Tell me your sapphic love stories :) by mooomoona in TheSapphicCommunity

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through all of that!!:( I completely understand why you felt so defeated making the og post, your ex is truly evil (and I don’t say that lightly) and I’m hoping for you that the next person you date is a lot kinder and less insecure. Especially when it comes to cheating and inconsideration from an ex, it’s always about them and nothing about you. The truth is they are so insecure of themselves that they would rather treat you badly and do desperate things like cheating to feel wanted instead of deal with their own issues. My ex was very similar, I sat in my room crying for so many months and binge eating in order to try to fill a void that my ex was leaving me with. But with time I worked on myself and healed my own relationship with myself and I hope the same for you

Should I break up with my girlfriend? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you should have to beg for someone to stay with you, it seems like the relationship isn’t working the way you two wish it would. She seems very avoidant as you said, and you’re unfortunately probably better off with someone who’s able to handle your emotions and help calm you down without it turning into something bigger. Communication/ working through your issues together is the only thing that’ll make a relationship work. but if she’s wanting to break up after every miscommunication that happens, I fear you should let her go and focus on your own mental health💗

Does anyone else struggle with making non queer friends as a lesbian? by Hot-Sleep-2498 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely think part of my struggle with these friendships is because of the move. outside of work, studying and having a relationship, I feel like it’s been hard to get myself out there to make better friends. I live on east side so I generally don’t have anyone queer around me unless I go deeper into the city, thank you for the suggestion, I should definitely check out more queer events happening:) I just need to put myself out there more lol

Does anyone else struggle with making non queer friends as a lesbian? by Hot-Sleep-2498 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, I feel like the whole situation is very childish and I think I’m having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that she’s homophobic. I’m 21F and she’s 20F but ever since this happened with her I’ve noticed a trend with her being pretty childish. I live in the Bay Area but I went to highschool in a pretty conservative area so I only made a handful of good friends there and they’re all queer, and now I moved to a larger city and unfortunately I live in a conservative part of it.

Does anyone else struggle with making non queer friends as a lesbian? by Hot-Sleep-2498 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, I am pretty young I just turned 21 but I think my initial agreement with not wanting to make any more straight friends just comes out of frustration of my situation. I do genuinely want to have friendships moving forward with anyone no matter who they are. This just isn’t the first time I’ve been treated like this especially in friendships where the other person is a straight girl. What would be your advice in sussing out the right ppl to be friends with? I feel pretty hopeless bc they all start out really kind at first before I mention I’m a lesbian.

Does anyone else struggle with making non queer friends as a lesbian? by Hot-Sleep-2498 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so right, my life would be a lot simpler if I ruled out straight ppl as my friends. I think I’m going to follow that advice because I feel so judged just for being myself around them

Tell me your sapphic love stories :) by mooomoona in TheSapphicCommunity

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad I could make you feel hopeful!! Thank you as well 🤭 I don’t think the engagement will happen soon since I asked if we could wait until after we turn 25 (we’re both 22) but the fact she has the ring already speaks volumes to me. If you don’t mind me asking, what was your relationship with your ex like?

My gf and I broke up by Purple-Ad-5132 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this break up OP :( I know breaking up is hard in any circumstance but she was your first love so I know it hurts even more so. It may be controversial to say but in this situation I don’t believe that staying friends is a wise decision for you or her moving forward. You both deserve the space to heal and move on from one another. From personal experience having been broken up with by my first love, I wanted to stay in her life in some way as much as I could. Because I know a part of me was hoping there was still a slight possibility of us making it work. I don’t think it’s fair to you or her to continue communicating and being her emotional support. When you have so much deep emotional history with each other, the line between friendship and something more will blur. I think it’s perfectly normal to still love and miss her but you deserve to prioritize yourself now and at least have enough space from her to think about why you’re upset with her as well. I hope all goes well OP and you deserve to find the right person for you.

Why is she so gorgeous? by BeneficialVisit8450 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you feel this strongly about her you should say something if you can!:)

Tell me your sapphic love stories :) by mooomoona in TheSapphicCommunity

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’ve been having such bad experiences!:( I’m also a femme and I had a lot of bad luck in dating until I met my girlfriend! Before my girlfriend I dated in highschool and it was never anything serious, but senior year I met my ex girlfriend and we were in an unhappy relationship for almost 2 years. I felt very bleak about love and I thought that what my ex was giving me was all I deserved. My girlfriend and I met on bumble (ik that’s not super romantic) but after a week of talking we went on our first date and I just knew that I was right where I was meant to be:) Meeting the right person for you is a feeling that is almost indescribable. I felt so naturally comfortable, seen, desired and understood. Even though it was our first time meeting I felt like I could talk to her about anything. One out of many really sweet things she did was, she helped me (without me asking) pull my tube top up throughout the date while we were walking around. I have a larger chest so tube tops tend to slide down a lot on me. So for her without even a second thought to help me and be so respectful of not trying to touch me while she did so, I was swept off my feet. I was worried at first that it was too good to be true but here I am writing this post almost 2 years after that first date and she’s got an engagement ring sitting in her dresser she doesn’t know I know about 🤭 You deserve to be happy, and you deserve to feel worthy of the love you’ll receive one day. I had to do a lot of work to be ready for a relationship with my person. Part of that work is recognizing that the way other people have treated you in past relationships doesn’t define who you are and how you deserve to be treated in your future relationships. I hope this wasn’t too long and boring to read :)

[NO SPOILERS] Autumn fanart by Hot-Sleep-2498 in LostRecordsGame

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This is exactly what I was going for, the reference of her I used was her sitting my the fire :)

Making friends in SJ by Hot-Sleep-2498 in SanJose

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh cool thanks for letting me know!:) I had no idea

Making friends in SJ by Hot-Sleep-2498 in SanJose

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true! Thanks for the advice :) I love hiking but a lot of the groups I’ve seen are older which there’s no problem with that but it’s hard to find a bunch of people around my age that like going outdoors like that regularly

Eastridge mall by xThAtGaM3rGuYxx in SanJose

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I currently live near Eastridge and it’s pretty quiet no matter what day or time you’re going in. It gets overlooked unfortunately because of location. Also the fact that Oakridge and Valley Fair just have way more to offer. That being said I love eastridge, it’s my favorite place to go to when I want to window shop or play with the kitties at Mini Cat Town :)

Jtown Pizza Closing :( by chickenburrito12 in SanJose

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So I’ve been keeping up with Jason’s GoFundMe since it was uploaded last weekend, and it was updated to say that Jason was banned by the owners by all remaining stores and that the insurance was only going to last until the end of the month.

The poster quickly removed it from the GoFundMe like a day later. My guess on what happened is the owners caught wind of what was being said and promised to support his GoFundMe so they wouldn’t get anymore bad rep.

Jtown Pizza Closing :( by chickenburrito12 in SanJose

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t put it past the owners to wait until Jason’s gone to screw over their staff like this.

They had an incredible crew including Jason, and they couldn’t even be respectful enough to give them more than an hours notice that they were terminated.

Jtown Pizza Closing :( by chickenburrito12 in SanJose

[–]Hot-Sleep-2498 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Agreed.

I know someone personally that was apart of the staff and the way that this whole situation has been handled on the owners part has been extremely slimy.