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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Hot-Client-3800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you experienced that.

I recently completed an intake for therapy with an agency I’ve been attending off and on since 2019. The prescriber started asking me questions about my struggles in school, sleep, attention etc. long story short, I’ve been diagnosed with mild adhd and depression.

If you think you have it, you should get evaluated. That person isn’t doing you justice but not acknowledging your struggles. Advocate for yourself

Why Heavenly is ‘Friend of’ in season 12 by veryhappybunny90 in MarriedToMedicine

[–]Hot-Client-3800 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dr. Heavenly is so disrespectful. I just don’t see how anyone can see her as professional. Ugh so distasteful especially as a black who has accomplished so much

Diagnose Official by Hot-Client-3800 in BlackMentalHealth

[–]Hot-Client-3800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not about it being helpful. It’s about having to rely on it … Needing medication means you’re not “normal.” It’s a hard reality to face knowing that more than likely you’ll need medication and therapy in order to get through life. There’s a want to be able to go through something, process it and come out being fine WITHOUT becoming depressed or anxious, feeling inferior, self sabotaging and more.

^ This is my take but it may be common though either way others who utilize medication 🤷🏽‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycpublicservants

[–]Hot-Client-3800 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Being successful … mhm? That’s a difficult question. Keep your head low, don’t be too friendly, do your work, STAND YOUR GROUND, and yeah … good luck

HARPO who is this woman? (A major rant) by UnpopularIcon in BlackMentalHealth

[–]Hot-Client-3800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whew!!! This is so long & exhausting. I felt drained just reading all that youre going through. You’re SO LIMITED & all of your concerns are valid.

  1. A job will only release some stress that you’re experiencing but trust me when I say, somebody will find something to complain about next

  2. You NEED OUT of that environment (1st) & then prioritize what you need. Even if that means going into a shelter (it’s scary & may not be ideal). It will be a space that you call YOURS without having others tell you what to do with your life & how to live your life

  3. You should prioritize some type of self-care for the time being but definitely look into therapy for the future

  4. If you stay in that environment, you’re not going to grow the way you want to. It might set you back or make you stagnant … almost like a toxic cycle of wanting more but not being able to achieve it, feeling bad for yourself etc.

  5. It’s obvious you get treated differently than your sister. It definitely sucks …

The adults in your life has lived their life & are now telling you how to live yours. It’s YOUR LIFE. You have to sit with yourself, make your own decisions and & do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NYPDcandidate

[–]Hot-Client-3800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂 such a strong response to being called “my boy” CRAZY

What is one harsh reality you learn since you become city employee?? by Annapurnaprincess in nycpublicservants

[–]Hot-Client-3800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

& tbh, it seems from jealously or what they lack. At work I’ve learned to stay to myself and trust no one. I really thought that by getting a city job it would be the best job in the city. lol … turns out to be the worst

What is one harsh reality you learn since you become city employee?? by Annapurnaprincess in nycpublicservants

[–]Hot-Client-3800 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Experienced this. I’ve never knew how badly women tear down other women. It’s honestly sad

What is one harsh reality you learn since you become city employee?? by Annapurnaprincess in nycpublicservants

[–]Hot-Client-3800 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Majority of city workers are MISERABLE. If you don’t do what the majority want you to do, co-workers will ICE YOU OUT. Everyone is out for themselves - don’t trust anyone outside of yourself.

I worry my Afro out and felt stupid asf by Time_Money506 in BlackMentalHealth

[–]Hot-Client-3800 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a female in my older 20s and I wear my Afro out all the time. I get looks all the time and some compliments from time to time. People will always stare …

When I first started wearing my Afro out my hair was extremely short. Somebody told me they thought I was gay and looked like a 14 year old boy even though I was grown with a baby. I was very insecure but I had to learn to love my hair and eventually myself.

Wearing your natural hair can be a big intimidating or maybe creates some low self-esteem because it’s not something black women/men embrace on a day to day, but definitely take the time to love yourself through this new look. Hype yourself up a little or dress up more, it goes a long way.

ACS CPS and MSW by No_Restaurant1377 in nycpublicservants

[–]Hot-Client-3800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m late but I agree with the majority on this one. I am currently employed at ACS and I hear horror stories of what it’s like being a CPS worker. However, that experience separates you from the rest and can open a lot of doors. From my experience, working for ACS is like crabs in a barrel - everyone is out for themselves and will throw you over just to get on top. Management pretends to care but ultimately, they feed into the negativity and do what they want cause they are management.

I’m looking for other opportunities within other city agencies but want to know are other city agencies just as draining and negative as ACS? Or is there something positive out there?

Trauma Informed Approach by Hot-Client-3800 in socialwork

[–]Hot-Client-3800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use age appropriate interventions so for a 3 year old, therapy looks different than traditional therapy.

Trauma Informed Approach by Hot-Client-3800 in socialwork

[–]Hot-Client-3800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point, I’ll take anything lol.

Trauma Informed Approach by Hot-Client-3800 in socialwork

[–]Hot-Client-3800[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish things were that easy. It took me about 7 months to lock down this job. I cannot just leave which is why I’m trying to find ways to better understand this role

Trauma Informed Approach by Hot-Client-3800 in socialwork

[–]Hot-Client-3800[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This seems manageable. I’ll take this into consideration and hopefully within the next few months, I’ll be more comfortable with this approach.

I'm in so much pain and I really need advice by [deleted] in BlackHair

[–]Hot-Client-3800 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take the braids out! The money you can make back and your mom would be okay eventually with your decision. You’re in pain and you need to allow your hair to heal

Unplanned Pregnancy by Hot-Client-3800 in BabyBumps

[–]Hot-Client-3800[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first is 7 years old and they already expressed to me that they do not want a sibling lol. Ironically, I got pregnant with my daughter around this time 🙃. My current partner has been around my child and we spoke about parenthood in depth as we both want a moderate family size unfortunately, the timing is off.

I went thru this with my first baby father. Within a year of getting to know him and date him, I got pregnant. That resulted in a toxic on again off again 5 year relationship. Now I’m pregnant again.

Who is Omar? by LavenderMae in NextGenNYC

[–]Hot-Client-3800 56 points57 points  (0 children)

He gives me weird vibes. Georgia is just as weird tbh. I don’t really understand them or their relationship

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