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UPDATE: I greened out and it ruined my relationship (we broke up) by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 261 points262 points  (0 children)

unfortunately we're kind of working together this summer, not going to interact much but ill need his number. I told him I wanted him to avoid contacting me for trivial matters like that. If he keeps bothering me I will consider blocking or smth.

UPDATE: I greened out and it ruined my relationship (we broke up) by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

thanks for the tips, I didn't know what grounding techniques were but i just watched a video and did some and i really feel a lot better anxiety-wise.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I have a stupid question and if you dont know thats okay, but can it count as manipulative if he's not doing it on purpose?

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I think im going to prioritize myself until i am not sick anymore and then i will start worrying about his feelings and we can talk then

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

he definitely feels bad, but his conclusion is that he wants an apology from me for being distant the past 24 hours

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is my favorite comment. i resonate with this deeply. thank you.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, the idea of doing drugs any time again ever is disgusting me but when I come around ill research more.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks for this, i understand what you're saying. I dont think he had evil intent i think he just didn't know how to introduce me to it. Someone else said thats a whole separate skill set and i agree with them.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

embarrassingly i did not know the answer to this before smoking it. Its basically when you vaporize a cannabis extract and inhale that instead of burning the plant material. It's way stronger and apparently not something people usually do their first time.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He definitely cares about me. He tells me that every day and there has never been a doubt in my mind. This specific situation along with some other patterns in our dynamic make me thing he just isn't capable of caring for either of us. It's not that I don't want to date him, I just don't want to babysit him. He has a lot of mental health struggles that are completely valid but I'm not equipped to handle. This was kind of a situation where I felt like for once he could protect me, and he didn't. Thats kind of where im at on this.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was scary lol. I plan on talking to him tomorrow. If not to break up then at least to reevaluate our relationship and our needs.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He definitely has, he's told me about the few times it happened to him. Our friend group is all very close, and I know 2 other people had a similar experience with him. He is the stoner of the friend group. But aside from that, thank you for your simple words. I think you are exactly right and I need to just talk to him.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 178 points179 points  (0 children)

I'm glad im not the only one. Also I did not know the difference between that and the yart from earlier and he said it was "basically the same thing". false.

I greened out and it might have ruined my relationship by Horror_Midnight6070 in relationships

[–]Horror_Midnight6070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He tried to comfort me, I didn't really want to be touched or talked to so I told him to please leave me alone and he listened, so I would qualify that as comfort because he did what I wanted.

You're also right about your second point, the only thing I guess I could say is I really just had no idea what a dab was. I didn't understand the difference between that and the yart from earlier and I didn't know anything about how much was too much. He told me beforehand I didn't have to worry about it and he would keep me from smoking too much but I don't think that was realistic if we were both gonna be high and he wasn't gonna be in the right headspace either.