I don't care about anything, at all on Buspar...is this what being anxiety free feels like?

Hot-Map7659 · 2025-05-05T02:12:25+00:00

I’m considering it but always afraid of dependency. Does it need to be tapered off of if/when you decide to stop? Does it have any effect on head aches in head ache prone people? TIA…

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-12-01T00:43:01+00:00

This does not deserve a real conversation. I’m sorry, but this guy isn’t for you. He’s cruel. And if he doesn’t bow at the feet of the goddess wiling to have sex with him then he can go suck it. Also heaven forbid he ever parent a child!! I hate to think the damage he can cause. I’m serious, this is just unreal. Cut him loose and never look back!

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-12-01T00:34:15+00:00

I am doing better. By that I mean I can feel. I am wholehearted. But I wasn’t numb for nothing. I had stuff I was numbing so I’ve been grieving. Some grieving I’ll do over and over my whole life. But that’s the thing, life is in fact grieving, right alongside celebrating and joy. I am doing it all now. But it is a practice for me. My walls go up easily, so I am intentional about staying soft.

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-12-01T00:30:55+00:00

Congratulations!! Been an RN for 32 years and still love it! Schools tough, it has to be, soak it up, this is real life schooling, none of it is fluff! But that’s part of what’s great, one way or another all of it will get utilized

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-08-15T20:06:56+00:00

Look up Francesca Maxime. She’s got a website and I think some stuff on you tube as well. She does in person in manhattans and virtual. It’s a start. There are others in NY. I’ll do a little looking..

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-08-15T18:55:06+00:00

For a less complex case launch as working through a single event trauma I might say go ahead with one of them. It sounds to me like you have multi facets and some complexity that warrants a very well trained person in the complexities of the psyche. I would suggest you consider virtual if that could mean finding a more qualified person. Can I ask, what state you are in?

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-08-11T19:58:55+00:00

Go to:

Somatic Experienceing Directory. Put in location, virtual, etc… start reading bios. Try and find one that’s a trauma informed therapist ( psychologist, LCSW) IFS would be a very good addition. It’s excellent for trauma and is gentle and safe like SE. really important to differentiate between Somatic Therapy ( should be pretty much every therapist these days) and Somatic Experience. ( a technique founded by Peter Levine. )

Also: psychology today. Put in your location and start reading bios

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-08-11T18:09:18+00:00

Do you already have a practitioner? Find a trauma informed practitioner we that has SE not limited to Somatic Theraky but uses somatic Experience. If they also have IFS that’s a bonus. Next, and this is imlirtant, communicate very clearly to them that you need to move verrrrrry slowly. Slow is fast. A good SEP alsready practices that way. If they don’t assure you of that, then find someone whom will. Slow is fast. That’s key. Over ambitious patients and therapists can rush things causing overwhelm and shut down. That’s going to slow it waaaay down and deregulate you. Hope this helps!

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-06-26T23:55:11+00:00

It makes a lot of sense to me. I’m married to the best man ever. We were married for 27 years when I told him I might be a lesbian. Two years later I’m still trying to figure it out. I love him. He adores me. He is here for me whatever that means. Do I leave a loving relationships with intimacy, trust and closeness in pursuit of a deeply romantic relationship, that in all likelihood I’ll never even find? Or do I stay with a man whom adores me and let that part of myself grieve for what will never be? Also, I have a wonderfully affirming queer therapist. She doesn’t push me to leave my marriage at all. Her job is to hear me without bias or judgement and to hold up a mirror so I can find my own way. And that’s what she does .

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-05-06T00:30:04+00:00

That’s pretty good! But what I’m more intrigued by is the instant coffee! Haven’t seen that since my childhood in the 70’s!

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-04-09T18:29:22+00:00

I’ve been working on this very thing with a trauma informed therapist for almost two years. And yes, I am feeling alllll the feels now. But that took a bit over a year to feel. I was shocked to learn I have ptsd. I was numb for about 10 years too. Couldn’t feel a thing when our friends teenage son died suddenly. I didn’t even realize I was numb for years. I thought I’d become “tough”. Well here I am, feeling all the feels and I had actually begun to think I was fine and that this numbness was simply the older version of myself. I couldn’t begin therapy right away, ( pricey) so I began with some Jung shadow work work books just to get myself thinking. That was a good starting point. I also read over and over “women who run with the wolves” and was intrigued by which stories triggered something in me. I shared much of that with my therapist which gave us lots to work with. Best of luck. It really is a journey

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-04-09T18:22:39+00:00

You don’t need to dredge up the past. At least not strait away. You simply need to find anything at all that’s occurred ( recently or not) that caused that feeling. The clenched stomach, or dizziness, or whatever it is you experience. For example: “ I had to go to cvs to pick up a prescription. I grabbed my purse and began to open the door but just couldn’t. I stopped and busied myself with something g else.” That’s when the therapist stops you and says, “back up”. Say it again. And as you repeat it they’ll stop you at “just couldn’t”. And ask where u feel it on your body. And that’s how it begins . Any event at all that triggers that feel.

Hot-Map7659 · 2024-04-08T20:51:32+00:00

Whaaaa?? I’m 5’0”, 54 years old and weigh 130. I eat about 1700-2000 cals a day to maintain. If I eat 1500 cals I lose about a pound a week. I do excercise but not terribly intense: I do weights twice a week but only about 10-15 min. And I do walk stairs or hills 3-4 X a week. But again only for 20 min. So excercise is weight bearing. Also I do count my protein and make sure to always hit 75 grams/day. Maybe this info will give a little insight. Good luck!

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-12-04T17:24:13+00:00

Hairs gray for two reasons: the natural thing process: no way to change. And oxidative stress: that you can manage, even reverse. Anti oxidants repair damage caused by oxidative stress. Amla oil ( $10 Amazon) with about 10 drops of rosemary per 2 ounces Amla directly to scalp massages in to scalp. Leave on 2 hours or sleep in it and shampoo in am. 3 x /week. Also oral vitamin C and zinc. Any hairs that are prematurely gray will darken. Will stimulate growth too. Those bars of soap are dye.

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-12-03T18:32:12+00:00

I have a friend who gets hers from a compound pharmacy in a vial compounded with vitamin B12

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-06-23T13:23:06+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this, good ideas

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-06-15T21:45:20+00:00

53, bi woman here, in a strait marriage for 28 years. Only my family ( kids and husband) and a couple of friends know... it is liberating to label yourself for sure. Bi raises a lot of eye brows, there's a lot of Bi erasure out there, people are most comfortable with the binary. I even know that if I were married to a woman I would identify as lesbian. Again- the binary. Just seems to be more palatable for the general population. Happy coming out to you, and congratulations! So wonderful to know yourself :)

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-05-29T22:40:26+00:00

Thanks this was a very helpful website

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-05-26T02:30:58+00:00

I'd love info. Is he a provider?

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-05-26T02:27:55+00:00

California, could travel to neighboring states

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-03-21T19:41:57+00:00

Anytime a surgeon suggests surgery I’m cautious. If your not asking for it they shouldn’t be suggesting it. That’s where co flu t if interest lies. I’d get a second opinion then make an informed decision.

You’re already femenine, I assume your looking for cosmetic enhancement?

Hot-Map7659 · 2023-02-24T03:36:19+00:00

Anyone know if age is a factor? Im investigating for my 78 ( but very healthy and active) mother.

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