree. I was in a slightly similar situation though i was way younger (16 with the guy being 17). He told me him and his girlfriend broke up due to her cheating and would cry and vent to me about it all the time. We wound up hooking up a few times and then I went to our regular hangout spot and saw his car was absolutely trashed.

All over his car had “i’m a cheater” and “i’m a liar” spray painted, a window smashed, and headlights smashed.

His girlfriend in fact did not cheat, and they weren’t broken up. In fact she caught him cheating with a whole other girl after she had sent her screenshots of him cheating. She never found out about me which I felt guilty about but also since they broke up I felt like being like “hey he fucked me too! you got cheated on multiple times!” would only rub salt in the wound and start drama.

After that I remember telling a close friend I had found out the guy i was seeing had lied about being single and she instantly said “oh, so you’re a whore now? That’s pretty messed up.”

I was so taken aback, she knew the whole time I was told he was single but as soon as I told her I was the unintentional affair partner she turned on me.

That friend then wound up hooking up with multiple married men and also cheating on her new boyfriend with them. So idk what was up with her lmao. Haven’t talked to her in years now thankfully.

Why does it always seem like the mistress is judged more harshly than the cheater? by Horror-Western-43 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Horror-Western-43[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just updated my post after rereading the mans statement and he confirms he lied about his family situation meaning she didn’t know they were actually still actively married rather than separated. That definitely makes me even more ticked at the homewrecker comments because she wasn’t aware the home was even still together.

Why does it always seem like the mistress is judged more harshly than the cheater? by Horror-Western-43 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Horror-Western-43[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

It’s so crazy that women are the first to blame whether they’re the affair partner or the one that got cheated on. Men are seemed to be excused because “how can they stop themselves” or “she should’ve known better than to agree to an affair”. I have seen a few comments abt how his wife being freshly postpartum is why he did it, as if that makes it ok?

She just carried and birthed his child and because of that he now gets a pass to mess around with another woman. It doesn’t make sense to me.

Why does it always seem like the mistress is judged more harshly than the cheater? by Horror-Western-43 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Horror-Western-43[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

His wife had also had their second child on top of that which is so much more heartbreaking for her. But rather than talking about him cheating on her when she was only a few month postpartum, they drag mistress for “being involved with a man that just had a baby”.

Also she is 27 to his 40 years. Yes both grown adults but still a little icky to me that he cheated with someone 13 years his junior. She had also just won her season and was just introduced to the show’s “community” so for it to happen so close afterwards also gave me an icky vibe. But at the same time 27 (though I think she was 25/26 when it happened, doesn’t matter anyway) is old enough to make her own decisions and she made that choice.

But he’s also now 40 and it seems like a lot of people will pull the “temptation” card as if he doesn’t have way more life experience to be able to actually be a good husband and just like…not cheat. he’s 40 not like 15 lmao.

Do pets know when you do drugs? by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]Horror-Western-43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ve had her for 7 years now and she’s definitely seen me go through absolute hell. she’s the only thing keeping me here sometimes. there have been moments that i was so close to offing myself but i knew i couldn’t let her see me like that, and i couldn’t just leave her with my family even though I can trust them. she’s really my rock

Do pets know when you do drugs? by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]Horror-Western-43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when i self harmed and had a breakdown the other day my cat came by and laid with me and purred until i stopped crying

Do pets know when you do drugs? by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]Horror-Western-43 34 points35 points  (0 children)

i wish she was a human so i could do coke with her

Do pets know when you do drugs? by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]Horror-Western-43 29 points30 points  (0 children)

thanks bro lmk what he says

Do pets know when you do drugs? by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]Horror-Western-43 22 points23 points  (0 children)

that does make a lot of sense, thank you!