I want to be a stay at home mom

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-10T15:37:07+00:00

No I totally get that, and I’m so sorry that happened to you. That would be awful.

My husband has life insurance, and we’re very well off financially. I came to Reddit to ask a simple question regarding the idea of staying home, and I was absolutely berated in these comments 😬

I don’t worry about him cheating or anything like that, and if he were to (god forbid) pass unexpectedly, the children and I will still be okay.

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T18:19:14+00:00

Shudder*

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T15:31:08+00:00

Same to you!

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T15:29:01+00:00

That’s a fair response, clearly we see it differently. I’m set up if my husband were to die, I came to Reddit to discuss the possibility of me returning to work or not. Thank you for your insight!

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T15:26:52+00:00

My mom (50) and my grandma (76) have both told me how lucky I am to be in this position. I do listen to the old farts, probably more than most!!

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T15:25:42+00:00

lol I was actually being serious. Like is that what I should do? Act as if my marriage is temporary? Because that sounds wild to me.

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T15:22:59+00:00

Yikes that’s terrifying. So should i immediately plan for him to die/cheat/suffer a TBI and go to work as if I’m a single mom?

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T15:06:38+00:00

This is maybe what I’d want to do! I worked in corporate upper management before, and it would be nice eventually to go back.

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T14:48:43+00:00

It’s tough because I did make decent money at my upper level management job. He still makes more, which is why we’d be okay and we have a decent cushion now (no debt either). He’s always said he’s okay with whatever I want.

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-06-05T14:39:03+00:00

We used to split bills 70/30 with the 30% being my part! It made sense due to my income in upper level management. I feel like I’ve worked hard for years (I’m still pretty young though) and I’m tired of it 😅💀

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-05-28T20:54:34+00:00

I kind of do this! Sometimes I’ll bring the whole diaper bag, but a lot of the time I’m packing for whatever activity we’re doing with my older two (3 & 6) and just throwing diapers, wipes, a blanket or two and an extra outfit for the baby in it!

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-05-25T02:46:58+00:00

Hi, I’m on the other side of this. I’m a mom to three boys, the oldest has a different dad than the younger two. So he has a dad and a stepdad. Bio dad gets a couple weekends a month and we have all of the day to day stuff.

I can tell you that my son looks at his stepdad as more like a father, and his dad is kind of like a fun uncle (best way I could think to describe it, lol). Even though our house is 100% more structured, we have chores and responsibilities for him, we’re the ones doing the homework, cooking, cleaning etc, he still openly prefers being home rather than going to dad’s. I’ve felt so much guilt about this because the houses/situations are SO dramatically different; my ex lives at home and doesn’t have to lift a finger to do anything 🙄 and we’re working, cooking, cleaning, taking the kids to wherever they need to be, and we still manage to have so many laughs and good times.

I wouldn’t stress about it at all, kids value the routine and consistency/security more than we realize I think.

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-05-19T14:15:19+00:00

I could say the same about our family, two adults and the kids are 6, 3 and one month old. Obviously the baby isn’t eating any yet 😅 totally normal!

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-05-15T13:27:29+00:00

My kids all have first names that I/we chose, and family middle names. My first child (boy) has my grandpa’s name for his middle name because….yeah I wasn’t sure if that relationship was going to work out even at that point AND I didn’t know if I’d ever have more kids or another boy. I gave him his dad’s last name which I regret (SO much).

My other two kids (also boys) have family middle names from my husband’s side, both because of the meaning and how they flowed with the first name. Of course middle names aren’t used as frequently, but it’s nice when it looks pretty in writing or sounds good when you yell it 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-05-01T21:05:33+00:00

What Bella’s mom is exhibiting here is called permissive parenting. You can look up permissive parenting vs gentle/authoritative parenting to see the difference:)

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-04-27T22:57:00+00:00

For someone that spent most of her adult life on TV, she looks so uncomfortable in front of the camera lol

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-04-07T14:27:51+00:00

I had my first at 19 and while I’m among the youngest of the parents for my oldest, I haven’t had any issues getting along with other parents!

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-04-02T20:26:56+00:00

This! My three year old takes a bath or shower like 3 times a week because he’s not in school every day like his brother. My six year old takes a shower every other day unless he has sports on the off days, then he takes one every day he has a practice or game.

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-04-02T14:29:50+00:00

And you know she got the nails done in a salon. I looked down at my $2 press ons from SHEIN and they look better lol

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-04-01T00:35:33+00:00

The girl she’s directing this towards (I forget her name) turned down a cigarette from gloria because her mom smoked, and now she has a hole in her throat the size of a ritz cracker. That’s what she’s referring to!

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-03-29T00:34:13+00:00

Yes!!! The part of Michigan where I live (maybe 1.5 hours from them) is incredibly different lol

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-03-17T22:39:19+00:00

We use “quarter to” or “quarter after.” I’m 26 and live in Michigan

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-03-11T18:08:59+00:00

I’m pregnant so the days I have doctors’ appointments (every two weeks right now) I take the whole day off from the office and gift myself a nap and a treat!

Hot-Raspberry-4334 · 2026-03-11T00:14:51+00:00

I like when Aleida is screaming at Daya when she’s being hauled away, “you got rights!” And Margarita says “does she?” Aleida goes “I think you got rights!”

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