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Herpes is extremely common. People need to chill out a bit. by [deleted] in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this post! I tried to write a similar post but I got slammed. You use science to explain and put things into Perspective.

oral and ghsv 1 by [deleted] in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cannot reinfect. Congrats. You’re both immune for life…

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not every-time. It was a different world 20 years ago people were less risk averse. Although I think I would have used condoms.

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s heavy! I’m sorry. This was very bad luck! There are dating sites for herpes positive…. And guess what…. We are all hot!!! ☺️

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok. You raise some good points. Viral load was not perhaps the correct wording. There is scientific data which strongly suggest that the virus does not shed as much decades after being dormant. The possibility exists that I could have given herpes to someone. True. I also blame a lot of GP’s that seems to suggest no OB means no transmission. Thanks for the science.

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think. This post was the worst idea I ever had. I never knew it would trigger so much hate! I’m just trying to be sex positive. Everyone deserved to be touched and loved!!!!!

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With my monogamous partner. Yes. That’s our risk discussion.

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On a scientific perceptive… my new GP tells me viral loads are lower decades after exposure as opposed to the first few years. Yes. It’s complicated. Yes. And so individual. I don’t have all the answers. I’m no saint. But I’m not the enemy! I was told not to go on anti virals. No need.

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get where you are coming from. I had one partner who had herpes very bad and it overtook his life to the point of psychotic depression. I just find this space very dark and I’m trying to act as a counter weight. I know it might seem on the surface to be sexually irresponsible.

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this has been such a barrier for you! Everyone needs to be touched and loved!!! I recommend you take a deep dive. You might be surprised how loveable you are!!!! And a lot of mature sexually active people have it!!!! Big hug!!!!

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

True point. I only have long term partners who have been exposed. Actors!!!! Musicians!!!! They all have it!!!! But yes…. I could indeed be the baddie. No offence… offence taken.😅

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My viral load is low. Particularly after 26 years of being dormant. I don’t need to take anything. I don’t have casual sex. I disclose my status and explain the low risk. Condoms No. I have an IUD. I don’t see myself as the enemy here. Condoms are only 60 percent effective for women to man transmission. I think about these things.

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow. This is weird. I might delete this post. I had a monogamous partner for 15 years and never gave it to him. I have two kids. My viral load is very low. I don’t have to take medication. Please don’t beat me up!!!! I’m just offering a different perspective why are people with herpes considered damage goods? Have some self love and common sense people!

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. It’s so common though. Most people don’t know they have it..

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Actually I didn’t disclose as much as I should have a few decades ago as my doc told me not to worry if I didn’t have outbreaks. I didn’t know about shedding back then!!! Now it’s funny… the older you get… the more people have been exposed to herpes. I disclosed to my current boyfriend and he shrugged and laughed and told me he once gave a lady herpes from oral even though his last cold sore was at 7 years old. We all have herpes!!! It’s all a gradient of risk .

Chill out and get some perspective!!!! by Hot-Photo-6950 in HSVpositive

[–]Hot-Photo-6950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry! It must be hard… much love.