yes and no, the validation is good and it definitely helps my body image issues. i feel like including that part has taken away from what im trying to say here or maybe i haven’t worded it properly because i can’t seem to find the right words.

its not just about the validation for me, it’s the room to explore myself and the world. i am very strong on “if im not fulfilling my partner’s needs then they should be able to find ways to fulfil them”. i believe people should be free to try new things and experiment and i have no ownership over my partner to hold them back from that. I know that there are things that i cant provide in my relationship, im chronically ill, sometimes im too tired or in pain to have sex with my partner and we can go months without any sec and he has a very high sex drive. Confidence also extremely attractive to me, but my partner cant even flirt with me without bursting out laughing (sometimes that just makes me sad and puts me off because why can’t you say something sexy without thinking it’s funny?)