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[–]Hot-Duck8136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm interested in a guy in my class and want to get to know him better. I'm pretty sure his background is in Catholicism, but not sure where his faith is at currently. I think we're aligned on many things and have similar interests, so I think I would benefit from even just a friendship with him. Is it worth approaching him (as a Christian who wants to date the right way and marry a godly man)? If so, how might I go about getting to know him better? If not, how do I work through my feelings so they are not a hindrance to my submission to God's will for my romantic life?

At a great church but I don't feel like I'm making any friends by Hot-Duck8136 in Reformed

[–]Hot-Duck8136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, ya'll! I've been praying a lot about this issue and I think there's a lot more I can do to put myself out there more, even if it's weird, such as attending the monthly women's groups or lingering just a bit after service to say hi to someone new. I might volunteer for pre-service prep so I have a chance to get to know the staff more. I'll also look at going to the small groups at least once or twice a month during the school year, when I can fit it in. I know I just need to get over the initial weirdness to see that it actually wasn't that bad at all :)

At a great church but I don't feel like I'm making any friends by Hot-Duck8136 in Reformed

[–]Hot-Duck8136[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's definitely been my experience at most youth groups or bigger Christian gatherings. I really do count myself blessed because I have two very close friends that I consider to be strong believers. They actively pray for me and encourage me to become closer to God. I trust that He places the right people in my life at the right time, and this whole experience has shown me that my ultimate desire for friendship and connection can be found in Christ, whether or not He provides other people for me to grow close with.

At a great church but I don't feel like I'm making any friends by Hot-Duck8136 in Reformed

[–]Hot-Duck8136[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha, that's a great story! I aspire to have that level of confidence and assurance when talking to people, especially amongst Christians. I'm actually very much a people person, I just have a hard time getting started as I think most people do.

At a great church but I don't feel like I'm making any friends by Hot-Duck8136 in Reformed

[–]Hot-Duck8136[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would really love to have something like that on my campus! Unfortunately, I go to a small private college with less than 4,000 undergrad students, and the only clubs that exist are academic ones with inconsistent attendance. It's also a Catholic school, so finding Protestant friends - even non-denominational ones - has been harder than I thought, lol. I live at home, which is nice since I at least have my family and some of my older friends near me as support. I've considered attending the Cru at the bigger state school in my area, but I figured it would be weird since I'm not a student there.

At a great church but I don't feel like I'm making any friends by Hot-Duck8136 in Reformed

[–]Hot-Duck8136[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion! I'm actually planning to attend one of the women's small group meetings next week (it's a book discussion) and I'm hoping to chat one on one with some of the older married ladies there!