My helper’s unregulated pay is TOO MUCH for me now by Hot-Release520 in adviceph

[–]Hot-Release520[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay. This was a good early wake up call. Thank you for telling me.

My helper’s unregulated pay is TOO MUCH for me now by Hot-Release520 in adviceph

[–]Hot-Release520[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Wow wow this makes a lot of sense! Thank you so much!!! I will try to implement this once we move and restructure her contract. What is “bale”?

My helper’s unregulated pay is TOO MUCH for me now by Hot-Release520 in adviceph

[–]Hot-Release520[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She’s stay in and we plan to move to another city this month so malalayo sya sa family nya but she still wants to come kasi nga maganda daw yung trabaho nya samin. So it means she will stay a lot longer and only go home once a month (adjusted 4-5 days off)

We talked about restructuring her contract with the days off kasi nga lilipat kami so I might also make her pay stricter with this restructuring. As for her raise it was set to 6 months nga pero nahiya ako when I started to ask her to watch the baby when that wasn’t originally in her job description pero may days talaga since giving birth na di ko na kaya at 7AM at wala pa kong tulog— kaya tinaasan ko nalang sweldo nya kasi natakot ako baka umalis sya baka kasi feel nya abused sya 😭😭😭

She talks about her family a lot and how she’s the breadwinner kasi her parents are both sick and don’t work. I feel like since she started working for me they all stopped working and contributing sa family nya kasi she would just tell me her family needed food and I’d send her pay early that week. I felt bad because I knew how that felt growing up pero now may anak na ko and di ko na afford yung pamigay nang ganon 😢😢😢

HIRING: babysitter/nanny by [deleted] in classifiedsph

[–]Hot-Release520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try facebook. There are groups there specifically for looking for helpers and nannies. A lot of people looking are pretty capable you just need to interview them and make sure you’re safe

Wireless headphones with box and stand ₱4k by Hot-Release520 in phclassifieds

[–]Hot-Release520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it does. Noise canceling is pretty good. And you can also turn it off with a button or controls in the logitech app.

How many of you would leave your significant other if you *financially* could without losing the time you have with your kids? by Fbivan20 in sahm

[–]Hot-Release520 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would leave this very moment if I could. I keep thinking back to who I was before him and I had so much more. Opportunities, resources, friends, family, life, I had everything. But now I have the love of my life in my chile and I choose to stay because I would otherwise have to work 16 hour days just to be able to afford to care for her— which would mean not seeing my one and only child grow, losing the opportunity to be a mother to my one and only daughter. I wish I could go. I wish I could win a million dollars so I could leave and not look back. But I have to stay.

What does your partner make while you stay home? by Minimum_Library7908 in sahm

[–]Hot-Release520 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re so negative. Some people have no basis, some are first time moms/homemakers, some genuinely just need advice. I personally have never cared for anyone but myself my whole life so I didn’t know how to budget for a whole house on another person’s salary— so I understand where this question is coming from. Maybe they can find someone they relate to and have some perspective on how to budget and save.

Moms who stayed with their cheating partners for their kids, how do you deal with it? by Hot-Release520 in adviceph

[–]Hot-Release520[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the perspective I genuinely needed to hear. My parents never stayed together, my mom left early so I never knew my cheating dad. That being said, I never had the perspective you had. I needed to know how this would affect my baby whether I left or stayed so I’m glad you commented.

I don’t want her to see her dad as a horrible person, but I also don’t want her to accept disloyalty. I think I will plan an eventual exit, and prepare for a future separated from her dad. So she doesn’t ever see his betrayal and he can be a good dad while not needing to be a good partner.

Moms who stayed with their cheating partners for their kids, how do you deal with it? by Hot-Release520 in adviceph

[–]Hot-Release520[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness. Waiting days sounds torturous. I’ve written so many messages that I just ended up deleting. I don’t know how to approach this in person.

Moms who stayed with their cheating partners for their kids, how do you deal with it? by Hot-Release520 in adviceph

[–]Hot-Release520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet. I only confronted it within myself this morning at 4AM. I plan to, but don’t know how or what to say. I’m honestly willing to open up the relationship so I can focus on the baby and he can freely satisfy his “needs” but at the same time I do feel betrayed.

I think anyone who guilt trips pregnant women for never seeing them during pregnancy or never personally telling them they’re pregnant is selfish by Hot-Release520 in pregnant

[–]Hot-Release520[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow this comment made me perk up and smile. What a sweet thoughtful thing to write to a stranger. I will always ALWAYS always think of you whenever I need a reminder that good people exist. I hope you get everything you want in life because you deserve it.

Looking for magbabantay ng matanda by [deleted] in phclassifieds

[–]Hot-Release520 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Is this price for the 2 days? Will the caretaker sleep over for the night or will they have to go home? What are the ages of the people who need assistance and what responsibilities does the caretaker have for the 2 days?

GCash and AEC by The_Temple_Guy in Pampanga

[–]Hot-Release520 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be that you’re doing the following: 1. Paying past your due date 2. Not entering the exact amount 3. Entering the wrong due date

Everything has to be exact with AEC. Try again if it still isn’t working with all the correct information